Please watch ‘Tanu Weds Manu Returns’ :)

The movie passes Bechdel Test with flying colours. The Kanpur accent and Kangana Ranaut’s Haryana accent, the music, the story, the way it ends, and everything else about the movie are absolutely delightful.

And while we are laughing hysterically, the movie conveys –

A woman smiling, laughing, talking, taking a ride or drinking or dancing with a man – may or may not be in love with him.

That self reliance gives confidence.

That courage, confidence, maturity and just plain common sense are not dependent on the language ones speaks or the accent or grammar (etc).

That men grow up and old too.

Men have ‘marital status’ too – even if it not talked about in Indian movies, and is not socially required to be displayed.

Men don’t hate getting married – despite all the shaadi ke laddu jokes one hears about. Men even have ‘marriageable age’ – though one doesn’t hear much about such social pressures. The movie makes references to men’s ages, like the ’35 and desperate to get married’ and 40th birthday shirt.

Men are also advised to Get Married and Stay Married. But instead of praying or fasting, men are offered the option of trying violence as an outlet if the situation gets unbearable – like breaking tube lights in their living rooms.

That the Khaps are fools.

It’s a problem that men’s manliness depends on their Sperm Count.

Men gain weight too.

Tanu does many things that generally only men are permitted to do

1. Complains that she finds her spouse boring and demands that she be pleased.

2. Goes out and has fun with old friends although she is married and loves her husband. She also calls her best friend her soulmate.

3. Meets visitors wearing a towel.

4. Drinks.

5. Gets away with being unreasonable. [Disagree?]

Lastly I think Kangana Ranaut is the Amitabh Bhachchan or Madhuri Dixit of today – only better.

Do’t believe me? Take a look🙂

Many of us are going to watch this movie more than once.

Four other recent movies that passed Bechdel Test. 

Margarita with a straw.

Piku

Dum Laga Ke Haisha

Queen

I am optimistic that the success of these movies means that we will continue to see more such works of art.

Related Posts:

Piku in Patriarchy.

Please watch Dum Laga Ke Haisha – where a man is asked to Please adjust and save his marriage.

Please watch Queen. Feels like our country is finally changing.

32 thoughts on “Please watch ‘Tanu Weds Manu Returns’ :)

  1. Yes awesome movie. It really shows women who are not traditional . Traditional women don’t fight with parents , don’t play, don’t drink, don’t demand and you can keep going on. And even bigger is thing is that we are accepting these women at least on-screen. Otherwise these characters were not even seen on-screen.

    Hope so that society also see women as human instead of Ideal.

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  2. why women not equally taking finance responsibilities? why men only should get higher salary, should have property?

    You people only worrying about rights not the responsibilities?

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    • Not sure what your point it about rights vs responsibilities. From where I stand, women have more responsibilities than rights. (Being the good, the good wife, the good daughter, and the good mother, good housekeeper, good in bed, good at cooking/cleaning, etc.)

      To answer your random questions:

      1. Who says women are not taking financial responsibilities? I know I am! I pay the bills at home. I’m sure many others do. In fact, I know some women who don’t want to work, but do so purely to be able to financially support their husbands.

      2. There is research (google it if you like) that shows that women are underpaid just by virtue of being women – men are paid higher for the same jobs. This is a construct of society, not something women do deliberately to shirk responsibility.
      I hope you realize that a majority of working women come home (at the same time as their husbands) and then take on household chores like cooking and pandering to the whims of their in-laws. That’s taking responsibility.

      3. There are two ways in which people can own property: through inheritance or by buying it. Women are legally entitled to an inheritance, but most of us aren’t included in their parents’ wills. As for buying property, that’s something some women are already doing (especially if they earn well).

      What was your point, again?

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    • What abt the fact that even if you’re as educated as your husband, earning equal/more than him , doing everything that a man does like taking financial responsibilities, the outside tasks etc ; you’re still subjected to archaic norms and customs and expected to behave like women from previous generations did when they were completely dependent on their husband, in laws?
      Do the in laws change their expectations when they see that their dil is a very independent woman and has married their son to spend her life with him and not for economic security etc etc ?
      I don’t think so.

