Finally announcing Tejaswee Rao Blogging Awards – Cash Prize Winners.

These three posts win cash award of Rs 10,000/ each. Congratulations to Vidyut, Nandini and Careless Chronicles  :)

Please read their posts if you haven’t done that yet.

Biology vs. Culture DEATHMATCH!  - Nandini

How to be a Sanskari Bahu – Careless Chronicles

My experience with Domestic Violence-  Vidyut

Read all the amazing TRBA winning posts here, Feminism by Indian Bloggers.

List of bloggers who have given their permission for their winning posts to be included in the eBook and print book – here. Please let me know if there is any error.

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I would also like to link to a very relevant and powerful post – not by an Indian blogger but it describes our society.

Rape Culture 101- Shakesville

(Readers in India who are not able to access comments on other posts on this blog, try this Fix for Comments Not Appearing in India.)

Adding the TRBA Badge or any image to your WordPress or Blogspot blog sidebar.

Some of the TRBA 2011 winners have requested for step by step instructions for adding the TRBA Badge to their sidebar. I hope these instructions help.

1. For WordPress blogs

Go to Dashboard

Click on Appearances

Click on Widgets

Go to a box called ‘Image’,

Drag it to the sidebar (Main Sidebar, Footer Area One, Footer Area Two whichever you choose).

This is how it looks,

Add this is how you fill it,

Widget Title – Tejaswee Rao Blogging Awards 2011

Image url – https://indianhomemaker.files.wordpress.com/2011/09/trba2011.jpg

Alternate Text – TRBA 2011

Width – 375  Height – 381

Link URL (when the image is clicked): – https://indianhomemaker.wordpress.com/feminism-by-indian-bloggers/

Find more information here – http://en.support.wordpress.com/widgets/image-widget/#image-widget-alt-text

Instructions for adding the TRBA Badge for Blogspot Blogs.

1. You can save and upload the image as shown below.

i. Save this Badge (click) on your Desktop as TRBA2011.jpg

ii. Go to Settings => Layout => Add Gadgets => Picture

This is what you see,

Fill in as shown above (or the way you prefer)

Click on ‘Browse’ to add a picture you have saved on your Desktop as TRBA 2011.jpg

Click ‘Save’!
You are done :)

2. Or if you would rather not save the image on the computer, here’s a short cut.
i. Go to the next box,

‘From the web. Paste an image URL below.’

ii. Copy and paste this Image URL,

https://indianhomemaker.files.wordpress.com/2011/09/trba2011.jpg

An image should appear.

iii. Click on ‘Save’. 
I hope this helps :)

3. The same Image URL can be used to add the TRBA Badge to blog posts.

Feel free to ask if there are any other questions :)

How do you like the idea of compiling all the winning posts into an ebook?

How do you like the idea of compiling all the winning posts into an ebook? What do you think of Mr G Vishwanath’s idea?

IHM,

I just started copying and pasting all the award winning blog posts into a text file.
I am including the Category, the title of the blog post, the author, the date and the link,  followed by the full text of the blog post.
I am copying and pasting simultaneously into  sets of files for each category.
All the blog posts of a particular category will be compiled into a single file.
I am also copying and pasting ALL the blogs in all the categories into a single large text file.

This is to enable me to transfer the whole thing to my Ipad and to my pen drive for off line reading, on any convenient device, even without an internet connection.It will be a great E book for me to savour in installments as and when I find the time and inclination. I propose to call  this e book “Tejaswee Rao Award winning blog posts – 2011″ and also include your blog site as the principal reference.

I can also prepare a pdf file of the contents later after some formatting but a text file will be smaller, and more easily readable on a variety of devices.

When completed I hope to have a fine collection of essays from a set of talented and unsung  writers who deserve a wider readership.

If any one else interested in a copy I will make it available after I complete it.
I may need a couple of days more to finish the task.

There is no commercial gain for me and I am doing this for my convenience and  the pleasure and satisfaction it gives me. I am willing to share it with any body without any consideration. I have all the time in the world to do this these days.

In case any blogger has an objection, I may please be alerted and I will exclude his/her contribution from this compilation. Since all the posts have already appeared publicly and and are freely available to any one I don’t think there is anything illegal in what I am doing. However it is better to be safe than sorry later.

