Please watch ‘Tanu Weds Manu Returns’ :)

The movie passes Bechdel Test with flying colours. The Kanpur accent and Kangana Ranaut’s Haryana accent, the music, the story, the way it ends, and everything else about the movie are absolutely delightful.

And while we are laughing hysterically, the movie conveys –

A woman smiling, laughing, talking, taking a ride or drinking or dancing with a man – may or may not be in love with him.

That self reliance gives confidence.

That courage, confidence, maturity and just plain common sense are not dependent on the language ones speaks or the accent or grammar (etc).

That men grow up and old too.

Men have ‘marital status’ too – even if it not talked about in Indian movies, and is not socially required to be displayed.

Men don’t hate getting married – despite all the shaadi ke laddu jokes one hears about. Men even have ‘marriageable age’ – though one doesn’t hear much about such social pressures. The movie makes references to men’s ages, like the ’35 and desperate to get married’ and 40th birthday shirt.

Men are also advised to Get Married and Stay Married. But instead of praying or fasting, men are offered the option of trying violence as an outlet if the situation gets unbearable – like breaking tube lights in their living rooms.

That the Khaps are fools.

It’s a problem that men’s manliness depends on their Sperm Count.

Men gain weight too.

Tanu does many things that generally only men are permitted to do

1. Complains that she finds her spouse boring and demands that she be pleased.

2. Goes out and has fun with old friends although she is married and loves her husband. She also calls her best friend her soulmate.

3. Meets visitors wearing a towel.

4. Drinks.

5. Gets away with being unreasonable. [Disagree?]

Lastly I think Kangana Ranaut is the Amitabh Bhachchan or Madhuri Dixit of today – only better.

Do’t believe me? Take a look 🙂

Many of us are going to watch this movie more than once.

Four other recent movies that passed Bechdel Test. 

Margarita with a straw.

Piku

Dum Laga Ke Haisha

Queen

I am optimistic that the success of these movies means that we will continue to see more such works of art.

Related Posts:

Piku in Patriarchy.

Please watch Dum Laga Ke Haisha – where a man is asked to Please adjust and save his marriage.

Please watch Queen. Feels like our country is finally changing.

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“For every woman who is tired of being a sex object, there is a man who must worry about his potency.”

Apart from the obvious, better society being a better place to be in for everybody, what benefit has feminism got for men?

Well, feminism benefits everybody who is oppressed by Patriarchy.

Updated to add:   Of course there are men (and women) who are feminists and women (and men) who are misogynists.

This was shared by Chandan Saw on facebook, who shared it from here.

For every woman who is tired of acting weak when she knows she is strong,
there is a man who is tired of appearing strong when he feels vulnerable.

For every woman who is tired of being called “an emotional female”,
there is a man who is denied the right to weep and to be gentle.

For every woman who is tired of being a sex object,
there is a man who must worry about his potency.

For every woman who is called unfeminine when she competes,
there is a man for whom competition is the only way to prove his masculinity.

For every woman who takes a step toward her own liberation,
there is a man who finds the way to freedom has been made a little easier.

by Nancy Smith

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Jealousies and one-upmanship are sometimes seen as machismo.

An email from a Happily Married Indian Daughter in law…

Where is the opportunity for Indian men to learn the most natural thing in the world – finding a mate??

Shravan Kumar takes his wife to London to bring back her smile…

Hasee toh Phasee : When a Bollywood hero is an Emotional Dhakkan.

Wordless Wednesday: Last Warning!

This is the exact shade of pink!

So if you have not picked the tag yet, you know what to expect 😈

What tag? 🙄

Click below,

My Sins Against Gender Stereotypes (SAGS)“?

The most sinful SAGS will be announced on coming Wednesday, please publish your confessions latest by this weekend.

PS: Isn’t this picture a bit of a SAGS? After Pink Chaddi Campaign, it seems Pink has become a colour of protests everywhere 🙂

Note: Picture taken from TV. No offense intended to any colour or clothing.

Invitation to Sinners, to join group on Facebook

All Sinners Against Gender Stereotypes are cordially sinfully invited to click here and join SINNERS AGAINST GENDER STEREOTYPES (SAGS) on Facebook.

Please share the links to your SAGS confessions (posts about your ‘paap ka khulaasa‘)  on the Facebook page, so that other paapi like you can also read and find solace in knowing they are not alone in their ghor paap.

If you think such groups are blasphemous – kindly turn your ire towards Pinash whose idea it was 😈

Your ire for  terms Paapi, Ghor Paap and Paap ka khulasa may be directed towards,

Blue Mist – Paapi

Sandhya– Ghor paap

Sakshi – Paap ka Khulaasa

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