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    • Raghu, let’s not be bigoted here.

      1. Rights are not dependent on responsibilities. Irrespective of whether a person takes up specific responsibilities or not, there are some rights that are indisputable and cannot be denied. There are plenty of men who do not live upto their financial responsibilities either…can we deny them their rights? Let’s not create a false equivalence between rights and responsibilities.
      2. You are complaining about a situation that men have been largely responsible for creating in the first place. There is a very small subsection of our workforce where women get salaries that are comparable to (but still lesser than) what men get. In the majority of our country’s workforce, women are still paid half or less than half of what men earn for doing the same work. If you are serious about expecting women to share the financial responsibilities equally, then work towards leveling the playing field for women with respect to salaries and property inheritance. Once we succeed in leveling the playing field, then we can complain about how all the women in our country are lazy, shirk their responsibilities, watch tv (just soap operas not sitcoms) all day long and financially exploit the men in their lives.
      3. In my experience, your statement about the responsibilities is also factually incorrect. There are 4 women who are part of my current team. Three of them are the only wage earners in their respective families. Their entire salaries go towards supporting their families. The 4th person is not the primary wage earner, but her salary still fully contributes towards her family expenses. On top of that, she is expected to wake up at 4:30 AM every single day to cook for her husband, children and inlaws (irrespective of when she went to sleep) and complete the house work before leaving for office. Similarly, I have another friend who is a fellow manager. She is again the primary wage owner in her family. Her salary fully goes towards family expenses. On top of that, she is expected to perform all the house work (in addition to her office work) from 4:00 AM onwards every day. None of these people are fictional. These are all real people, these are all exceptional people, they are all women. This does not mean that men don’t take responsibilities or that men cannot be exceptional. It just means that your statement reveals a lack of real life knowledge of what most women do day in and day out.
      4. Also, just like there are responsible men and irresponsible men, there will also be responsible women and irresponsible women. Don’t tar all women with the same brush. It just shows that this thinking process is extremely flawed.

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    • @raghunath,
      Women have been toiling in the fields planting paddy standing in water a back breaking job. Oh, it is family farm so it is not called financial responsibility. Then I see pahadi women (Himachal, Uttranachal) carrying heavy loads of fire wood on their heads while cranky men sit and smoke bidis by the road side. That too is not financial responsibility because money never reach women’s hands. Then there is a whole class of home based workers who don’t just cook and clean but spend 10-12 hours a day doing piece work still not enough to have stomach full.
      What do you have to say about these women?

      We have had enough of responsibilities- feed the families and keep the honor of families, community and the nation while nation boasts of being rape country. Oh, now tell me not all men rape. If that is true the this too should hold true.
      Stop trolling and educate yourself and be the change you want to see.
      Peace,
      Desi Girl

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      • That slogan “Land to the tiller” is sexist too – women are almost never tillers. They do back-breaking grunge work, but the tillers are always men. That’s why “Land to the tiller” should be “modified to land to the worker”.

        Moreover, I would like to ask the poster above if he pays fair wages to the women who work in his home and community – those who clean, cook and do childcare. Are they in a position to acquire property after 20 years of working for him?

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  3. Wow, sounds like a great movie! Don’t know if it’s playing here, will check. So, true …. why should confidence and independence be reserved for the privileged? It is refreshing to see everyday characters who are in their element.

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  4. I didn’t like the first part Tanu Weds Manu, but really enjoyed this movie.
    My respect for Kangana Ranaut is going up day by day. Especially since I read about how she recently refused to endorse fainess creams for ethical reasons.

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  5. Whilst enjoyable overall (and without wanting to come off as too much of a buzzkill) I don’t quite see how you made that connection between Manu’s father knocking out a tubelight with his broom and the endorsement of violence as a means to destress. To me it appeared as if he was merely counselling his son that he’ll have to bite the bullet at some point and that he couldn’t escape the inevitable “darkness” that all marriages must eventually inevitably come to – which is why he put out the lights. It was an act borne out of suppressed irritation – but it sure as hell was fun to watch!!

