For NCP leader Asha Mirje.

Why don’t we see urgent steps being taken to help those who desperately need help understanding What Makes Men Rape?

When Asha Mirje asked ‘Is it necessary to go out after 6pm?’ [link shared by Sarika], she probably believed she was empowering women by sharing her wisdom. It’s quite possible that she is genuinely convinced that rapes would stop if women changed the way they live. She has probably never heard that India leads in sexual violence, worst on gender equality. It’s possible that she (like many, many others) thinks there is nothing to understand – and she is absolutely convinced that rapes are caused by women who are found  attractive by rapists who are not able to prevent themselves from raping, mutilating, setting on fire and killing the women and children they find sexually attractive.

But then why is she a member of Maharashtra Women’s Commission (MWC)?

Do you think this might help her?

Shared by Pallavi on facebook

More links for Asha Mirje:

Study finds 98% of India rape victims knew their attacker.

Yet another rape that was not about lust but about aggression, revenge and putting the victim in her place.

This is what rapists do when there is no fear of punishment.

The rapists often don’t see their actions as crimes, the police said, and don’t expect the victims to report them.

How Victim Blaming confuses rapists, police and the society about when exactly does non-consensual-sex becomes a crime.

Why should all acts of sexual harassment be taken seriously, even when there is no grievous physical injury?

How Indian women feel when they are being subjected to sexual crimes. How Patriarchy sees sexual crimes.


Don’t you think we should have a sex offenders’ registry of some sort?

What is the purpose of justice? Solace to the victim? A warning to potential criminals and prevention (or perhaps control) of crime and injustice?
How is justice served in this verdict? I share n’s concerns.

n asked in a comment,

IHM, in the light of the ‘juvenile’ rapist being let off [link 1, link 2] despite being convicted, don’t you think we should have a sex offenders registry of some sort so that we can protect our children and ourselves from monsters like him, rather than keeping his face covered?

Related Posts:

Justice Verma Committee is inviting solutions and ideas in regards to sexual harassment/ assault/ molestation/ rape.

What should be the sentence then if fast track courts come?

“Protection and empowerment are really different things and perhaps don’t always go together.”

How Indian women feel when they are being subjected to sexual crimes. How Patriarchy sees sexual crimes.

The rapists often don’t see their actions as crimes, the police said, and don’t expect the victims to report them.

Girl gang-raped in moving bus in Delhi

The Delhi Bus Gang rape victim died in Singapore.

How does Delhi – NCR Police define Rape?

A response to: Why we think women activists should change their attitude of “wear what you like”

“Sunitha Krishnan spoke in my kid’s school about violence against women, only girls were allowed in the audience.”

Sharing Dr Arun NM’s facebook status:

“Most of our ordinary school/ College campuses are factories for rapists with the level of sexism and restrictions to male-female interactions.

The other day Sunitha Krishnan, the renowned Social activist/rape survivor spoke in my kid’s school about violence against Women, only girls were allowed in the audience! The School authorities did not have the common sense to know that boys needed that talk much more than girls.

All of us, especially Dads, should have a heart to heart talk with their young sons about violence against women-about street sexual harassment , rape, gender equity etc etc.”

Updated to ask: What do you think were the school authorities thinking? Didn’t they think about how the boys would see this? Didn’t this convey to the boys that the responsibility of preventing rapes lay with those who did not commit rapes, and that the boys had nothing to do with prevention of rapes, and so the boys  did not need to hear or understand crimes generally committed by men on (generally) women and children? 

Five year old abducted, raped and tortured by neighbour : Delhi

Another disturbing news. And the crime is said to have been committed by a neighbor, around 30.

This five year old rape victim is struggling for her life.

… she was found battered and bleeding. She had been missing for three days.  Her cries alerted some of her neighbours, who found her in one of the flats in her building.

The suspect, who allegedly did not give her water or food, and mutilated her, is missing.

The child was reported missing on Monday.  When she was found, her father says the police offered him Rs. 2000 “to keep quiet”.  He said they advised him, “Thank God that she has been found alive.”

