How do men (and women) in patriarchal societies respond to anything they perceive as dishonour?
But why did ‘India’s Daughter’ offend some Indian men (and women)?
1. Maybe because many of us view women as men’s ‘mothers and daughters’ and hence as Men’s honors and shames.
(And not as equal citizens, which is also why some of us are less outraged with the rapists’ lawyer saying, ‘women have no place in our culture’)
So any mention of sexual attacks on Indian women is something to be hushed up, not made into documentaries?
2. Also, many of us realised this.
As repulsive as it was, it’s a good thing the Delhi rapist came out with that statement. Now all those misogynistic politicians and opinion leaders who held a similar view ought to realise they think like a rapist.[Indian Feminist League]
Harvinder Singh of Delhi made the video below in two hours. The 28-minute video’s description reads:
“This is reply (sic) to BBC for making video on rape cases in other countries when they are them self (sic) at the 5th place in world’s rape list (sic), to remind them daughter is daughter, she is not Indian or British & we have same pain for British too.”[Delhi businessman’s reply to ‘India’s Daughter’ causes online stir]
How is this video a reply to Udwin’s documentary? Did the documentary make you feel the same way? Why?
Do some of us feel better after watching this ‘reply’?
Do we believe that we have ‘proved’ that ‘their’ women are equally unsafe?
How does that deal with the fact that many of us do talk and think like rapists? Or that we continue make non serious and ignorant attempts to control crimes against women?
Do we still prefer Silence (achieved with Shaming and Blaming the victims) to deal with rapes?
The problem for many, even now, is not rape and how fear of such assaults affects the entire society. How it continues male child preference and skewed gender ratio in India, and how it leads to girl children being denied education and opportunities (in India) and how women are herded indoors, specially after dark. How it also leads to early or child marriages.
The problem for many is not that victims are silenced, while everybody else has lots to say on how the victim could have saved herself from becoming a zindaa laash.
I didn’t see the entire video – because it seems the purpose of the video is to settle scores by showing we aren’t the only ones who don’t care for the rights and safety of almost half the population.
And I think the right ‘reply’ to Leslie Udwin’s would have been to demand reforms that ensure easier reporting of rapes, quicker sentences, fighting against lawyers trying to prove the rape victim deserved the rape, better support for survivors and media campaigns condemning victim blaming and shaming.
Below is the Delhi businessman’s reply to ‘India’s Daughter’,