A Guest Post by Freebird.
I came across this other post: I Got Raped With My Consent. That Will Always Be The Most Horrible Memory Of My Life
I don’t think consensual sex which doesn’t involve any coercion should be treated as rape at any cost. So I find the statement ‘I said ‘yes’ but it was ’emotional rape” very contradictory.
But what I didn’t understand, and do find disturbing, is this:
In this story, why didn’t this girl ever realize that it was OK for her to say ‘no’after saying ‘yes’? Saying ‘yes’ doesn’t mean a blanket sanction to any sexual activity. It is perfectly right to set boundaries, or ask the other person to stop when she was getting uncomfortable. If he was hurting her and she was in pain, why isn’t it clear that she had every right to tell him to stop hurting her and not engage in things which were painful to her? And the moment this message is conveyed clearly and if he still carries on, it does becomes ‘rape’ (not an esoteric ’emotional rape’). Whether it can be proved or not is a different issue. That doesn’t change the fact that it is rape when the other person is violating your boundaries.
“Even if the sexual intercourse was forceful it was not forcible and contrary to the wishes and consent of the deceased.”
Rapist said that coming from Afghanistan meant he didn’t understand what ‘consent’ was.
‘Madam so many rapes don’t happen in Germany coz girls don’t refuse to have sex.’
Making Marital Rape a legal offence is the fastest way to make it clear that Rape means forced sex, not lost Virginity or Honor.
Forced intercourse in marriage not rape: Delhi court
Forcible sex with wife doesn’t amount to marital rape: Court
“Girls should be married at 16, so that they don’t need to go elsewhere for their sexual needs. This way rapes will not occur.”
What makes Men Rape? – Do read.
The rapists often don’t see their actions as crimes, the police said, and don’t expect the victims to report them.
A tag: But when a woman sees a hot man, nothing happens in her brain?
Triya charitram, Purushasya bhagyam, Devo Na Janati, Kuto Manushya…
Making Marital Rape a legal offence is the fastest way to make it clear that Rape means forced sex.
‘The woman said she was inebriated when a co-worker took her to a room and raped her.’
So how does Delhi – NCR Police define Rape?
How Victim Blaming confuses rapists, police and the society.
When they don’t even understand crime…