“What’s going on with men why do so many men rape women in our society and all over the world, why do so many men rape other men? Why is that a common problem in our society and all over the world?”
“How can we do something differently, how can we change the practices, how can we change the socialization of boys and the definitions of manhood that lead to these current outcomes?”
Alexandra Madhavan shared this link where Jackson Katz suggests we ask a different set of questions.
Violence against women—it’s a men’s issue: Jackson Katz at TEDxF
Let me share some of the points he made.
IHM: In the Indian context, would you say the traditional pressure to Get Married Stay-Married (mainly for women) plays a part in ‘helping produce abusive men’?
“The question is what are we doing here and in our society, in the world; what are the roles of various institutions in helping to produce abusive man with the religious belief systems, the sports culture, the pornography culture, that the family structure, economics … at pandemic rates because this isn’t about individual perpetrators – that’s a naive way of understanding what is a much deeper and more systematic social problem.
Once we start making those kinda connections and asking those important and big questions then we can talk about how we can help.”
Man’s Man? No thanks. – Cynically Engineered
Honor and Masculinity: How Patriarchy Warps Your Thinking – Cynically Engineered
Boys don’t cry. – Starry Eyed