This is Priya. Some people have mistaken me for IHM (when I wrote a post here) and I’ve also received emails asking if this is my blog. I’d like to clarify that this site belongs to Indian Homemaker (IHM). She has invited me to be a guest blogger on her site. (I have my own blog – wordssetmefreee.wordpress.com and I guest blog here sometimes.)
I came here as a reader 3 years ago. I learnt so much, both from IHM’s writing and the wonderful comments. The readers on this blog are intelligent and insightful, generous and supportive. This is the place I came to, when I was troubled by questions about gender equality. This is the place I came to – to share, help others, and learn. There were things I instinctively knew were wrong. But I could not explain or clarify those things. I was surrounded by people (in my life) who actively tried to drown out my inner voice. IHM’s blog helped me understand why. They felt threatened. Since they enjoyed very little control over their own lives, they attempted to control others’ lives. Thus IHM’s blog helped me clarify for myself logically why something I suspected was wrong was indeed so. This blog reaffirmed my faith in my inner voice and told me to trust my own intelligence rather than “ancient wisdom”.
Just as it helped me, this blog has helped countless women from all walks of life, who live across the globe. We may differ in our economic or social backgrounds, in our careers and interests, but the problems of gender equality weave a common pattern through our varied lives. It is here that women connected and supported one another. I felt tremendously strong, looking at this community of women. I was so proud of them. As Maya Angelou said, “Each time a woman stands up for herself, without knowing, without claiming it, she stands up for ALL women.”
Like many bloggers do at some point, IHM took a break and her writing became infrequent. Like all of us (bloggers and readers), other aspects of her life took precedence. So, when she invited me to write some guest posts, I agreed because I did not want this community of support to disappear. I wrote several long and detailed posts for a while and kept the discussions going (if you scroll to the bottom of this post, you will see a link to my guest posts that says “view all posts by Priya”).
Then I stopped writing. I became consumed with other things (my son’s autism and homeschooling primarily ) and have filled in here sporadically. (I had taken a break from my own blog too during the past year.)
But now I’m back to writing and I can’t begin to tell you how good it feels! I realize now that other things consuming my life are the VERY REASON I should continue writing. I could write about what’s dominating my life right now to help me understand it better. I could also write about other things to give my mind a break from being consumed; writing about other things may help maintain some separation from the central aspects of my life and allow me to continue to grow in different ways.
This year, I hope to continue to contribute here. I also want to invite all of you to send me your guest posts and share your experiences, dilemmas, and questions. It is my dream to see many women’s voices being heard here. I will contact some of my blogger friends and acquaintances, asking for guest post contributions.
And I continue to look forward to the time when IHM can post here more frequently.
I hope you will all help in making this site active again. Remember, writing is powerful. It is cathartic to ourselves and impactful to others.
If you would like to send me your guest post or want to ask a question or share your experience, please email me at firstname.lastname@example.org