…injuries and bruises suggested that the rapist tried to strangle her and left her to die.

[5-year-old rape victim’s ordeal shocks and shames Delhi]

Another link.

Anger rises, protests spread in Delhi as 5-year-old victim battles for life

NEW DELHI: A 200 ml bottle and pieces of candle were inserted into the private parts of the five-year-old rape victim


The girl was abducted on April 15 and kept hostage for two days without food and water in a flat owned by the attacker, said to be in his 30s. He lived on the ground floor of the building in east Delhi’s Gandhi Nagar, in which the victim’s family also stayed, police said.

The girl, who was raped repeatedly, was rescued when members of her family heard her screams on Wednesday evening, police said.

“…offenders who raped unmarried (and virginal) women got higher sentences in contrast to men who raped married women”

Mrinal Satish, Associate Professor, National Law University, Delhi …examined all rape cases decided by all High Courts and the Supreme Court over the last twenty five years.

Let me share some bits from: Chastity, Virginity, Marriageability, and Rape Sentencing

The crucial question is: how do courts determine the appropriate sentence to be imposed on an offender?

What makes rape sentencing different from sentencing for other crimes?

In these imaginations, rape is not a crime against a woman’s sexual autonomy or bodily integrity, but an irreparable loss to her chastity, “modesty,” and social standing. A woman who has already “lost” her chastity and modesty by having sexual relations before or outside of marriage, is not considered to have suffered too much harm; and the perpetrator is therefore not required to be punished too severely.

Unlike laws of various other countries, Indian law does not require the prosecution to prove that the offender knew that the woman had not consented, or intended to rape the woman. The woman’s testimony that she had not consented to intercourse is sufficient. In fact, the Supreme Court has consistently held that conviction can be based solely on the testimony of the woman, and there is no need for any other corroborating evidence. However, the court has to be satisfied that the woman’s testimony is reliable, and she is in fact stating the truth. It is in the determination of the reliability of the victim’s testimony that stereotypes enter rape adjudication.

An important piece of evidence in rape cases is the report of the medical examination of the rape victim.

Another factor related to virginity is the perceived loss experienced by an unmarried victim, in terms of her marriageability. The Supreme Court has in a number of cases noted how rape adversely affects the chances of a woman finding a suitable groom. In this context, the Court has even held that the marital status of the woman can be a relevant factor in rape sentencing. It is not surprising then that offenders who raped unmarried (and virginal) women got higher sentences in contrast to men who raped married women. Further, courts tend to impose lower sentences when a victim who was unmarried when the offence was committed, gets married during the trial. Since the rape did not impact the victim’s ability to get married, the harm caused by the offence is discounted. An egregious example of this approach is the Supreme Court’s decision in Baldev Singh v. State of Punjab (2011), another gang rape case that got a lot of media attention. One of the reasons that the Court gave for reducing the sentence in this case was that the victim was now married.

2. I found a marked decrease in sentences in cases where no injuries were present on the woman’s body. Hence, unfortunately, the notion that a woman should physically resist rape makes its way into rape sentencing.

3. …courts consider acquaintance rape to be less traumatic than rape by a stranger. Offenders who were in a romantic relationship with the women they raped got lower sentences, compared to their counterparts who raped women they did not know. In cases of statutory rape where the under-aged girl had consented to intercourse, courts consistently imposed lower sentences on the offenders, based on the understanding that the young woman had otherwise “contributed” to the offence.

Girl gang-raped in moving bus in Delhi

What do you think made these rapists in Delhi so fearless?

Definitely the fact that they have hardly ever seen rapists being convicted and put in jail, and they have seen enough victims being shamed, blamed and named into silence.

Do you think our society really sees rapists as serious criminals? Many of us seem to see rape as something that happens when a rapist is not able to control himself. It seems we have special standards for judging sexual criminals, and rapists know this.

Links shared by Anil Singhal, Sandhya, Nish, Deepa and Anonymous Girl. 

