How many women would dare to say this?

How many women would dare to express their displeasure like this young woman did? Or even think about it? Why or why not?

Not many, I think. Because the idea of a young Indian woman (and that too a Prospective Bride!) forgetting her place and disagreeing (with anybody, but most specially with the Ladke Wale) is more horrifying for most, than the idea of women being seen as objects or appliances (whose sole purpose in life is to Get Married and ensure that the lives of their spouse and his family are made comfortable).

Also, because traditionally the young, specially young women, have less right to respect than everybody else. (Although they are expected to earn, live and die for it)

But I wonder if maybe the Prospective Mother in law and the Prospective Groom (with their sense of entitlement) are victims too. Maybe they have never really wondered if they really want a partner/ family member, or a Devoted Coffee Maker with Dowry, Degrees and a dispensable career, eager to provide them with male heirs?

Do you think the young woman could have handled it any other way? (Here her reaction served the purpose of the commercial ofcourse)

Do you think it is possible to change a system without criticising it and without offending those who directly benefit from the status quo?

Anyway, I liked this ad. Thanks for sharing Sikander.

And here is another one,

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69 thoughts on “How many women would dare to say this?

        • I think the ads are confrontational in tone. The content & stance is fine, but from a pragmatic perspective, such blunt disagreements usually raise the resistance of the party you’re trying to convince. I really enjoyed the earlier Havell ads which did hawa badlegi… it was a very smooth and persuasive way to do things. The latest ads were weird.. almost like they had a personal vendetta and feminism was the cloak of their barb.

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  1. Haha, I’ve seen these ads as well, I think they’re hilarious.

    Times are changing indeed, but I also wonder how many ‘middle class’ prospective Indian brides would say something like this.

    “Do you think it is possible to change a system without criticising it and without offending those who directly benefit from the status quo?”

    No, I do not. Those who benefit from the status quo will fight tooth and nail (as is human nature) to retain their hold on society. It’s only when those on the bottom rungs of the social hierarchy fight back, that there’ll be any sort of change.

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  2. Many during these times, my sis in law recently turned down a marriage proposal as the guys demands soared from sofa, to AC to LED and then no to further studies …and imagine this comes from an REC engineer😦

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  3. I feel people are bound to get offended when something they are benefiting from/ or doing is criticized. So, that is okay. I liked the ads especially the coffee machine one because it is so true even today.Maybe, this ad will make some people think twice before making such stupid statements.

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  4. Loved all the new Havell ads. I am quite sure most(almost all actually) will not react this way. This includes me. I have so many times wanted to do something similar but refrained due to various reasons. Some are here

    Some of these alliances are referred by close friends or acquaintances and offending these guests means offending the referring friends
    Tradition: guests are not to be offended. At my place, you are allowed to disagree but such a behavior would be considered out-right arrogance
    Avoid social alienation(for my parents). News spreads fast. One such reply and you become talk of the town pretty soon. And lets face it we need people. We cannot live like islands. Plus I stay far off from my place. When in need these “society” people are the ones who help my folks. They are there everyday to share their joys and sorrows much more than me. So I cannot make my parents look bad and leave the place for them to face the unpleasant consequences

    I do however make subtle attempts to make it clear that I am not a cooking machine. One way is, when I am asked if I can cook, after I answer I ask if the guy can cook. That does the trick most of the times.

    Any better way of doing this? suggestions welcome🙂

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  5. Reblogged this on anotherdayanothertime and commented:
    Very good Havells. Now find a better way to sell your appliances to women. Know why? Respect for women is not just about using your appliances to accomplish the work that traditionally falls to women’s lot. Men need to respect themselves. Every individual MUST know how to cook regardless of how often he/she needs to do it in life; In fact, every individual should take his own responsibility and work on being the least burden he can on others. That way, it would mean that you flush after use (women’s public toilets are dirty as hell, as far as I can say), you clean up after you eat, you fold your own clothes and pack your own bags, etc. And of course, cook your own food. Having said that, a division of labour in running a household is an amazing thing to carry forward but at the same time, watching TV while your wife cooks, lays out the table – just waiting for that invite when she has filled your plate and poured your glass of water, lounging around in the bed until late while your wife fills in for the domestic help who hasn’t turned up… that is shameful. What I find most ridiculous is when women claim to be the Goddess of their kitchens, men down them saying that world’s most famous chefs are men, while if you ask them to learn to cook, at least make a cup of tea, they say they cannot do it “because we’ve never learnt”. And the argument continues…

