While we oppose anything that could make it possible for women and men to choose their own partners (since it is against Indian culture) we seem less intolerant to outright lies, withholding of information and demands for money, during matrimonial ‘negotiations’.
Some comments expressed suspicions that the bride in this case was looking for an opportunity to marry the other man, Rampal Singh.
The young bride, angry that her family had been kept in the dark about Kishore’s medical condition, promptly changed her mind and announced that she would happily marry at the same ceremony a guest at the wedding, a man called Harpal Singh. The latter, incidentally, turned out to be her sister’s brother-in-law.
Kishore pleaded with Indira, telling her that he would not be able to face friends and neighbours if he returned without her. His relatives, too, tried to intervene on his behalf. Where persuasion failed, violence was used — spoons, plates and dishes became weapons as wedding guests tried to force the bride to change her mind. But all in vain. The young woman stood firm.
Most of the comments wanted to know what would have happened if it was the groom refusing to marry the bride.
What do you think would have happened?
I think, it’s possible that the groom’s family would have demanded compensation (more cash or gifts), or they would have demanded that the bride’s younger sister/cousin/niece be married to the groom. (Desi Girl blogged about one such case).
The girl’s family here probably would have found more support if they had requested for some relief in the cash/gifts to be given.
It’s very telling that the groom’s biggest concern here was, ‘he would not be able to face friends and neighbours’.
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