Regards
GV

RESULTS: Tejaswee Rao Blogging Awards – 2011

This is the last and final  (and much delayed) part of TRBA 2011. My heartfelt thanks to all the judges and to blogging friends for all their support and ‘nudges’.

Some sub-categories added, because some very relevant posts fitted in these categories much better.

And finally here’s the final list of winners of Tejaswee Rao Blogging Awards Badge (Thanks once again for the badge Suranga!)

The two cash prizes are yet to be announced. Which two posts out of all the posts here do you think made an impact on you and deserve the cash prize?

Feminism is good for the society.

Biology vs. Culture DEATHMATCH!  - Nandini

The dreaded “F-word” – Chandni

Honor Killings

My honor is my curse. - Bhavia

Make the Khaps leave India – traitors to the Constitution. – Bhagwad Jal Park

Motherhood

Mamta: A perspective on roles of Indian Women. – Careless Chronicles

Woman,un-role yourself! – Usha

The judges also liked,

A little bit of laudanum in my life - Braja

Motherhood is worshiped. And mothers? (Category added later)

Motherhood Pain – SuKupedia

In the Name of Culture – Crescentia Kalpana David

Sexual Violence.

Convoluted sense of justice: Violence most foul - Shree Venkatram

Rape and dishonour- Usha

Sleeping with the enemy - Gounder Brownie

Street Sexual Harassment (Eve teasing)

Blank Noise -  Unmana

Stop calling it “eve teasing”. You are being molested, not teased. – The Restless Quill

Outraging the modesty – Usha

Its Time To Speak Up, To Act!! – Momofrs

Adjust – Shail

Do men believe that women ask for it? (Category added later)

Eve Teasing and why everyone is suffering coz of it - Aditya Nayak

The Woman’s Fault for dressing provocatively? - Bhagwad Jal Park

Slut Walk – Bikram

Insensitivity of the Society - Yogesh

Do men face sexual harassment?

The Pros And Cons Of Hitchhiking  – The Quirky Indian

Working Women

Sad but true – Chandni

The last bastion - Amodini

The judges also liked,

Why are there so few women leaders at the top of the workforce? – Richajn

Grrrr - Rs Mom on Women’s Web

Surviving in a man’s world – Meera’s reflections

Homemakers/ SAHM/ Non-earning working women

The ‘home maker’ stereotype – Sangitha

Conversation Starters- Stars in my eyes

Never! I don’t want his money! – Preethi  (Women’s Web)

How much are you needed? – starsinmeyes

Domestic Violence

How Abuse Begins? - Desi Girl

Some thoughts on Domestic Violence - Shail

Girls learn to say No - TBG

Special mention: http://vawawareness.wordpress.com/

Marital Rape (Category added later)

The darkness of marital rapes – Madperiodwoman

My experience with domestic violence-  Vidyut

Female Sexuality in Patriarchy (Category added later)

The Dirty Picture- Female Sexuality vs Patriarchy - Towards Harmony

Relationships Gyaan

I only get jealous because I love you  - Preeti Shenoy

Awww – Grounder Brownie

Your Rights in A Relationship - A Desi Girl’s Guide to Relationship Survival

A woman is a woman’s worst enemy?  (Category added later)

Desi Bahus :Gladiators in an arena - Desi Girl

Desi Women’s Friendships: Explore the Dynamics – Desi Girl

All the Old Knives - Gounder Brownie

Animal Rights

Animal Torture – I’m a Nazi…and so are you – Bhagwad Jal Park

Aggressive dog? Tips to handle… – Kalpana Mishra

No discrimination. - Sangitha

Oppressive Customs

Feminism and ‘Seven steps in the sky’  - Haresh Patel

“This is how we have always done it in this family.” – Usha

Of ritualistic torture and sadistic priests - Jiamata

A Happy Period? (Category added later)

Have a Happy Period – Imp’s Mom

Worshiping while Menstruating – Why not? - Deeps

Widowhood (Category added later)

“May your husband live a 100 years!” - Hamsini Ravi

The way women are viewed is still vaguely reminiscent of the sati days in some form… – Madperiodwoman

Inspiring Stories

Pickled and Preserved………जुनं मुरलेलं लोणचं … - Suranga Date

The Lady of Many Smiles -  Kamini Dandapani

LGBT Issues. (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender issues)

Wish - Pawan

Where do I belong? - Maitreyee Bhattacharjee Chowdhury

Encounters of the Touchable Kind – Suranga

The way a woman dresses…

Clothing the women - Shail

Yes means yes, no means no – The Slut walk - Chandni

Dressed to kill - Yuvika Chaube

Media and crimes against women.

