The Groom pleaded with the Bride, telling her that he would not be able to face friends and neighbours if he returned without her.

While we oppose anything that could make it possible for women and men to choose their own partners (since it is against Indian culture) we seem less intolerant to outright lies, withholding of information and demands for money, during matrimonial ‘negotiations’.

Some comments expressed suspicions that the bride in this case was looking for an opportunity to marry the other man, Rampal Singh. 

Groom unwell, bride weds guest in fit of rage

The young bride, angry that her family had been kept in the dark about Kishore’s medical condition, promptly changed her mind and announced that she would happily marry at the same ceremony a guest at the wedding, a man called Harpal Singh. The latter, incidentally, turned out to be her sister’s brother-in-law.

Kishore pleaded with Indira, telling her that he would not be able to face friends and neighbours if he returned without her. His relatives, too, tried to intervene on his behalf. Where persuasion failed, violence was used — spoons, plates and dishes became weapons as wedding guests tried to force the bride to change her mind. But all in vain. The young woman stood firm.

Most of the comments wanted to know what would have happened if it was the groom refusing to marry the bride.

What do you think would have happened? 

I think, it’s possible that the groom’s family would have demanded compensation (more cash or gifts), or they would have demanded that the bride’s younger sister/cousin/niece be married to the groom. (Desi Girl blogged about one such case). 

The girl’s family here probably would have found more support if they had requested for some relief in the cash/gifts to be given. 

It’s very telling that the groom’s biggest concern here was, ‘he would not be able to face friends and neighbours’.  

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Satyamev Jayate: Thoughts on a jewelry ad and Desperate Grooms.

It’s understandable that ‘Satyamev Jayate’ would probably say only as much as the audience is willing to hear and hence may not discuss exactly why Indian parents want to avoid having daughters.

I think it’s a good idea to stress more on the positives.

Maybe India needs to hear more about a girl buying her own jewelery or laptops, or property or IPL teams, and more about marriage not being about jewelery (and dowry) and perhaps we need to be more tactful when we speak against  little girls being brain washed to see Getting Married-Staying Married as their only goal in life?

Maybe we need to learn to convey that Indian parents should raise their daughters as their own children and not as future daughters in law without hurting patriarchal sentiments?

But this jewelry ad I think is anti-girl-child by any standards :(  Do you agree?


And then, Satyamev Jayate brought to mind these recent cases – I hadn’t noticed before how these kind of cases seem to be becoming more and more common.

Desperate Grooms in Haryana and Rajasthan.

1. Skewed sex ratio in the northern state of Haryana is forcing men of the marriageable age to scout for brides from other states, including Bihar and far-off Kerala.

2. Baby Falak would have lived if it wasn’t for India’s skewed sex ratio.

“Delhi police have nabbed two women who sold 22-year-old Munni, the biological mother of baby Falak, to a “desperate groom” in Rajasthan for a price and forced the young mother to leave her three children behind.” [From here.]

Munni had been given the reassurance she would be able to persuade her ‘husband’ to allow her three children to live with them.

Dharam Ram, father of Munni’s second husband, Harpal Singh says, “Besides my son who married Munni, one of his nephews too married a woman who was brought to us by an agent. We have spent Rs 2.7 lakh on the two women,”[Link]

3. Seema Parihar from MP is a widow with two children, she was sold to Kalli Meena of Kaseda village in Karauli district for Rs 60,000 [link]

In Kaseda, villagers stopped policemen and asked them to retreat. They argued that Seema Parihar was purchased and now belonged to their caste and village. They were violent and the local police could not help,” SP said.

The villagers were so violent, our team decided to come back without the woman. However, it is now verified that the woman was kidnapped, sold and is now being held captive. It is a clear case of human trafficking. So far a case of kidnapping under section 366 was registered against the mediators but now the case will be of human trafficking. We have got in touch with the Rajasthan police and are stressing on a joint operation with them to rescue the woman.” [Madhya Pradesh widow sold to village in Rajasthan]

4. K’taka women sold to men from Rajasthan

Hubli, Feb. 5: A shortage of brides in Rajasthan and other northern states where female foeticide is reportedly rampant, is fuelling a racket in which women are allegedly sold to the highest bidder by middlemen operating from north Karnataka.

Deputy superintendent of police A B Basari admits that a systematic network of agents, which functions like a marriage bureau in the district, is giving the police cause for concern. “We have visited Rajasthan and other states several times to bring back these poor girls. While we have found several of them living happily with their husbands, we will deal with the cases where the girls are ill -treated. Some men have been forced to take their wives back after being put in jail for months,” he says.


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