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  6. women are their own enemies. During a family gathering me and hubby were chatting with my masi( moms younger sister). She has a daughter and the topic was her marriage. my hubby suggested to know the girls wish first then to proceed . She told she is not favor of Love marriage.
    We argued for that but she didn’t like those argument.
    She told us about a proposal so i was like please give some time to both boy and girl to know each other. The reply from my masi was shocker of the day. She argued if we are allowing them to meet then it is again considered as love marriage. and she gave my example. I met my hubby through my parents. But we were not asked to say yes to proposal without knowing each other. We got around six month to know each other and then got engaged. After engagement also my dad was like i can say no at any point of time. So my masi considers that to be a love marriage. I don’t have any issue with that. The next thing was like as i got so much time to know each other my hubby has become joru ka gulam. She considers him JKG because we both are very friendly to each other and i can share anything with him
    I feel sorry for my cousin. She likes a boy but i know that relation will go nowhere. Don’t know how to change the mind of an educated person. My masi works for a bank. She has a good circle of friends. But still she has views of year 1800.

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    • Ummm…your maasi has a problem with a JKG for her daughter? Something isn’t right with that picture. She wants her daughter to be with someone who may or may not stick up for her? Wonderful mother, indeed

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  7. Very good Havells. Now find a better way to sell your appliances to women. Know why? Respect for women is not just about using your appliances to accomplish the work that traditionally falls to women’s lot. Men need to respect themselves. Every individual MUST know how to cook regardless of how often he/she needs to do it in life; In fact, every individual should take his own responsibility and work on being the least burden he can on others. That way, it would mean that you flush after use (women’s public toilets are dirty as hell, as far as I can say), you clean up after you eat, you fold your own clothes and pack your own bags, etc. And of course, cook your own food. Having said that, a division of labour in running a household is an amazing thing to carry forward but at the same time, watching TV while your wife cooks, lays out the table – just waiting for that invite when she has filled your plate and poured your glass of water, lounging around in the bed until late while your wife fills in for the domestic help who hasn’t turned up… that is shameful. What I find most ridiculous is when women claim to be the Goddess of their kitchens, men down them saying that world’s most famous chefs are men, while if you ask them to learn to cook, at least make a cup of tea, they say they cannot do it “because we’ve never learnt”. And the argument continues…

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  8. The clips goes a long way in its bit to educate us on the sad patriarchy laden with stupid and false notions of norms. Sad fact is our system is built in a way to exploit women and expect them to act in a certain way. Wish more companies will come up with such ads to spark awareness. Brilliant:)

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  9. Ads re made for people ot notice.. they hardly are made for the good of the society or mankind..
    this as surly has done the job.. of making people talk and no wonder bring the product by havells to the households..

    JOB DONE ………..

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    • Ads are made for people to notice product. Right, that’s the aim of the advertisers. But the rest of us are free to use it as a talking point, or to start a discussion on whatever aspect of society it is reflecting or not reflecting. Most always we talk of ads, movies not because we do not know the purpose of the people behind it, we do, but we’d also like to bring forth a point through it.

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  10. A few months before I got married i was visiting my inlaws when someone in the extended family suggested that MIL teach me everything so I will be trained to serve the husband by the time we got married. To that my MIL quickly replied that her son wants a wife not a cook! That memory will always be special and it still brings a smile to my face🙂

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  11. To answer your questions IHM,
    Not many,may be 10 percent of Indian women,may dare to answer that way.
    Because women are not supposed to have opinions of their own,let alone air them in the open.To be specific, women in a patriarchal sytem are not allowed to have opinions that defy age old norms.It shakes the very foundation of society and The Great Indian Culture and Tradition, the onus of which Men are not expected to uphold.

    The prospective MIL is not a victim.Its just the prospective groom who is a victim, but he does not even know it. The minute he knows it, the prospective bride’s posiotion as a victim can be less pathetic.She can fight her battles with his support.

    Loved the way the young woman responded.

