Sharing an email from the email writer who asked, “What if I let go the gold and money, not that I am rich, but they won’t give me a divorce easily…”
After two missed hearings in court, today we went to court, it was at his place (in another district). The update:
Judge (a lady and I did not find her blaming women): Are you ready for a life together with him?
Me: No ma’m.
Judge: You wish to be separated through divorce?
Me: Yes ma’am.
Judge: Have you filed divorce petition?
Me: No ma’am.
Judge: (to the husband) What is the reason behind your wife’s demand?
The husband: Her arrogance!!!
Judge: Oh!!! So, why do you need an arrogant wife? 🙂
The husband: My child is with her.
Judge: So, u need only the child?
The husband: No, I need my wife too if she is willing.
Judge: Okay, you need a counseling, go and fix the date with the counselor.
At the counselor’s it was hell for me (again a lady, but with a different attitude that is what she made me feel ):
Counselor: Can we have a sitting today?
Me: No Ma’am.
Me: I have a 1 year and 7 month old baby at home, need to go at least now, so that I can reach home before 7 in the evening.
Counselor: Okay, then which date do you prefer?
Me: Please fix a date from next month.
Then the husband and his father’s interference.
The husband: I need to go to my workplace tomorrow, so it is better if we have it today.
Counselor : No, she is not willing.
The husband: She is giving excuses, she never attended counseling at women’s commission (as if he had attended every session).
Me: Ma’am, he has been summoned at least 5 times for those sessions, never once did he appear.
Counselor (frustrated, asked me): Are you working dear?
Me: Yes ma’am, I am into IT.
Counselor (her tone changed): You are working, it does not mean you can talk this way.
Me: Surprised!!! What is my fault? what did I say? You have not even listened to what I have to say!!!
Counselor: That is why I told you, we can have the session today itself.
Me: Sorry Ma’am, today I can’t.
Counselor: Why you didn’t bring your kid?
Me: Ma’am, to reach here I started at 4 in the morning, it was raining heavily. How can I bring my kid in this situation?
Counselor (sarcastic): So, nobody is bringing their kids with them, hmmm!!!
Me: Okay ma’am, let me go now, see you on 6/11.
In the midst of this my FIL was interfering and I even had to request her, a third party should not be attending the session.
What do you think? I know this counseling is not going to work, at least it is not going to help me present my case.
In that part of the state, they think DIL should live permanently in her in-laws’ place. The worst part is I can’t stand this pretence and the lies of husband and his relatives. It is giving me a lot of stress, affecting my health also. I contacted one of his cousins who likes me, she told me he is not agreeing to file a mutual petition for divorce. Now, he is after my child. Do you think if I talk to him directly, I can make him come to the point directly? I know I am pestering you a lot nowadays, but I am helpless. That lady’s attitude though mild, did make me sad. Coming from a family where we are subjected to no discrimination, I never expected anything like this will happen to me.
Please don’t publish this, I may be boring your readers 🙂
Next morning, in response to my email:
My mom, dad, sis and my cousins all say not to talk to him. He just want to cause trouble, so even if he talk to me, he will never be reasonable. You can publish this mail. Yesterday, I was very much frustrated, today I am feeling better. I am very much happy that I have a very supportive family and also I happened to find your blog 🙂