Sharing an email. And this has been the story of almost every married, domestic helper, who has ever worked for me.
I’ll get straight to the point. (And my terminology may be very politically incorrect.) My maid is about 30 to 35 years old. She is/was married but her husband left her for another woman. Either way, she wears a thaali. Her son is about 12 years old. She lives with her parents.
Last night her father came home drunk and beat her violently. He also injured her son and told them to leave the house. His main problem was that even after getting her married, she was still with him. l speak very broken Tamil so l got only the gist of it. Her son is temporarily safe at her sister’s house and she is sleeping in my neighbour’s house. However, l need a long term answer. She’s also very, very depressed. So l thought of finding a helpline she can call.
Obviously she needs her own place. We support her son’s education so that’s not the main issue. The question is more about what l can do to help her physically and emotionally. And how l can help her realize that it’s ok to not be with her husband etc.
What should l be doing? What good is my feminism if l don’t help this woman and l don’t ensure that her son at least knows there are options and he doesn’t need to be like his father and grandfather…