    It is impossible to change the system wihout criticizing it and without offending those who benefit from the status quo.
    The reason is, sadly, when we criticize the system, we end up criticizing those who benefit from it. Because our hatred for, and criticism of, the system rubs off on the people who are benefitting from it.

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  12. In arranged marriage, the boy is valued by his ability to be an ATM machine. The girl is valued by her ability to be a food processor. Both are victims.

    The woman in the ad presumably does not work outside the home. Ok…so she rejects the guy after seeing his attitude to women. I wonder if the woman would have even considered a guy who would ask her to go out and work while he plays homemaker.

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    • Well I did….wen we moved abroad my hubby took a brk for 8 months taking care of our kid while I worked outside.We never had any prob with this arrangent

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    • “The woman in the ad presumably does not work outside the home”…Why? What is there in the ad that makes you presume that the woman does not work outside the home? Is it the ad that makes you presume…or is it yourself?🙂

      Boy: Do not try and bend the spoon. That’s impossible. Instead… only try to realize the truth.
      Neo: What truth?
      Boy: There is no spoon.
      Neo: There is no spoon?
      Boy: Then you’ll see, that it is not the spoon that bends, it is only yourself.

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    • “The woman in the ad presumably does not work outside the home. ”

      And you’re presuming that based on what exactly? Your own prejudice, or some concrete fact that stood out to you in that ad?

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      • Because the vast majority of young Indians working in the US like the boy in the ad are on H-1B visas that don’t allow spouses to work. So it is pretty safe to assume she wont work after marriage.

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        • In contrast, to me she seems like an educated, well read woman, who would most probably have a career. There are other visas which allow spouses to work, and people often obtain a work permit after a few months of staying there. And by your logic, who is to say she doesn’t have a career in India?

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  13. People here who want husbands to cook with their wives should also ask the wives then to go out there and do work and contribute financially. You cannot expect men to go out there for work and wives to sit and relax at home watching soap operas and blaming patriarchy if their husbands asks for a cup of coffee after sweating themselves out in the sun.

    Most middle class families have domestic help anyways. Also many men and women prefer to live that way, men working out women taking care of the home. Neither job is easy and both contribute equally to the households. If both are working out, then both should contribute to the household chores. And in most of the households it is that way. Its only feminists who have problems, they just want society to treat them like little princess, they want privileges without taking any responsibilities. Instead be like a queen, have privileges but also take responsibilities.

    BDW, just washing dishes and cooking food are not the “only” household chores.

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    • “Neither job is easy and both contribute equally to the households”…Yes…but only one job gets paid and only one person’s contribution is usually recognized…the other person’s contribution is carelessly trivialized as “sit and relax at home watching soap operas”.

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      • I’m glad you caught the contradiction. I don’t bother replying to these posters who are obvious trolls because I’ve been on them internets since I was 13–at 29, I apply my version of tl;dr which is it;db (is troll; don’t bother).

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    • You’re telling me that you know no families where the wife goes to work and is still expected to treat her husband and his family like these little babies who cannot make a cup of coffee for themselves? Do you live on an island or are you willfully blind to the plight of the working daughter in law?

      Remember that you get a break from work outside the home but stuff doesn’t magically get done at home over the weekend. When do you think homemakers ever get a break from “their responsibilities”?

      “Its only feminists who have problems, they just want society to treat them like little princess, they want privileges without taking any responsibilities. Instead be like a queen, have privileges but also take responsibilities.” – I have nothing to say to you about this except that you have no clue what feminism is about. I am as feminist as they come and no, I do not hate men(I happen to love and cherish the men in my life), I do not shy away from household chores(at 37 weeks pregnant I can still hold my own although my dear husband would rather have me soak my swollen feet in hot water), we do not split chores like we’re roommates(whoever has more energy on a given day picks up the slack). Things we ask for are quite simple. It’s not all about the bra burning, you know?

      Please go and meet some real women before you sit up in your high horse and pass judgement on us “princesses”.