NEW DELHI: A medical student in her twenties, who was traveling with her male friend in a whiteline bus from Munirka to Uttam Nagar area in west Delhi, was allegedly gang-raped by a group of men inside the moving bus and thrown off the vehicle near Mahipalpur in south Delhi on late Sunday night.

They boarded the whiteline bus from the bus stop to go to Uttam Nagar area near Palam where they reside.

The girl was gang-raped by people including the staff of the bus even as the driver drove around the city and her friend was brutally assaulted.

The duo were then stripped and dumped from the moving bus near Mahipalpur flyover.

The girl and the boy raised an alarm and the cops arrived. They were taken to the AIIMS Trauma Center for medical help.

The girl was shifted to Safdarjung Hospital later. Her condition is stated to be critical. She has abrasions and head injuries apart from the sexual assault injuries.

From here – Girl gang-raped in moving bus in Delhi


Delhi gangrape: Police release CCTV footage, identify accused.

Delhi gangrape: Police identify 4 suspects, bus found in a Noida school campus

The kind of videos young Indians need to watch.

Please do watch this video. (Not sure who shared it, please let me know if you did).

What made these four rapists think (if that’s what they really thought) that any girl would want to be assaulted by them? Are these young men dangerous social misfits or are they ‘gumrah’ (mislead) youth?

One of them says, “khud bulaaya aur dekhiyo kitna bhaav khaa rahi hai

(Rough translation: She herself invited us and now see how she is playing hard to get.)

If they could believe that any woman could want to be sexually assaulted, what kind of relationship do such men have with women in general? Also, with this kind of mindset, what kind of sex lives do they expect to have with their wives/partners? Do they believe sex is rape?

Ever heard young Indian men (or Indian men of any age) being taught that no matter what they hear the moral police or some women’s commissions, the Khaps, Taliban, some political leaders, some police officers, some school and college principals, some neighbourhood uncles and aunties etc say about women’s clothing and social life, women do not ask to be sexually assaulted?

And why were they not afraid of the consequences? What made them so confident that the victim would be silenced?

A screen shot:

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“There are some men who are more likely to be sexually aggressive than others.”

Sharing an email a young woman, a student, received from the Police Department.

Please note the part in block quotes. Why do you think we don’t read this more often?

Dear IHM,

I was reading your last few posts on rape and how the police reacted. That reminded me of an email I got from the police chief of my university in the US. Wonder how many years it would take for our police to react in a similar way.

“… The Police department is currently investigating a sexual assault… The victim reported she was sexually assaulted during a party. The suspect has not been identified. Anyone with information related to this incident should contact the Police Department.
The Police Department urges students to utilize some safety precautions as you plan and attend late-night events: limit attendance to friends and guests of friends, and identify reliable safety monitors who can alert police in the event something suspicious or criminal occurs.
Be aware that a seemingly nice, regular individual can turn into a rapist. There are some men who are more likely to be sexually aggressive than others.
Characteristics can include someone who:
* Does not listen to you, talks over you or pretends not to hear you.
* Ignores your personal space boundaries.
* Does what he wants, regardless of what you want.
* Expresses excessive anger or aggression towards women in general.
* Acts excessively jealous or possessive.
* Drinks heavily. Many perpetrators do not pre-meditate their indecent acts. They actually believe that the victim will enjoy it and won’t say no. Anger, embarrassment, resentment, and selfishness take over and the perpetrator arrives at “the point of no return.”
A woman cannot always prevent a rape. However, there are some things that can be done to help reduce the chances of being raped:
* Be forceful and firm. Do not worry about being polite!
* Trust your gut-level feelings. If you believe that you are being pressured, then you probably are. Leave the situation immediately; call out for help.
* If you observe suspicious or criminal activity, report it immediately to police by calling 911.
Everyone, both women and men, should know what to do if you know someone who has been sexually assaulted:
* Call someone you trust — no matter how late it is. You should not be alone. Consider calling a close friend or a staff member.
* Go to a safe place. Consider going to your room, a friend’s room, or anywhere you will feel safe.
* Seek medical treatment IMMEDIATELY. Dont wash up, change clothes, eat, brush your teeth, go to the bathroom or brush your hair, as you might destroy useful evidence. If you are unsure about reporting the assault to police, it makes sense to allow medical professionals to collect evidence to preserve the option of later making a police report.
* Report the incident to police, whether or not you plan to press charges. Reporting the assault does not commit you to filing charges. You can make that decision later in collaboration with the Commonwealth’s Attorney.
* Do NOT blame yourself.  Even if you believe you were naive, not cautious enough, or even foolish, it is NOT your fault.  Your behavior DID NOT cause the assault.
* Get help and support, such as counseling.  A sexual assault is an extremely traumatic incident,  and you will need help dealing with the situation.
* Take advantage of the resources available for victims of sexual assault or encourage their use.
Sources of support include the Office of the Dean of Students, the Women’s Center, Counseling and Psychological Services in Student Health, the Sexual Assault Resource Agency, and the Victim and Witness Assistance Programs. Students wishing to pursue charges through the University can do so through the Sexual Assault Board. For more information….
Please take all necessary steps to protect yourself and each other — and know that you should never hesitate to call 911.”
What do you think of this email by the Police?