Delhi girls are easy?  – Careless Chronicles

Contraception.

Let’s Talk about Contraception – Sue

No sex education for us. We’re Indian – Amodini

Social Crimes Against Women – Posts that cover social issues like widow burning, FGM, sex selection, Dowry, victim blaming, honor killing etc

Legalizing prostitution? - Sangitha

Remembering the half-saree – Usha

Child Abuse and CSA.

CSAAM April 2011 – Books as aids to empowering a child to stay safe from sexual abuse - Sandhya

Recognize Child Sexual Abuse - Desi Girl

How are we protecting our children?- Starsinmyeyes

Speak up! – Usha

And a special mention to – http://csaawarenessmonth.wordpress.com/

A list of blogs that deal with Gender issues.

This list will be updated.


1. Blogs that deal only with Gender Issues

Towards Harmony - Prathama

A Desi Girl’s Guide to Relationship Survival

Naari (Hindi) -  Rachna -

Divorced Doodling
Careless Chronicles

Chaya Path – Nisha

Madperiodwoman
2. Feminists in the Indian Blogosphere

Real Virtuality – Allytude

cynically.engineered

The charade goes on…

Gounder Brownie

A lot Whimsical,Just like me!

Unmana’s Words – Unmana

Shail’s Nest

To read all the winning posts in 47 categories, please click here.

Congratulations to all the winners.

Tejaswee Rao Blogging Awards II

All the categories in this list are directly related to our tradition of girl-child hatred. Traditional arranged marriages, dowry, Patriarchal Joint families, Indian family values, women and finances. Some will make your blood boil, some will make you think.

Once again my heartfelt thanks to all the judges for all their time and patience.

Tejaswee Rao Blogging Awards

Badge by Suranga Date

1. Indian Family Values

Makes me wanna scream – Careless Chronicles

New women in old marriages - Careless Chronicles

2. How Important is it for an Indian woman to Get-Married and Stay-Married?

Why marry? – Careless Chronicles

Yes I am single so? – Nirjharani

The judges also loved,

Logic versus Lagnam – Celestial Rays

Is marriage an overrated institution?? – Shail

3. Traditional Arranged Marriages

Arranged marriages: a subversion of feminism - madperiodwoman

Desi Marriage: Eligible or Ineligible Question – Desi Girl

The judges also loved,

Arranged marriages : now and then- Ranu Chakraborty

4. Dowry

“The only way dowry and related crimes will end is when parents value daughters as much as sons.” – Unmana

More Thoughts On Dowry. – Unmana

The Bridegroom Bazaar - Meera Sundararajan

5. Choice Marriages (‘Love Marriages’)

On love marriages and my story..- Pepper

10 tips to plan a successful elopement-cum-marriage - Abhi

6. Joru Ka Gulaam

Amodini – Of ghar-jamai jokes and their side-effects.

R’s Mom asks, What’s the big deal?

The Bald Guy doesn’t think it’s a big deal,

How I/We spent my/our Sunday - The Bald Guy

7. Women and finances

Unmana – On women and financial freedom.

Richa – Lady let the man handle your finances.

8. Divorce is not a dirty word.

Closing that chapter – just as if nothing happened – Careless Chronicles

Why is the divorce rate increasing? – Nita

9. Joint Families and Indian daughters in law

Please try to choose two.

In-Law Advice: What Husbands Should Do – Unmana

In-Law Advice: What Wives Should Do – Unmana

How to be a Sanskari Bahu – Careless Chronicles

Women have feelings, just like men do – Nita

Kahaani ghar ghar ki or insert a “K” serial  – Chandni

Joint Family versus Nuclear Family – R’s Mom

Can’t help being glad that we have a place like the Indian blogosphere!

Thank you and congratulations all – bloggers and readers. 

Next list coming up soon…

Announcing tomorrow…

Announcing tomorrow, the results for all the categories directly contributing towards making ours a culture that hates girl-children.