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    • Wow, science has progressed so much? Watching soap operas gets work done in the house?!! I have been a homemaker for 32 years. I didn’t know watching soap operas could magically get food cooked and also lay the table, wash dirty dishes, wash and dry clothes (including removing tough stains!!), sweep and mop the floors, get the tiffins ready, take care of the old people, get the grocery shopping done etc etc. Watching which soap operas gives homemakers this benefit please?!!!
      It beats me why men want to go out and do all the work if they think housework is so easy? Who is forcing them? Show some initiative, stay home, send your wife to work and get all the benefits of an “easy life” of homemaking duties! By the way try telling these men that their “mother dear” does no work and is lolling at home watching soap operas, then you will see some fireworks. When it is the wife, then it is different.
      And another thing makes me curious. Why are people so jealous of middle-class family homemakers having household help? Do middle-class family men do all the work in their office, like sweeping of office, getting chai, cleaning of office toilets, typing, laying the bricks t a construction site, mixing cement, carrying loads, digging up trenches, cutting down trees, climbing electric posts (take your pick) etc etc on their own? Even a chef does only the cooking. The food is served by the waiter!! Why do some men pretend as if they don’t have people working beneath them to ease their work?!!
      If the wife can make a cup of coffee for herself between her chores, the husband can come home and make a cup of coffee himself too. Arrey… after all isn’t he the invincible male? Come on, if he cannot even make one measly cup of coffee after a measly day in the sun, how shameful it is for the whole of *man*kind!

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      • Excellent point about telling these men that their homemaker mom does nothing at home and just sits around like a princess. I have no experience being a homemaker – in my very short marriage we have both worked and have always split chores as the situation called for. So your perspective as a homemaker was pretty phenomenal to get. “Why do some men pretend as if they don’t have people working beneath them to ease their work?!!” – this summarizes absolutely everything that needs to be said.

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    • I think ours is one of the few households were both of us work and both of us share the tasks at home including caring for kids. I know closely another 8-10 indian families and in all of them the wife works and comes home to cook, sure the husband does some work ( SOME) , but not proportionate. and i don’t mean splitting the task in the middle.
      I also know of 6/7 cousins back home who dont work and do all the work at home – albeit with the help of a maid for cleaning etc., they also carry the full load of caring for kids, hw, school visits, extra activities,groceries, laundry etc., etc., in addition to cooking ,cleaning, supervising the erractic maid and serving the in-laws. the man : goes to work, comes home and puts his feet up.
      no relaxing and whining..

      yes this is a teeny tiny sample, but for me. It’s an eye opener. so i hope more of them rise and up and question the status quo. or at the very least think of some suitable revenge when the man retires🙂

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    • see, the problem is not the distribution of work.. but the problem is when the husband starts treating his wife as a paid employee, when in reality it’s just a volunteer work😀

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    • “You cannot expect men to go out there for work and wives to sit and relax at home watching soap operas and blaming patriarchy if their husbands asks for a cup of coffee after sweating themselves out in the sun.”

      Wow. Congratulations. I had no idea that all housewives did were stay at home and watch soap operas! I mean, forget about budgeting the household expenses, raising children to be human beings, making sure that every one is fed, ensuring that everyone’s schedule is kept well, making sure that everyone spends time together as family, and more, were all so ridiculously easy that such women have all the time in the world to sit around and watch TV all day!

      First of all, your attitude about housewives is absolutely atrocious. No, seriously. I suggest you actually go speak to such women. And I mean actually speak to them, not exchange two words and then observe them silently and make up such ridiculous conjecture. What they do is not easy. It is just as hard, and deserves just as much recognition as whatever work their husbands would do outside of the home. This goes for men who choose to be homemakers as well. And yes, if at the end of the day, after doing all this, they have every right to refuse their husbands a cup of coffee if their husbands are absolutely unsympathetic towards them and their work, just like you are. In fact, they have every right to dump that coffee on such men for saying something so dismissive and offensive.

      “Its only feminists who have problems, they just want society to treat them like little princess, they want privileges without taking any responsibilities. Instead be like a queen, have privileges but also take responsibilities.”

      Didn’t realize that wanting to be respected as a human being and not a dispenser of slave labour was asking to be treated like a princess. Or that wanting to be treated like a human being is only if you can take responsibility (in which case, most men would not be classified as humans). Hm. Thank you so much for the clarification.

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      • To everyone who replied-

        I never said anything bad about housewives ok. In fact I have clearly written “men working out women taking care of the home. Neither job is easy and both contribute equally to the households”. I don’t have any problem with housewives or working women. I have problem with feminists, and women!= feminism. Feminists should not flatter themselves that they represent all women.

