In a society where all women, including the ‘educated and high earning women’ are under pressure to Get married and Stay married [link], and provide male heirs [this email]; and where not just the family elders [link1, link2] but even the courts [link] and counsellors [link] remind them that education and self reliance should not alter their
traditional patriarchal values; where a huge majority have no real say in when they choose to marry [link] or be mothers [link],[link 2], how much say would a woman have in ensuring that the terms of a postnup do not reinforce patriarchal values [link] biased against her?
[If pre and postnups were an option]
DG from girlsguidetosurvival.wordpress.com shared the link below and asked,
“When most women and their families lament lack of eligible bachelors will a postnup for educated, high earning women be an option or an utopia? Will it be possible for Indian women to negotiate a postnup when finding a mate is a feat in itself?’
A woman’s child-rearing years are usually her highest-earning years. …. For most women, the phase of life devoted to child-rearing and the phase of life devoted to corporate-ladder-climbing tend to overlap.
So, when you leave the workforce to become a stay-at-home mom, you’ll also be walking away from a career that is just starting to gain traction. Unfortunately, you won’t be able to rewind the clock and get that time back. A postnup establishes how you’ll be financially compensated for those “lost years” if you and your husband end up divorcing.
As you draw up your postnup, both you and your husband can thoughtfully consider important factors, such as the amount of salary you’re sacrificing and the value (in dollars and cents) of the childcare you’re providing.
Because your postnup clearly defines the issues surrounding your decision to leave your job, it’s likely you’ll find it strengthens your marriage. It can blunt future disagreements and will form the basis for continued constructive dialogue about your family finances.