Which categories?

Do you think the Indian rigid, patriarchal Joint Family system has something to do with our not wanting to have baby girls (paraya dhan)?

Dowry everyone talks about but what about traditional arranged marriages, which facilitate dowry? In arranged marriages, a daughter’s parents are seen as inferior to the groom’s parents, and the female partner, the bride, as inferior to the male partner. It’s difficult to be traditional and still be proud of having girl-children.

So obviously this kind of marriages don’t make it easier for Indian parents to want daughters, why not just refuse to accept such unwritten, illogical customs ( or Family Values)? Because our  family values mandate that all Indian daughters be ‘married off’ by a certain age, within community and only to a groom who earns more than they do. This means traditional Indian women must do nothing that puts them at risk of not achieving this goal fixed for them.

It doesn’t end there. Another family value, once married a woman must stay married. Being happy for women, is traditionally seen as less important than staying married.

Women wanting happiness and freedom are seen as selfish (“unacceptable behavior”). It’s been like this for so long that one doesn’t even realize that it can and should change. And unless this changes, one will hear more of the disturbing stories in the last post.

Tejaswee Rao Blogging Awards – I

Tejaswee Rao Blogging Awards 2011 – I

I would like to convey my gratitude to all the judges for their patience and all the reading and all the exchanges of emails, and also a huge thanks to all those who helped with ‘tie breaking’.

I loved what a commenter said about sitting with a cup of tea and going through the posts in the list below. Do that :) Some of the posts will make you smile, some might appall you even as you smile (well…), some remind you that live and let live applies to immediate family too. Even to our daughters. But also, some will remind that change begins at home, with the way we raise our sons (Feminist sons). Nearly all of them catch your interest from the first line, and those few that don’t, still read them, there is something to be got from each one of these posts.

The initial plan was to choose around two posts in each category, but it became very difficult to choose just two. Please do help with that, I would love to hear which posts you liked and why.

What kind of posts make you think (or rethink)?

Do you like long posts? (Or don’t?)

Do you prefer personal stories?

How do you like statistics? (Is it ‘all just statistics’ or ‘everybody needs to read these statistics‘?)

How do you like sarcasm? And humor? Do you object to irreverence?

Which posts would you have chosen if you were one of the judges? (What we like or dislike says a lot about us...)

And finally here’s the first list of winners of Tejaswee Rao Blogging Awards Badge (Thanks once again for the badge Suranga!)

1. Female Feticide and Infanticide

The Pandas are Dying.- Gounder Brownie

The bad effects of too few women – Nita

2. Girl-children/ Daughters

Please do try to choose two :)

The feminist’s mother – Celestial Rays

Sons, anyone? – Rs Mom

Lessons From Sania Mirza Fiasco: Tips To Raise A Daughter - Giribala

Growing up female – Alankrita

3. Teenage issues and Sex education

Indian youth get their knowledge of sex mostly from friends, porno films and “self-reading”… Nita

Teenage Sex on the sly. Nita

When parents and teachers become the police – Meera Sundararajan

4. ‘Aww’- inspiring parenting moments.

The unseen scars – Celestial Rays

Little minds, big questions. – Suranga Date

5. Parenting.

Desi Parenting: Raising confused daughters – Desi Girl

Your Son today – My Husband Forever – SuKupedia

Sensitivity is Awareness : Are we ready for change? – Tikuli

5. Senior Citizens

Nuclear families/Elder care and such matters – RS

Pension Sarees and Security Blankets – Suranga

6. Indian Culture and Moral Policing

Please choose two :roll:

The war for women. – Neo Indian

Why does a woman need a man? – Usha

The culture vultures hate pre-marital sex – Nita

What’s your culture? – Suranga Date

7. What’s in a woman’s name?

The story of Alu and Gobhi. – Chandni

What’s in a name? – Khushi

The judges also loved,

An eternal S-walk….. - Suranga Date

Someone get me a gun – Chandni

8. Gender Stereotypes

Boys don’t cry. – Starry Eyed

Where Angels Fear to Tread – Gounder Brownie

The judges also loved,

The feminine side – Liberal Cynic

What Women Want: No, I’m Not Telling You. - Unmana

9. Mythology, traditions, religion and how they interpret women’s place in society

Draupadi – Episode 10 – Manasa

Women of the world rise it is time to invent a new God(s). – Desi Girl

Diwali – Celebrating the return of goddess Sita – Giribala

10. Sexists language, jokes and mindset

Of Virtue and Virility – Meera Sundararajan

Where you insult man by insulting all women – Shail

Outraging modesty - Usha

11. Books, Ads, TV, Movies…

Girlz – Gounder Brownie

All it takes to be a doormat, eat Kellogg’s! – Kiran Manral

Indian television and women – Amodini

Congratulations all :)

A Badge for ‘Tejaswee Rao Blogging Awards’ by Suranga.

