I see this news as a positive story.
The young woman had a job. She valued her self reliance and was in a position to refuse to give up a job that her brother (and I am sure many others) did not consider ‘suitable’ for her.
And she was in a position to refuse to submit to a semi-forced marriage.
One Question: Do you think we need a law that bans Forced or Semi Forced Marriages? And another that makes seeking opportunities for Self Reliance a legal right… but since that is a fundamental right, maybe a law that legally forbids preventing other adults from seeking lawful opportunities to make themselves self reliant.
Because, what use are the rights to Equality or Freedom without the power to fight for them? And that power can only come from Self Reliance.
What if this brother had not done something as obviously unacceptable as this? What if he had threatened her with some other more popular (and acceptable) means of controlling – like social boycott or shaming?
Her hair will grow back and now that the case is public, it will be seen as a warning by other ‘brothers’ who harboured similar ideas.
Link shared by Abhishek Oza
BANGALORE: A 27-year-old woman who refused to marry the man chosen by her younger brother was in for a shock: her sibling punished her by forcibly daubing hair-removing cream on her head and leaving her with a partially bald pate.
Santosh was also upset with his sister for working in a bar. Jayanti, who was earlier working as a bartender in Mumbai, had moved to Bangalore a few months ago to take care of her family. She alleged that Santosh never stuck to one job and hardly took care of their parents.
How do some TOI and Navbharat Times commentators view this news?
We continue to excuse the use of silencing of victims to deceive those who might condemn or provide/find support.
Who does this Silence empower?
Comment: It is their business and public has no right to know that, unless the family relents.
Not just Domestic Violence by husbands, but all violence by family members is excused as a ‘Personal Matter’.
Comment: भाई बहन का निजी मामला है (it’s a personal matter between the brother and the sister) Link
And here – Is this even relevant?
Comment: लड़की भी कोई अच्छा काम नही कर रही थी (the girl was not doing exactly a nice job) Link
This is a possibility,
Comment:… इस लड़की के भई ने अपने उस दोस्त से कुछ पैसा लिया होगा तभी वो जबरदस्ती कर रहा था की वो शाद्दी कर ले … (Maybe he had accepted money from the friend that is why he was trying ot force her to marry him.) Link
Shame, honor, freedom and controls are all linked.
Comment: What a shame young girls working at bar for living and our businessmen, politicians and officers earning in lacs n crores. On the top such brothers with no responsibility and barberic nature’
What I found shameful is that the brother thought he could control where she worked and who she should marry.