“After babying them endlessly, Indian parents expect to control their kids for the rest of their lives, in exchange for this ‘sacrifice’.”
Do you agree?
What do you think do most Indian parents consider their biggest responsibility towards their children?
What is considered the right way to go about fulfilling that responsibility?
What do you think of this comment by wordssetmefree?
“I am a parent, am in my 40s and let me say this – this is what is wrong with our system, so let’s not continue to perpetrate it. Parents must not baby their children. They must teach them life skills and expect them to grow into mature, responsible beings.
Lessons in responsibility can be taught at a very young age, like in pre-school.
After babying their kids endlessly, they expect to control them for the rest of their lives, in exchange for this ‘sacrifice’.
They control who they should marry, when they should marry, when to have kids, what career to pursue, etc.
Now in their 20s, the kids finally wake up, and want to make a few personal choices in their life, and find that they are unable to. Nothing in their childhood prepares them to be confident, to make a single independent decision. Never once were they allowed to make a mistake and bear the responsibility of their own actions. So, they stumble through life, continuing to please their parents while hating it, afraid to take a chance, and give up their dreams.
Every little rebellion is accompanied by enormous guilt that their parents gave them so much and all they give in return is rebellion.
Making a personal choice is seen as rebellion. Having a different opinion is seen as rebellion. You can listen to your parents and be unhappy or you can go against them and feel guilty – those are your choices. Is this really a healthy way to live??
Let’s break this cycle.
As parents, let’s teach kids to be responsible and mature, and let’s not see all the time and effort we put into parenting as a sacrifice. It’s not. We chose to have kids and it’s a joy to help them grow up and understand the world around the. Our effort and love are not an investment and let’s not expect a ‘payback’ in the form of control. Let’s not interfere in their personal decisions, and allow them to be full-fledged, capable, happy, guilt-free, confident adults.”
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