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Hope you are doing well,and having loads of fun with brat three 🙂
I am a silent reader of your blog and today just want to say a few words to all those girls who get into relationships and gradually just get sucked into the whirlpool of non sense .If you know what i mean.I am not talking about marriages here,but relationships which become possessive and mean and smart girls loose out on many a precious years struggling with those.
I am a 26 year old chirpy girl, suffering from breast cancer,but i am in a beautiful relationship that works as my life drug.We both have known each other since the last eight years,been in a committed relationship since four.When i was diagnosed with cancer,i asked him to leave me since i was suffering from low self esteem and was in denial,but this guy has stuck around and been my rock of Gibraltar,ever since.
He has been instrumental in making me join work.I now work as a special needs educator in a very good school in NCR.He has boosted what we call a HSE- a healthy self esteem.Loves it when i get all dressed up,likes clicking pictures,going out,reading,watching movies or just fooling around! He treats me just normal.Is very caring when i am in pain,understands when i sleep for days on end because of medicines.The best part is while i am nursing myself back to good health,he ensures that he has a healthy social life,goes on trips,explores various places,pursues his love for photography,has his boy parties,plays cricket,goes running and comes home happy.
Never has he once made me feel that he is doing some favor to me,by being with a girl who is unable to go out on trips or looses energy quickly,or does not hang out with him as much.
He constantly inspires me to do well in my career,is super happy when i tell him tales of children at school.Is proud when i attend conferences et all.
I love the fact that i am never flooded with calls or texts asking me where and with whom i am,instead,it is a text or call to find out if i am doing fine,or that he is thinking of me!
He has never forced me or tried talking me into to having sex with him.NOT EVEN ONCE. We have been in innumerable situations where we are cuddling and can,but never has he done that.It makes me feel so nice (lack of better word). Always being appreciative of my body ( i am no runway model,and like all men and women,i also feel a few things could be better), even when he noticed that i was loosing hair after chemo,he just smiled a knowing smile.
This relationship has given me a confidence,where i know whatever i say,will be heard,a step that i take will be appreciated, a text is looked forward to,a call is valued.I know for sure that he will not raise his voice at me,since i will not take it.I also know that i cannot call him names,shout at him as he will never take it.Neither of us can say condescending things about each other’s families.A few ground rules that we have laid down for ourselves as self respecting individuals.
My point here is for girls who are in the age group pf 17-27 that,it is totally unacceptable to be with a guy who constantly calls you to know your whereabouts,who speaks in a degrading manner about your body,does not value your decisions and ideas and most importantly does not value your professional growth.He should value you as a woman,a human with your own ideas and aspirations and respect them.
He has been an amazing person to be with and i am glad we found each other.We have discovered that relationships can be be beautiful,only if we know our non-sense threshold.Please don’t waste your valuable time being in relationships that leave you emotionally drained and uncomfortable.Rather be in relationships that make us a little more kick ass than we already are:)
More power to LOVE !
Lots of love