I think this is a positive. This simple statement makes so much sense,
“Yes, I’m a woman, I have breasts and a cleavage.”
It should start a much needed dialogue and hopefully influence in some small way, the way women’s bodies are viewed. As of now, everybody in India seems to know who owns women’s bodies – including the bodies of women in public spaces.
I also hope we hear more about how offensive it is to those who are directly affected, than to the brothers, fathers and husbands of some of them. We also must consider the possibility of some women not having willing male relatives to feel outrage of their behalf.
At the same time, it’s not surprising that many Indians can’t quite understand what Deepika Padukone could possible mean. Because, the point for them is just that: She should not forget that she is a woman, and has breasts and a cleavage.
These comments on the internet should be read without anger or outrage, because those who are saying this, probably believe what they are saying.
1. For this commentator – It’s all about Men.
Why on the first place show ur body to Men? Beauty is not skin show only . Deepika must realise it someday.
What men find beautiful. And what women must realise about men’s preference, i.e. women’s skin showing versus women’s skin covered.
It’s not surprising that they think this way – because even when we talk about the Skewed Gender Ratio, we hear it’s a concern only because men need wives. And when we talk about protecting women from sexual assaults, it’s because they are men’s sisters and daughters.
When do we hear about women as people with rights and feelings and Bodies of their own?
I condemn the TOI article. At the same time, I sincerely think that by showing their physique only, most of these cine-stars make their living. So there is controversy here. I think we should condemn both.
Why do you think is this comment condemning ‘both’?
There is no doubt in his/her mind that a woman ‘showing’ her body is wrong – and that women need approval and deserve condemnation for attempting to view their bodies (and minds) as their own business.
So if a woman steps out of her home, and doesn’t keep in mind the preferences of men in the street outside, what else does she expect?
This comment is why objectification of women needs a post, many posts, maybe a tag. We should talk more about all the ways in which women are objectified. And if and how it influences women’s lives and safety.
what about item numbers ? what about leela ? dam maro dam . They show if they get money , when no mone?y. Rape and crime against women are increasing and they play a important part in that.
Also, rapes and crime against women are not increasing. The silence of survivors is ‘decreasing’. The confidence to report rape is increasing.The fear of being shamed, blamed and named is decreasing.
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Many more misogynistic but mostly heart felt opinions on the links below.
Do these opinions matter? Do they influence women’s lives? I am sure those who hold these opinions do control the lives of ‘their women’ – their sisters, wives and daughters. I am confident that Deepika Padukone’s assertion is a step in the right direction. Specially since she did get a male friend or relative to speak on her behalf.
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