What does Patriarchy see as the biggest threat to it’s rigid hierarchical gender stereotypes?
Dads who behave like sensitive, loving, responsible, caring parents – who don’t believe their worth as parents begins and ends at providing, controlling, disciplining and ‘protecting’.
Dads like these – who redefine ‘family’ 🙂
IT WAS the phone call that changed Peter Mercurio’s life forever, although he didn’t know it at the time.
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…Danny, was on the other end, more frantic than he had ever heard him, explaining that he had just found a baby in a New York City Subway station.
“I found a baby!” Pete recalls Danny shouting, in a piece he wrote for The New York Times. “I called 911, but I don’t think they believed me. No one’s coming. I don’t want to leave the baby alone. Get down here and flag down a police car or something.”
Falling in love with my son
“I decided to join him on the visit but I didn’t want to become attached to the baby — which meant I didn’t want to hold him. I also didn’t want to feel like we had to rescue him from a ‘bad’ home. At the home, Danny held the baby, then held him out for me to take. Reflexively, I put my arms out. The baby was in my arms. I was scared to death and trembling, but it melted my resistance. There was an instant bond.”
On the Subway ride home, Pete told Danny that he was in it with him — they were going to be parents. They named their baby Kevin.