        About the soap operas thing, I don’t think there is anything wrong if anyone watches them be it regularly or occasionally. I wrote that part actually for feminists, and the complete sentence was – ” you cannot expect wives to sit and relax at home watching soap operas and blaming patriarchy if their husbands asks for a cup of coffee after sweating themselves out in the sun”.

        As for me not understanding feminism, whenever feminism is attacked its defenders just resort to the same cliche- ‘oh you don’t understand feminism’, ‘its about equality’, ‘its about equal respect for women’. They are as much about these things as those congi and bjp guys are about “secularism and hinduism”.

        Somebody in one of the above posts replied ” we do not split chores like we’re roommates(whoever has more energy on a given day picks up the slack)”. Yes definitely, and that should be the way. Relationships are not any business deals where everyone’s work is fixed. And in most of the houses it is that way. But feminists cannot understand that, so like if they hear one case where say a housewife is “truely” oppressed they would project it onto many other housewives thinking “oh she is a housewife, her husband asks her to cook, she must be oppressed”. What if the husband works outside a very physical job ? What if the wife herself prefers it that way ? So many of their private and mutual things between the couples that you don’t know. Don’t just look at the surface and argue why it is not flat, try to look beneath it and first understand why it is not flat, and if necessary than think about how you can make it flat.

        I am not denying that their are households where women are indeed oppressed. I have also seen many cases where its the opposite, though the former outnumbers. And definitely there needs to be run many campaigns to educate such people but feminism is not the way. They have a habit of painting society with a very broad brush and just create an anti-male environment. Rather be a humanist which I believe many people who think of themselves as feminists (coz of that dictionary definition) indeed are, atleast in India. I realized that about myself long long ago. So if there is a tragedy think of victims as humans “first”, rather than thinking about them being male or female.

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        • I think your issue is that you haven’t been exposed to true feminism which is just another form of egalitarianism. You are really just confusing feminists with misandrists (or whatever word you have for the radicals). On IHM’s blog especially, we all stand for equality, not men blaming or role reversal.

          You say: “But feminists cannot understand that, so like if they hear one case where say a housewife is “truely” oppressed they would project it onto many other housewives thinking “oh she is a housewife, her husband asks her to cook, she must be oppressed”

          I don’t think anybody here thinks a wife cooking for her husband is oppression. But imagine this situation. The homemaker (female in this case) has had a tiring day, she has been out in the hot sun doing errands, picking up the kids form school, sweating it out in the kitchen and is completely knackered by the end of the day. The husband comes home from office just as she is sitting down to relax . In your opinion, is it bad for the woman to ask him to get his own coffee? As a homemaker is it her duty to put her fatigue aside and serve him coffee? Because that is the general impression I get from your two comments.

          There are plenty feminist homemakers (some of whom have commented above), and none of them sit around blaming the patriarchy for it. You seem to think that all homemakers are deeply unhappy with their lives, this is gross misappropriation. Many stay at home out of a choice (men too). Another misunderstanding you have is of what a homemaker actually does. Its not all fun and frolic at home with a comfy couch and her favorite TV serials on. I know my mom’s (a homemaker out of choice) daily schedule, and she barely gets a free moment. There are often people in and out of the house all day that she has to deal with, along with other chores.

          Your understanding of a homemaker’s life seems to stem form shitty TV shows where her purpose in life is seen as having to cook and serve the husband. Learn a little more about their lives before you tell us what they ‘like’ doing. Also, read up a little more about actual feminism. It is a form of egalitarianism that focuses on injustices to women, which, especially in India, you have to blind or extremely stupid to deny the existence of.

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        • ” And in most of the houses it is that way. But feminists cannot understand that, so like if they hear one case where say a housewife is “truely” oppressed they would project it onto many other housewives thinking “oh she is a housewife, her husband asks her to cook, she must be oppressed”.” – now you’re raising a strawman. I am the one that said those words you quoted and I am a feminist. So there, feminists do understand how it is to support and expect support.

          “They have a habit of painting society with a very broad brush and just create an anti-male environment. ” – which part of “I am as feminist as they come and no, I do not hate men(I happen to love and cherish the men in my life)” did you not understand? You know what it is? This society has been anti-female for so long that when women are pushing back and asking for equal rights, you think it’s oppressing males. After all, why would someone in power willingly give up that position of advantage, eh?