I just got a mail that left me overwhelmed. This is what Suranga Date sent. I will say nothing else.

This badge will go to two best entries in each of these categories.

Click on the category to nominate a post, written anytime by anybody. 

1. Feminism is good for the society.

2. Female Foeticide.

3. Girl Child/Daughters

4. Child Abuse (and CSA)

5. Teenage Issues and Sex Education.

6. Street Sexual Harassment (Eve teasing?!)

7. ‘Aww’ -Inspiring parenting moments.

8. Sexual Violence.

9. How important is Getting Married and Staying Married for Indian women?

10. Joint Family and Indian Daughters in law

11. The Joru Ka Gulaam (The JKG)

12. Working Women

13. Homemakers/SAHM (Non-earning working women)

14. All women want to be mothers.

15. Parenting

16. Honor Killings

17. Divorce

18. Dowry

19. Domestic Violence

20. Books, Ads, TV Serials and Movies against gender stereotypes and bias.

21. Relationships Gyaan

22. Gender Stereotypes and SAGS

23. Senior Citizens

24. Animal Rights

25. Mythology, Traditions, Religion and how they interpret women’s place in society.

26. Social Crimes Against Women – Posts that cover social issues like widow burning, FGM, sex selection, Dowry, victim blaming, honor killing etc

27. Oppressive Customs

28. Inspiring Stories

29. Arranged Marriages.

30. Love Marriages (Choice Marriages)

31. Indian Family Values.

32. Sexist Language and Jokes, indicate a Sexist Mindset?

33. LGBT Issues. (lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender issues)

34. The way a woman dresses…

35. A list of blogs (Web Sites) that deal with Gender issues, women’s empowerment, girl child  etc.

36. Women and Finances

37. What’s in a woman’s name?

38. Indian Culture and Moral Policing.

39. Contraception (The best thing to happen to women?)

Last day today!!!

So if you have not yet submitted your entries for Tejaswee Rao Blogging Awards, do so now!!

Here are the 39 categories you can submit links to.

Click on the category to nominate a post. 

1. Feminism is good for the society.

2. Female Foeticide.

3. Girl Child/Daughters

4. Child Abuse (and CSA)

5. Teenage Issues and Sex Education.

6. Street Sexual Harassment (Eve teasing?!)

7. ‘Aww’ -Inspiring parenting moments.

8. Sexual Violence.

9. How important is Getting Married and Staying Married for Indian women?

10. Joint Family and Indian Daughters in law

11. The Joru Ka Gulaam (The JKG)

12. Working Women

13. Homemakers/SAHM (Non-earning working women)

14. All women want to be mothers.

15. Parenting

16. Honor Killings

17. Divorce

18. Dowry

19. Domestic Violence

20. Books, Ads, TV Serials and Movies against gender stereotypes and bias.

21. Relationships Gyaan

22. Gender Stereotypes and SAGS

23. Senior Citizens

24. Animal Rights

25. Mythology, Traditions, Religion and how they interpret women’s place in society.

26. Social Crimes Against Women – Posts that cover social issues like widow burning, FGM, sex selection, Dowry, victim blaming, honor killing etc

27. Oppressive Customs

28. Inspiring Stories

29. Arranged Marriages.

30. Love Marriages (Choice Marriages)

31. Indian Family Values.

32. Sexist Language and Jokes, indicate a Sexist Mindset?

33. LGBT Issues. (lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender issues)

34. The way a woman dresses…

35. A list of blogs that deal with Gender issues, women’s empowerment, girl child  etc.

36. Women and finances

37. What’s in a woman’s name?

38. Indian Culture and Moral Policing.

39. Contraception (The best thing to happen to women?)