When young women hear victims being shamed, blamed and silenced after each news of sexual crimes against women, is it surprising that they feared they would be blamed for the Street Sexual Harassment they faced everyday?
In their suicide notes — one runs into six pages, the other is four-page long — the girls speak of fear and shame, of disrepute, of tongues wagging simply because young men had been following and harassing them.
“Everyday a new man would come and chase us. They would pass lewd remarks and offer us phone numbers.
The people around us would stare as if we had done something wrong. You know how bad our colony is… how people will say we encouraged these men to follow us… even though we are innocent,” Madhu wrote.
What could have lead to their fear of being blamed and shamed?
Take a look at just one example of what they feared,
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“She was warned several times and was used to unethical practices like friendship with boys.”
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“Such mannequins will excite men and pose a danger to women.”
“I am safe because I’m very careful in the way I behave and dress in public, on the streets.”
In Gurgaon, jobs, safety and roads after 8 pm, reserved for men?
The night I was not an easy prey.
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“Sometimes it seems like every single thing I do has the potential to be something ‘provocative’.”
When they don’t even understand crime, how are they ever going to begin controlling it?
Those charged with our safety should have a true understanding of what it is to be a survivor of sexual assault — slut or otherwise.