          What exactly is the difference between your definition of humanist and our definition of feminist? Aren’t we all asking for equal rights for all and respect for every human being’s strengths and weaknesses? If you go through this blog and it’s comments, we have repeatedly said that men are as much a victim of patriarchy as women are. In the first ad that was quoted here, did you notice how uncomfortable the potential groom looked by his mom’s infantilization of him? I consider him a victim. He probably wants an equal partner to love and cherish but all his mother wants for him is a glorified maid who will slave over him. This is what we are talking about. Victims are not all female nor are oppressors all male.

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        • “They have a habit of painting society with a very broad brush”. And what are you doing?

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  14. Loved these ads. Saw one on TV and then googled for more🙂
    If I recall,the same brand did a ‘Hawa Badal Rahi Hai’ campaign a while ago, that showed amongst other things, a couple taking the wife’s surname etc.

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  15. Wonderful ad, where can I buy more Havell products?This is the kind of message that should be sent into Indian homes where such expectations about women are considered the norm. These Indian folks don’t have the mindset and capacity to think or believe anything beyond their old school traditional values treating women like shit. Hopefully more young girls will watch this ad and atleast have some inspiration of gutsy women which they probably don’t see in their daily lives amongst mothers/aunts/elder cousins.

    On a side note, they really need to export these wonderful Indian dry wet grinders, food processors in US suck for any chutney or dosa tasks. Yeah I am a hard core feminist, but I love cooking once every two weeks. For rest of the days, the guy better know how to manage on his own or order pizza.

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  16. My FIL came to see me and asked me if i knew to cook , specially make idlis???? to which my brother piped up with ‘ she burns maggi so no cooking , we dont let her in the kitchen’ ( of course i knew the basics). to my FILS’s horrified look my MIL calmy said ; dont worry ma, my son has been living alone for more than 3 yrs and can cook healthy food ‘
    – It was so sweet her reassurance, not that i needed it considering that was one point of his i was attracted to .

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  17. As someone who is sorta, um, kinda, err, tangentially, in the arranged merez market, and as someone who has had a lot of friends who are getting married (and clogging ze social media feed) I feel this ad is quite dated.

    Almost every girl I know would have booted out prospective grooms and their families if they’d behaved like this. Most of them seem to take good control over their marriage process. Almost all of them expect to date the guy for a while, get to know him and actually make him propose and stuff. One cousin dated the arranged marriage candidate for a full 6 months much to the chagrin of their parents. And later complained it wasn’t enough time.

    I see quite a few Indian dudes getting on the game and doing well – They wouldn’t have let their moms speak like in the first ad.

    Of course, I speak for myself and my circles and not the rest of the wonderfully diverse land that is India.

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  18. I saw this ad on Tumblr.🙂 I loved it! I’ve been doing this for years (never on this scale though), whenever my dad holds out his plate and asks me to put it in the sink (so that he doesn’t have to get up from watching the news), I would always point and give him directions to the nearest sink.🙂 My grandma also does the same thing. Whenever he sits down expecting food to be served to him, she’ll tell him that he has two hands and should probably put them to good use. And while I don’t think my sister would ever bring out the coffee maker, she’d probably say something like, “Coffee makers are real cheap in the market nowadays if you wanted that!”

    I love that this ad points out how ridiculous it is to expect someone (often times the woman) to do these types of things. It’s not cute, or funny, that men in society are brought up to think its normal that they aren’t self-sufficient and that they need women to take care of them all the time. If you rely on others to cook for you, or bring you cups of coffee all the time, you’re really more of a child than a functioning adult, and that should be something that is insulting to all men (rather than the fact that them doing “women’s work” is insulting).

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  19. I m working so in my home we both do household work jointly….He hates cooking n I hate cleaning…So I cook n hubby cleans up😀 Though some ppl consider him joru gulaam….but who give a damm to then anyways.Its our life n we can live in whatever way we want

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  20. I loved the ad, I thought it was very fun. It totally sounds like something a Firangi Bahu would say LOL!
    But really, it is pretty gross how the mother babies her son like that. Eww. Make your own damn coffee! Hahaha

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