I was away and did not see this positive news until Saturday afternoon. The times are changing and it’s good to hear long established lies being debunked.
Thanks for sharing Mr G. Vishwanathjee.
“What should be covered must be covered. Women should not trouble others by wearing jeans,” K.J. Yesudas, musician, said here on Friday, inviting protests from political leaders, women’s groups and the public.
“They [women] should not try to become like men but must behave modestly,” he continued. The attire, he said, is unbecoming of Indian culture and what lends beauty to a woman is her demureness.
Until recently comments like this were accepted as common sense and traditional wisdom.
So it’s a huge positive that no matter how obviously absurd Mr Yesudas’s comment might seem to some of us, it is still being challenged, discussed and responded to.
Unbelievable though this seems, there are many who still agree with him, and are going to quote him as the final word on what their women should be allowed to wear.
And those who quote him would not just be doing this because they hate women, but because they can’t see what options can their women be permitted.
Many of them sincerely believe that lewd comments or stares (i.e. women failing to avoid attention or disrespect from men) is amongst the worst things they can watch happening to their women, worse than their women being allowed to lose freedom, happiness, and worse than their women not being viewed as people with feelings of their own.
Everything must be sacrificed (by women) to ensure that lewd comments and stares don’t offend those who fail to see who should be outraged and by whom/what.
Because they believe that women should be held responsible for protecting the sensibilities of those respectable people who do not want to watch women being subjected to lewd comments.
This comment is a response to the article in the Hindu.
What Shri. Yesudas said in public is what most of the parents are telling in private. I would like to suggest these progressive people to just remember for a moment of the past as to whether they had ever noticed or felt embarrassed or scared when their daughter or close relatives wearing these dresses were stared upon by strangers or subjected to lewd comments.
I hope the outrage and protests bring to notice that:
1. What should be found objectionable and embarrassing, and should be controlled is the ‘lewd comments’.
Yes it’s difficult to understand after centuries of having heard otherwise.
So let me attempt to explain.
2. Making excuses for the lewd comments also means – that now, after centuries of doing this, we aren’t sure who is the victim:
i.) the harasser – being troubled by women in jeans, or
ii.) the women, or
iii.) those who believe they have to take decisions for ‘these women’.
3. All along, the person making ‘lewd comments’ knows he has well known figures commiserating with him. (Some of them are probably justifying their own past and future actions?)
4. Only now since more of us, including women, have a Voice do we learn that women have feelings too.
Suchithra krishnamoorthy, playback singer:
#Yesudas Men shouldn’t be allowed to talk so much and must learn to behave. Y provoke us women into wanting to slap u?
5. Though I think misogynists should be allowed to talk – Silence does not change any points of view, Dialogue does.
6. And dialogue also means that we know we aren’t the only ones who can see how absurd it is to defend an obvious wrong, and to blame the one who has been wronged.
My skirt is not your license, pervert. – A splash of my life…