Why should all acts of sexual harassment be taken seriously, even when there is no grievous physical injury? Because the mindset that makes men commit street sexual harassment is the same mindset that makes men commit heinous, aggravated rapes.
And because before a criminal commits a rape, he has generally got away with ‘eve teasing’ – street sexual harassment. Ram Singh in Delhi and the rapists in Bombay had committed similar crimes before they were arrested for rapes.
Desi Girl of GGTS shared this llink,
Hours after filing a First Information Report or FIR against Congress MP N Peethambara Kurup for alleged molestation, actress Shweta Menon issued a press statement saying she will withdrawn her complaint against Mr Kurup after his “repeated apology.” “In the wake of Mr Peetambhara Kuroop’s repeated public and personal apology about the incident at the President’s Boat Race at Kollam, I am withdrawing all legal and other actions against him,” a press release issued by the actress said.
Does this public apology indicate ‘a lesson learnt’ and would it discourage other sexual criminals?
Also, is sexual harassment a crime against the one victim who reports it or against the society (since such crimes make it extremely difficult for women to exercise their rights and freedoms – which leads to oppression and facilitates crimes)?
But most of all, what makes a man molest a woman or a child? I don’t mean his confidence that the crime would not be reported or he would not suffer any consequences – but what makes him want to molest someone? What makes him want to humiliate or hurt? And so, what does such an alleged sexual criminal mean if he asks for forgiveness for molesting? Does he mean he has started seeing women as people? Does it mean he has understood (how? when?) that no matter what the circumstances, he would not be ‘provoked’ to hurt another person? And seeing the propensity to ‘lose control’ should such people be allowed in public spaces?
My first reaction was actually to feel grateful. Grateful that the sexual crime was reported and the alleged molester (or other random people) didn’t say Indian culture (i.e. Patriarchy?) was being saved by teaching a lesson to the woman who was harassed. (like here).
DG says: “What is this business of apology and forgiving the sexual harassers. Will this really bring about a change? Two sentences on the national TV saying I am sorry and it was a misunderstanding will it teach any lesson to anyone – both the harasser and those contemplating of doing so in future. Both abused and the abuser are high profile public figures so what message are they sending to common people. Are the public figures even accountable of their private actions as means of social responsibility? If law makers cannot be held accountable what do we expect from common masses?”
Here is a TOI comment that I expected to hear – instead of an apology.
Its nothing but cheap publicity stunts thats it.. she can go for all hot and bold scene on screen but made an issue of off screen…
How is this TOI commenter unaware that a woman could choose to ‘go for’ any number of ‘all hot and bold scenes’ and would still have the right not to be molested?
Shouldn’t there be awareness campaigns that educate potential sexual criminals about the requirement of consent in sexual acts? Those who make such comments, how do they treat the women in their family, neighborhood and work places? (it doesn’t help that it is still legal for men to rape their wives – Making Marital Rape a legal offence is the fastest way to make it clear that Rape means forced sex, not lost Virginity or Honor.)
And this comment below is why sexual harassment or molestation should not be called ‘outraging a woman’s modesty’,
19 hrs ago
These actresses can go nude on screen and do all the touching and even insertion on screen, but making a big drama off screen! Modesty is lost only if there is any.