A couple of thoughts shared by Anon Girl.
I recently saw this BBC documentary on http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ENNi8Kk0ags (India – A dangerous place to be a woman).
Of course, most of it is to show the rest of the world the culture of sexual violence that most women living in or visiting India are already all too familiar with.
What was interesting though was how the BBC subject reports a 6-month old molestation incident that she herself went through to the Delhi police. As I watch her go inside the police station with her girl friend without the cameras, I was actually afraid for her. I thought she will be either dismissed, mocked or, worst case, be molested by the police itself. Surprise, surprise…the police actually investigates the crime, encourages her to file a report and arrests the criminal. She then appears at court proceedings where a female judge affirms that he will be face severe punishment. Several reasons are given for Delhi police’s shockingly appropriate behavior that she is a foreigner, the recent public pressure on the police, etc. But I believe there is one take away from all this – despite the hurdles that any of us face when we are “eve-teased”, harassed, groped or molested….we all need to make it a point to officially register a complaint, and/or outspokenly condemn such behavior on social media and blogs (a woman actually found her attacker’s facebook account and posted for all to see about what he had done). As long as the men do not understand that they CANNOT and WILL NOT get away with such behavior and criminal acts, the rape culture will not go away. Also, the sheer number of complaints will show that we reject the victim-blaming attitude and will pressure the society into changing their norms. The Indian jails might be more populated than ever though!
I love reading the comments on your blogs – it actually has helped me to be mindful of and question all the “trivial” and “everyday” things that Indian women are expected to do – to shower or not to shower, to wash your husband’s inner wear or not, to stay quiet when someone touches, grabs, or violates your body and well being or not.
Good luck and keep going!