Don’t let off rapists on flimsy grounds, SC tells courts.

Here’s the kind of news India needs to read every morning.

Don’t let off rapists on flimsy grounds, SC tells courts

…the Supreme Court on Friday told trial courts and high courts not to acquit offenders because of mere technical discrepancies in the evidence.

He said the legislature has expressed its intent to deal with crimes against women and sexual assaults sternly by providing for stringent punishment but it was for the courts to ultimately decide on such incidents, weigh evidence before fastening guilt on the accused. …

More about this case,

SC overturns acquittal of rapist and murderer 

Though the Sessions Court had convicted and sentenced Munesh to death for the offence, the High Court acquitted him on the ground that there was delay in the registration of FIR and apparent contradiction in the statements of certain witnesses.

Disagreeing with the High Court’s reasoning, the bench said the incident occurred at 4.30 pm and the complaint was made by the victim’s father at 11.05 pm on the same day itself at the police station which was two kilometres away from the scene of offence. The delay was on account of the distance and the efforts of the family to cover the girl’s body and trace Munesh who also belonged to the same village.

“If we consider the entire incident as narrated by the father, it cannot be construed that there was any unreasonable and unexplained delay which goes to the root of the prosecution case,” the bench said.

The bench said the medical evidence proved that the victim was raped before her death and the prosecution story is fully corroborated with it but unfortunately, the High Court failed to give importance to this evidence.

Remember this case:

In Rape Culture, we understand that if the rapist was living alone, away from his native place, he could lose control over himself.

Related posts:

Men in power and their views of sex and rape. – Shree Venkatram

Can sexual harassment be compared to Terrorism against a whole community called women?

‘Outraging a woman’s modesty’ does not define acts which make it impossible for them to go about their daily lives without constant fear.

I agree with what Desi Girl said in this comment.

This is called Terrorism. Terrorism against a whole community called women; terrorizing women to stay hidden in homes and limit their movements to non curfew hours, oh for women all hours are actually curfew hours. This one incident will push back all young women back into homes in the name of their safety.
The punishment should be that befitting any terrorist. An act of terrorism kills people and intimidates the survivors like wise these guys have killed the independence of numerous women in this country.
Desi Girl

This horrifying assault has terrorized women and their families all over India. It broke my heart me to read a fiesty young blogger, Rinzu Rajan say this.

i have nothing to say.! 😦 when my parents say don’t go out after 7, i know why they say so.! may the lil girl get justice asap.!

I hope media campaign and public outrage ensures that these twenty men are arrested and given the kind of sentences that become a warning for potential rapists.

Please take a look at their shameless faces, let our outrage show them that we still have some hope from this nation.

‘These men belong in jail and not on open streets.’  Let’s make sure it’s the rapists who are shamed, blamed and named and not the victims. (picture from facebook)