My dad tells me not to wear skimpy outfit when he is around – Link shared by Swarup.
According to this article, this dad, ‘has enough time to be a doting father and also gives his little girl thoughtful advices’
And all the comments agree.
‘which dad will not give this advice…!?’
And some assume the ‘thoughtful advices’ are meant to protect the daughter from crimes.
he is a genuine daughter loving father who wants to see her reason with the truth. Under Indian conditions and under Indian policing infrastructure, judicial system, he is giving her the wisest advise through himself.
This belief is so strong – it is almost as if there has been serious research, and as if statistics have found that traditional clothing protects women from assaults. Why do we continue to believe and propagate such Rape Myths?
This mindset takes the focus away from the horror of the crime – it makes serious crimes a matter of shame, honor, clothing, timing, social life etc. And that make it difficult for victims to report sexual crimes.
Also consider – if a young woman has been ‘advised’ against wearing ‘skimpy’ clothes, isn’t there a risk that she might blame herself [link] if she is sexually harassed? What if the blaming and shaming silences her?
Yes, Indian conditions are frightening – but lies and myths have not protected women through the centuries. Why don’t we see that this doesn’t work?
Confidence and Awareness are more realistic tools. Equally (or more) empowering is having a Voice.
Also, the understanding that like any other crime, this crime too can only be controlled by putting the fear of the consequences in the mind of the criminal.
I wonder if instead of risking silencing with shame about clothing (or anything else) maybe a doting father would assure his support and love – no matter what.
That alone would be a step towards two of the three most powerful tools, towards Confidence and towards having a Voice.