‘I felt like a raped woman being told How could you wear such clothes?’

When we don’t acknowledge (or understand) that only the criminals are to be blamed for crimes, then how do we even begin to control crimes?

Don’t we need to ask the right questions, to reach accurate conclusions, if justice is to be done?

Were the alleged suggestions about the beard or the alleged questions about the colour of the girls’ clothing relevant or unprejudiced? 

“I have people telling me I shouldn’t have gone there, in such a remote area (if there is one of the most famous schools there, a very big mall coming up, a lot of residences, how the f*** is it remote? that too at 4pm in broad daylight) Having shot there at least six times, I trusted the location more than anything.

I felt like a raped woman being told How could you wear such clothes? That’s what attracts these men to rape. Firstly, they aren’t men if they are rapists. Secondly, that’s exactly how I felt yesterday.”


Do read this personal account at: The beard, eight stitches and a scar, By Divesh Idnani from Pune

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5 thoughts on “‘I felt like a raped woman being told How could you wear such clothes?’

  1. I HATE the blame that goes on raped women. Why were you alone, why were you dressed that way? Why did you go at night. All the “whys” asked to a rape victim takes the blame off the horrid animal rapist and places it on the innocent victim! In other words society sees a girl wearing a dress, walking at night as being the guilty one. It makes me sick and so angry.


  2. The strangest thing is, we are told not to wear ‘provocative’ clothes. In other words, we are not to reveal much of our body for fear of turning on men who are unable to control their male members and will assault us to get a piece of the action. This is the kind of society we are protecting with our toothless laws?!


  3. The police need to be trained in asking questions objectively and conducting a professional investigation. Instead our police are controlled by corrupt politicians. Violence against children is condoned in the name of “teaching them”, violence against women is condoned in the name of “modesty” or “wifely duties”, violence against the average man on the street is shrugged off as “there’s nothing we can do about it” or “it’s not our problem”. Violence is fully justified in movies, even sensible movies – a guy can beat up someone or destroy property because “he’s angry”. (The guy is Kai Po Che destroys someone’s car because he suspects him of being interested in his sister). If we are this easily provoked and have so little control, we belong in jail.

    What we need is a zero tolerance policy for violence, zero tolerance in our minds, I’m not even talking about the law. Yes, our politicians are not going to change, so rather than wait for them to change, ordinary, average people need to wake up and say, “Enough of this nonsense!” Neighbors must stand up for each other, rather than look the other way. One advantage we have in India is numbers. If the entire neighborhood stands up against a few hooligans, they will hesitate or run away. The problem therefore is not so much the hooligans – those exist in every society in the world. The problem is our unending tolerance for hooliganism, our lethargy, our inertia and acceptance of things as they are, our excessive focus on our own personal achievements while our society goes to hell, our unwillingness to start or even support or even participate in any grassroots movements. It’s the ordinary people who would rather look away and save themselves that are the problem. And they would rather continue to live in fear of the day it might happen to them, than standing up for someone else right now.


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