Adding two more categories…

Adding two more categories :

Last date for submission of posts links – September 10th.

38. Indian Culture and Moral Police.

39. Contraception.

Click here to find a complete list of categories in which posts can be submitted for Tejaswee Rao Blogging Awards.


Two more categories added.

Added on Sept 6th (Thanks Unmana)

36. Women and finances.

37. What’s in a woman’s name?

Now there are 37 categories.

Please click here to read the complete list of categories for Tejaswee Rao Blogging Awards.

Please bear with frequent updates, I am trying to avoid leaving out any categories which might be relevant.


Tejaswee Rao Blogging Awards:Last date September 10th

Tejaswee Rao Blogging Awards.

Last date for submission of entries Sept 10th.

The winners in each category will be announced around end-September.

Finally, any two entries, from any categories which the judges feel should be read by as many people as possible, win cash prizes of Rs 10,000/-  each.

Please click on the category name to submit an entry.

Do leave a comment if you have any suggestions or queries.

1. Feminism is good for the society.

2. Female Foeticide.

3. Girl Child/Daughters

4. Child Abuse

5. Teenage Issues

6. Street Sexual Harassment

7. ‘Aww’ -Inspiring parenting moments.

8. Sexual Violence.

9. How important is it for a girl to Get Married and Stay Married?

10. Joint Family and Indian Daughters in law

11. The Joru Ka Gulaam (The JKG)

12. Working Women

13. Homemakers/SAHM (Non-earning working-women)

14. All women want to be mothers.

15. Parenting.

16. Honor Killings and the concept of Honor.

17. Divorce

18. Dowry

19. Domestic Violence and Verbal Abuse

20. Books, Ads, TV Serials and Movies against (or not!) gender stereotypes and bias.

21. Relationships Gyaan

22. Gender Stereotypes and SAGS

23. Senior Citizens

24. Animal Rights

25. Mythology, Traditions, Religion (and how they interpret women’s place in society).

26. Social Crimes Against Women – Posts that cover more than one social issue, like widow burning, FGM, sex selection, dowry, victim-blaming, honor killing etc

27. Oppressive Customs

28. Inspiring Stories

Added on Aug 5 2011

29. Arranged Marriages.

30. Love Marriages (Choice Marriages)

31. Indian Family Values.

32. Sexist Language and Jokes, indicate a Sexist Mindset?

33. LGBT Issues. (lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender issues)

Added on Sept 5th

34. The way a woman dresses…

35. A list of blogs that deal with Gender issues, women’s empowerment, girl child  etc.

Added on Sept 6th

36. Women and finances.

37. What’s in a woman’s name?

Added on Sept 7th

38. Indian Culture and Moral Policing.

39. Contraception.

Tejaswee Rao Blogging Awards

Tejaswee Rao Blogging Awards.

Please submit entries in appropriate categories, read details about the categories and submit posts here. [click]

Last date for submissions: Sept 5th

The winners in each category will be announced  around end-September.

Two entries that the judges feel should be read by as many people as possible win cash prizes. (Will announce the details at the earliest).

Thank You.

Last year, these days.

Last year on 27th July I had commented on Bhagwad’s blog about a nightmare I once had. After writing a long comment describing the nightmare I had read it out to Tejaswee who agreed that it didn’t make sense to describe the entire nightmare where I was alone in a dimly lit house, extremely sad, thinking about her who had been dead for a while and I had been wishing (just like we do when we are awake) that her death was a nightmare. And I had hugged her lightly and grumbled about why I remembered that horrible nightmare. Two days later the nightmare had started unfolding in real.

These days are difficult and what we were doing last year is very clear in memory. A part of me feels not talking about it is better because once we start talking it is difficult to distract ourselves with something else. But I also don’t want to not remember and it’s only getting more difficult each day. On 29th Tejaswee had come back from college and complained about how boring it was to not live inside a complex, and then a friend, G had called.

(G was her room mate in the PG where she stayed until we moved to Delhi, and had moved out after she had contracted dengue in 2009. I always thought Dengue was like Malaria, I had worried about Swine Flu.) G asked her if she would like to go with her to M Block Market and I told Tejaswee she had got her wish and that her  life need not be boring even if we did not live inside a complex. She had taken her blue bag and much later I found the receipts of what they ate and bought in the market on her last healthy, happy evening.

Later that evening she started having very high fever, very suddenly.

On 20th, last week, Son remembered she had danced in the rain in her college and he feels that was when dengue started. I didn’t even want to think about this. And many times I manage to successfully focus on other things, like the fitness regime for the Manali to Leh Bicycling Expedition (A doctor I consulted with said six months, not two and half months would have been better to prepare for such an expedition, but that I should continue exercising and go).

An old friend called, when she called last she had compared me to other parents who have lost their children and ‘moved on’, this time she said the way I said Hello on the phone had changed, she felt we could no longer talk like we did in the past, that I was a different person now. I tried to explain why it was not possible to be the same person. Did she understand that it was not just the loss that hurt but the experience of watching her die, and not being able to comfort her and keep her alive. She did, but she wanted everything back to normal. What I liked was that she thought that was possible.

One of the things that has changed is the realization that the entire universe does not really conspire to make our wishes come true. Suddenly one could see that there was something wrong with the theory of a benign, loving creator always taking care of their creations. I had stared at the night sky outside the ICU and willed the universe/creator to do something… And yet there was this desperation to be convinced that she is still there is some form somewhere, and that we will meet again.

I want her to be there around me in some form and one way is to talk about her (which I am able to do, not about her death, but her life.) A very dear young woman I have never met (and who has never met Tejaswee!) writes regularly to me, and she recently wrote about wanting to join the college Tejaswee went to, and then later about seeing her name in the college prospectus – where Tejaswee Rao Scholarship was mentioned. I can’t appreciate her emails and emails from friends in the blogosphere enough.

Words can change how we look at anything. Another blogging friend asked if we were planning to do something on Tejaswee’s  death anniversary and I wrote back completely believing that these days would be spent just trying not to relive what we had no control over.  I am grateful to him for suggesting we do something in her memory instead.

So I would like to announce Tejaswee Rao Blogging Awards. Please click here to submit your entries, do take care to submit them in the correct categories.  The winners in each category will be announced  around end-September.

Two entries that the judges feel should be read by as many people as possible will win cash prizes. (Will announce the details at the earliest).