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  6. I had walked out of the last Tanu Weds Manu movie. I had found it absurd that a guy falls in love with a girl, the minute he sees her. And that too when she is barely conscious. He even proceeds to plant a kiss, when she is in no condition to understand that she is being kissed.All this in the first meeting. I found the character of Manu unbelievable.

    Now that you are recommending the sequel, I think I will muster courage and watch it. I loved Piku, Dum Laga Ke Haisha and Queen too. Have to catch Margherita though

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  7. To IHM,
    Saw the movie and loved the movie…. Did you notice how the girls of Harayanvi are capabale of being independent,… get themselves an admission in delhi university… Are good in sports represent national level…Yet at home they may not actually have a say in their wedding? Luckily for KAngana, her brother stood up for her in the movie…. But how many actually have this luxury in reality?

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  8. This other site that tests all movies for the bechdel test gives the movie a really bad review, and also claims that the movie fails the test miserably. Can you point out the scene where the two women are talking about something other than the men?
    Also, it slams the movie for forcing the women to be conservative- while each character has a rebellious spirit, the movie seems to punish them into conformism. Each time either og them do something rebellious, they suffer. And finally for having ultimately only traditional aspirations for both women- kusum, who is ready to give up her entire athletic career and what she stands for for manu, and tanu, whose problem of issues with marriage are never really resolved till the end.
    I would request your readers to read this too.
    http://theladiesfinger.com/bechdel-testing-tanu-weds-manu-returns/
    Personally, I agree with raindrop- I had exactly the same problem with the first movie. And Ranjhanaa, whcih is also directed by the same guy is a horror of misgoyny and glorifying stalkers. I think the perception stilll shows in his movies. I’d really love to know what you thought of the linked review on the ladies finger, IHM!

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    • Tanu and Manu have issues and those issues are never really resolved, I noticed that too.

      Tanu has issues (I haven’t seen the first part) and Manu seemed to have married her with those issues. Tanu points this out when she tells him, (translated) “I was always crazy – when did you change?”
      Tanu’s issues (alcohol; lack of interests, purpose, goals or ambitions; or, her need to socialise and to connect with friends) are issues that were not dealt with seriously and the couple seemed to be willing to live with them unresolved.

      I liked Kusum pointing out to Tanu that she was a ‘state level athletes’ and could raise her ‘balaka’ on her own, unlike Tanu who was dependant on her husband. But she also mentions Tanu’s lack of children and shares other information – which was uncalled for.

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    • I had a problem with the story, too. (I haven’t watched the first part).

      I had problems with Manu falling for Kusum just because she resembles Tanu, and for being ready to live with someone who landed him in a mental asylum. (Maybe I missed something here). Though I did like Kangana’s acting, I didn’t like how Tanu was willing to do anything just to be back to being back with Manu, and the age difference between Kusum and Manu also bothered me. As did Kusum’s part in the kidnapping of the girl (I forgot her name – but I did like how she asked, “Have I ever told you that I love you?”. I personally do not understand the need to ‘convince’ anyone about your love.)

      My friend enjoyed the movie, but though I did enjoy some moments, overall I was disappointed by the movie.

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  9. Also, IHM, is there a different way in which you interpret the bechdel test?
    Because as far as I understand, atleast technically speaking neither Tanu weds manu returns, nor piku nor Dum laga ke haisha pass the test. They have faurly strong female charcters, and piku is especially well balanced in the sense that it has many women characters who hold their own but where are they talking about anything other than men? I hate to be picky about pointing this out, but speaking from a cinematic point of view they all do fail the test.

