Tejaswee Rao Scholarship and Blogging Awards.

We visited Tejaswee’s college and discussed and decided upon various ways in which we could start a Scholarship in her name. The option I like requires depositing a lump sum amount (Capital) and the interest from that amount provides Scholarships, and if we choose,  Hostel fees, PG expenses, Books, Field Trips etc to one or more students.  Also, we can continue to add to this amount if we wish to (like on her birthdays). This makes me wonder if we should continue with the registering of the Trust I have mentioned earlier. A Trust requires some legal knowledge, annual auditing etc, though it also enables other people to contribute. We need to think about this now.

Her favorite teacher said the selection of the recipients for the scholarship, “should not be based purely on academic performance… Tejaswee was brilliant and  creative, she really cared, she was compassionate, confident and she was involved, aware and opinionated, she was so full of life… ” She couldn’t go on. I understand now what they mean when they say ‘tears are a tribute we pay to the memory of those we love‘ …Every time I meet someone Tejaswee looked up to or cared for, I can’t help but notice how well she chose who she liked…

They helped us identify one student, a class mate, who will receive Tejaswee Rao Scholarship this year. I remember Tejaswee speaking fondly  of her. The college suggested we meet the child and I think we would love that. This is a positive beginning.

Her college also held this contest.

I have decided to do something similar on this blog. I had planned to use the Blogscars 2010 as a means to create a collection of links to posts related to the issues this blog deals with (Girl Child, gender bias, intolerance etc) and to recognize those which really can make a difference… I will be announcing the Blogscars soon. I would like to dedicate the Blogscars to my daughter Tejaswee with Cash Prizes and Certificates to be won…  Your suggestions are welcome.

I have created a blog – a Support Group for Coping with Grief and Loss, it can be found here.


JKG Badges! :)

Along with a new definition for Joru Ka Gulam [click] we had also requested for contributions for  the JKG Badge Contest [click]. We received nine entries. JKG Kislay, our Honor’ble Judge had no hope for mutton biryani (or any bribe in any other form) because we went out of our way to hide all the names from him (except one).

So please treat him now!!

And please don’t forget to mention which one is your favorite and most suitable for Reader’s Choice Award.


By Aritra Chatterjee 🙂


This badge created by Aritra Chatterjee has been chosen by our honor’ble judge, HRE JKG Kislay Chandra, as the ‘Official JKG Badge’.


By Freya.


JKG Kislay also loved this badge and declared it the second official JKG Badge.


This badge by Solilo Don is his third choice 🙂

Hot Rotisjkg

When a man says “I make hot rotis for my wife.”, he might find himself being called a Joru Ka Gulam.


By Freya again 🙂

Iheartbeingajkg1This is the coolest looking badge for a sidebar!!


By Homecooked.


Homecooked created this cute looking badge. Traditionally any man who shows affection to his wife is labelled a Joru Ka Gulam.


By Vikas Gupta.

Is chosen by JKG Kislay for


JKG Vikas Gupta II Vikas’s Entry Number 3 touches upon the expectation that a woman must change her surname to her husband’s when she is married A man is not expected to make any changes to his name though. Any man who does not insist upon this surname changing (sometimes even the first name is changed) risks being labelled a Joru Ka Gulam.


This one is by Freya, thank you for calling him JKG-IN-CHIEF Freya 🙂

SRK JKG in chief

He’s extremely popular amongst women, not just because he is considered hot but because he has changed the way Bollywood husbands spoke of their wives i.e. NEVER!

SRK is not a super star for nothing. He is a feminist and  he is not apologetic about it. I have blogged about this here and here.


This badge by Freya emphasises the belief we have that some chores are too lowly for men (so women should do them).

doingdishesfavthingjkgIt’s often the mothers and even wives who object to men doing these chores. So if a man says he doesn’t mind doing the dishes, there’s horror and embarrassment for the wife, “Did she actually let him do the dishes!!!”

When he says he loves doing the dishes?

… scandal.


This badge is also created by Freya … thank you for your contributions Freya!


It’s expected of women to be devoted and ‘obedient’ to their husbands, if a man as much as shows affection he is declared henpecked. The best answer to any such labelling is to wear it with pride.

Which one did you like the best?! Please choose which badge deserves the Reader’s Choice Award!

Headless No More!

Thank You Chirag for coming to the rescue of this headless blog 🙂

I had attempted many headers and was unhappy totally miserable with all. I wanted a header which would not be too different from the header in the last blog and still look like it’s made for this blog … now I love the arty looking white rectangles in this header.. (look like they are made with oil paint?). I am sure the blog doesn’t look eerie anymore  : )

So here’s Chirg being thanked a million times once again, on a Sticky Tape which was also brought to us by him  🙂

As promised here’s the SMARTNESS CUP  for Surbhi and Solilo the WINNERS OF GUESING THE 55ER CONTEST.

The Smartness Cup!

The Smartness Cup!

What? You think you were close in guessing, and deserved the cup? Our Judge HRE Hitchwriter cheated?Watch this space for links to perfect recipes for Mutton biryani and more 55ers …


And the Oscar..err Brilliant Weblog Award goes to..

Thanks Mad Momma, Pinku, and Mandira for the Brilliant Weblog Award. I am honored!
I have the opportunity to pass it on to other bloggers and I do that with great pleasure.

I give the Brilliant Weblog Award to some of my favorite bloggers (in random order).

1. Thought Room who writes the kind of post that always make me think ..and often re-think my thoughts 🙂

2. 1conoclast for his passion and his love for peace and justice, and his unbiased write ups.

I would have passed it to Chandni for her joie de vivre and her ’causes to champion’ but she’s already got it!
Roop who started a brilliant blog Unchahi, to create awareness about female foeticide has already received the award from Neeta; D too has also received it from Chandni.
Would have given it to Dipali and Manpreet (just checked they have received it from Mandira, along with me).

3. @lankrita for giving me the arguments I needed so badly to defend feminism, love her clarity of thought.

4. Unmana for her brilliant, brief and effective posts.

5. Imp’s Mom for the way she expresses her love for her Imp and for her courage and convictions.

6. Nimmy for courageous and sensitive blogging about Islam.

7. Krishna Aradhi the not so Naive Indian. You’d never guess he is only 21 years old!

8. Kislay Chandra for his hard hitting, thought provoking write ups.