What kind of society tolerates misogynists preaching about banning self reliance, banning independence, banning being heard and being seen, banning communication and opportunities, banning mobiles, jeans, support networks and socialising, or banning anything that could facilitate to Choice-Marriages?
1. It is legal for women to choose who they wish to marry or live with, but anybody can make statements that incite parents to deny their daughters this right.
“Our mothers, sisters….did they die if there were no mobiles during their time,” [Link shared by Sandhya]
I say this at all the places where I make my speeches. And if any of these kids have a mobile, take them away. What are they missing anyway? What are the girls missing without mobile,” Rajya Sabha MP Rajpal Singh Saini said.”
“Our mothers, sisters….did they die if there were no mobiles during their time,” he said addressing party workers in Muzaffarnagar on Sunday night.
Saini also reportedly conveyed this view to a man who sought his help after his daughter had eloped.
The BSP leader told him that the mobile phone was the main cause behind his daughter’s elopement.
Nearly all the controls on women are based on their being expected to Get Married and Stay Married to someone their family/community has chosen for them. Please read how denying mobiles (and other freedoms) to girls is related to Sex Selection and Dowry Deaths, here.
How illegal bans on Valentine’s day and birthday parties are connected with dowry deaths and sex selection.
2. The social stigma against young Indians choosing their own partners means crimes like this are frequently not taken as seriously as they should be.
Gulbarga train was burned to kill lovers: Police
Couple’s hands and feet were tied
…A witness to the events in the stationary train, Naseema, 40, told police that four persons barged into the bogie, closed the window shutters and poured kerosene before setting the bogie on fire. “The girl’s body was found with her hands and legs tied with her dupatta (veil) and the boy’s body was found in a position as if his hands and legs were tied with a rope. Before fleeing, the four miscreants cried “Chal be chal, kaam ho gaya!” indicating that the foursome had a hand in setting alight the boy and girl,” said a senior police officer. The police, however, are awaiting their postmortem reports before declaring it a hate crime.
3. How do you think would these male students with ‘prying eyes’ view women in the society with rules like this?
Aren’t schools supposed to teach them that women are people not bodies to wrapped and protected?
Face it, teachers cloak in aprons to dodge cams
KOCHI: Managements of several private schools in Kerala want women teachers to adopt a dress code to avoid prying eyes of male students. They have suggested teachers wear an apron or an overcoat “to cover themselves properly” in class.
…”We also received many complaints that unruly comments about teachers’ anatomy appearing as graffiti on toilet walls,” Khan said. “This decision has been taken only to ensure proper respect for their privacy. We don’t want to hurt anyone by implementing this.”
I personally believe that teachers are role models and need to dress in a decent manner, whether there is a dress code or not,” said Kerala CBSE School Management Association general secretary Indira Rajan.
No matter what they wear, saree, salwars or jeans, women can not cover themselves enough so long as they are expected to become invisible to ‘prying eyes of male’ anybody.
4. This is how vulnerable Get Married-Stay Married makes women (and their families).
Read what this brother (traditionally responsible for protecting a sister’s marriage and honor) did so that his ‘sister would not have to face the wrath of her husband’.
Man kidnaps five-year-old boy to give him to his childless sister
The police said that the accused, Rakesh Raghuvanshi, wanted to help his sister by kidnapping Manthan.Rakesh’s sister, who was married for the past 20 years, was childless … “He thought that by giving Manthan to her sister, their family problems would be solved and her sister would not have to face the wrath of her husband,” police officials said.
5. The wrath of an Indian husband.
And here’s what the wrath of an Indian husband can lead to (amongst thousands of other things like acid attacks, padlocked genitals etc). Remember we teach Indian men, when they are in school, that women’s bodies are everybody’s business.
A man allegedly suspended his 38-year-old wife upside down, tonsured her head and put chilli powder in her private parts.
With the help of his brothers. The man suspected his wife was involved with another man of the same village.
[Link shared by Tikuli, on facebook]
6. 35 year old under trial jail inmate started behaving abnormally (scared), found pregnant.
When a society sees women as sexual objects to be protected from prying eyes, and not as humans, it makes women extremely vulnerable to such horrible crimes.
Inmate treated for mental illness, found pregnant in MP jail
A 35-year-old under-trial woman who was housed in Madhya Pradesh’s Jhabua jail and later brought to Indore district jail is found pregnant. However, it is not clear whether she became pregnant in Jhabua or Indore district jail. Director general (prisons) has ordered a probe.
Anitabai was lodged in Jhabua jail on January 18 on charge of killing her mother-in-law. She was brought to the mental hospital around 4 days ago.
On the court orders, the inmate was sent to the mental hospital after she started behaving abnormally. Sources at the mental hospital, requesting anonymity, said she is scared and her behaviour shows she has been the victim of atrocities.
6. And even today some women die because they become mothers.
I had blogged about Karishma’s mother, who died after giving birth on a filthy roadside in Shanker Market. She could have been saved. [link].
Damini’s mother died due to anaemia five days after she was born. With no close relatives on hand rickshaw puller Babloo decided to take his small daughter with him to work. But, being out in the open eventually took its toll on the infant and she fell ill. At just 1.4 kilos, she is severely malnourished and is also suffering from a blood infection. Doctors say she will probably need transfusion.
This rickshaw puller has a child strapped to his chest [link shared by Shaloo]
Would it help if women have a voice, and if women don’t have to spend so much time trying to become invisible?