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    • I have read samina’s article, i don’t agree with the article nd felt it was rather mean spirited! Firstly “faux-feminism’ is BS. Its the traditionalist’s idea of feminism really! The male version of tanu would be an ass ,well.. so is tanu! For me this movie wasa poor-okay (no fan of anand rai) , all the freaking characters are flawed nd badly written, but it showed women holding their own, no one was coerced into anything! if they made bad decisions well ‘they’ made them on their own ! By associating faux-feminism with empowered women taking their own ‘bad’ decisions , we are excercising passive control over women’s choices by unfairly placing the weight of carrying the torch of feminism by making only “good” choices like not drinking,not flirting,cannot be irresponsible etc! For me feminism is the freedom to be whatever the hell i want to be, yes if i make bad choices there will be bad consequences but thats not gender specific..nd thats the whole point! don’t you think ?

      Samina also plays the “earn your own money first” card and goes on to say this- “Marriages break down all the time, and to assign blame to a single party is unfair. Manu as a husband is quite a prize — a successful doctor, an indulgent husband and most of all a very patient man accepting of Tanu’s shenanigans. Why then does she feel so trapped, so full of angst? ” – Oh No! She just didn’t say that! And then it gets worse “We all know this type. The spoilt rich girl, whose only interests are partying, boys, clothes, the beauty parlour — all funded by the man in her life, first the father, then the husband”- Such casual sexism! Its disgusting especially given the context of the article!

      For me, Tanu wedsManu Returns is worth a watch because of kangana but thats abt it, its definitely not a ‘feminist’ movie at the same time not as bad as ‘cocktail’-disaster!

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      • I do agree with some of your points enthusiastd. Some of the things Samina wrote were indeed unfortunate, especially the typecasting. But at the same time, I don’t believe that feminism should be conflated with plain ole immature, unhealthy behaviours. Yes it is good to show women with some agency (however spurious, since in the end it appears she is grovelling at the man’s feet) but to laud it as exemplary of feminist empowerment is an insult to the deeper values of the movement. Feminism isn’t about trying to compete with out of control lads. So in short I dont have a problem with the depiction of characters such as tanu but I do have a problem with the interpretation of such characters as feminist icons.

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        • PS: I know you haven’t said this movie is a ‘feminist’ one but the blog on which we are commenting is. Also, what does empowerment mean? The young scion of a rich man may be empowered to get sloshed in Ibiza, but he is still dependent on the largesse and benevolence of a paternal figure. At most acting out is a form of subversion but empowerment it isn’t.

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        • @asavariSingh1980, Glad we agree on most of the things.:) I think IHM’s blog is lauding the fact that ‘women are showed making choices independantly in the movie’ than the movie itself! From what i gather, IHM is simply applauding the progress eventhough its not nearly enoungh nd a bit contrived ! Because every little helps, the reach and relatability of this movie among indian women nd men as well is far more than what we can ever have! we should definitely strive to make them better , find faults with and improve ! But samina is simply taking a contrary view for the sake of taking one nd goes on to feed some more regressive ideas in support of it .

          Empowerment to me means freedom to make a choice devoid of cultural/gender bias. So the Young scion getting sloshed in ibiza ,essentially need not be him acting out, may be he simply has no problem taking money from his father nd the father has no problem giving! would i think its great?-No! i would think its non of business! nobody is taking advantage or exploiting anybody here , why should i be bothered?Recent years have taught me , there is simply no need to define anything with a broad stroke!

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  10. IHM, I agree with your points there. The movie was enjoyable. It highlighted that women too can make choices – bad or good. It is a major milestone achieved in the industry where all that women get to do is getting pinched by the ‘hero’ in the name of love.
    I won’t get into what ‘Tanu’ should have done, how the ending should have been, or how they could have resolved their issues before parting ways and/or coming together again. I guess movies can’t be expected to deal with all the aspects in the limited time and scope. But this movie did build the characters of the female lead(s) quite impressively.

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  11. Loove the movie. Kangana is simply brilliant and reminds us of the time Amitabh was playing double role with aplomb. Agree to that though comparisons are odious. She is truly in the league of extraordinary.
    Check my review and just in.

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