Here is a Karvachauth post that makes some ‘scientific’ claims about Hindu women, their happiness, sacrifice, virginity, menstrual cycle etc.
Link shared by GB and Mary.
The post also seems to disapprove of the Hindu Pati Parmeshwar seeing himself as an equal partner in marriage. Because, it seems, men get married and become Gods. Why do women marry?
The white man goes HOO HAA about Sati, where the widow incinerated herself in her husbands’s funeral pyre. It has never been forced on her. [IHM:Unsubstantiated claim 1] When her husband was alive she knows deep in her heart [IHM: Unsubstantiated claim number 2], that he would sacrifice his life to protect her.
Karva Chauth is the day that symbolizes this love and devotion of an Indian woman towards her husband. Indian woman have always considered their husbands as God (pati parmeshwar) and it is her mindset that she must serve and care for him.
Gratitude in a wife is not only her greatest virtue, but is is the parent of all her other virtues. Grateful wives experience very deep levels of happiness.
IHM: Doesn’t apply to Pati Parmeshwar? Does this means being grateful when there is doesn’t seem to be an obvious reason to be grateful? Because…
This mindset of an Indian woman is the reason why divorce percentage is miniscule in India [IHM: Unsubstantiated claim, again] and why she preserves her virginity for her husband
IHM: ‘Preserving virginity’ is generally enforced. Indian educational institutions [link], parents [link] and neighbourhood uncles, even the police and political leaders and sometimes even the legal system [link] work hard to ‘preserve’ Indian women’s virginity. Women can be killed for mere suspicion of having ‘lost’ their virginity, so not sure if they preserve it or Patriarchy does.
Grateful women are happier, less stressed and happier with simple social relationships. [IHM: ‘simple social relationships’?] They do NOT need to attend kitty parties and bitch.
IHM: Basically ‘meet only those who we approve of’? Create no support systems, have no friends of your own, have no OWN, or identity.
… Karva Chauth is a renewal of her commitment and accountability.
IHM: Only women need to be committed and accountable?
Ancient Hindu women never knew PMS problems. [IHM: Unsubstantiated claim number 6]
Probably next year my wife would like to marry off my elder son. All we look for is an attractive girl who will take care of my son, will have the education to teach his kids, and will be a good homemaker.
IHM: Note, they are HIS kids.
I have been married for more than 3 decades.
It never happened that my wife ate a meal before me or along with me– for 3 decades.
Honour is a great factor. Marital love does NOT play to the galleries. Love is embedded in the heart.
IHM: But women need to prove this ’embedded’ love by staying hungry, wearing symbols, sacrificing happiness and being ‘incinerated in her husbands’s funeral pyre’ etc?
Karva Chauth is a festival that every Indian Hindu woman looks forward to [IHM: Unsubstantiated claim number 7, because many women fast under pressure] , despite the fact that she is put to severe inconvenience of fasting without even a sip of water from sunrise to moon rise .
Although today India has moved to modernity, the devotion and spirit of sacrifice of the Indian woman to her beloved husband has not wavered. [IHM: Unsubstantiated claim number 8]
IHM: This can be known only if Hindu women have the option of divorcing without facing any stigma, violence, threats of social boycott and financial difficulties (etc).
The fidelity , selflessness and tolerance of Hindu women, the resilience of Hindu family values, and the tranquillity of the Hindu home [Someone ate without showering, someone didn’t bring mithai! …” ] cannot be explained to a foreigner.
This is where real fountainhead of happiness lies. Happiness is NOT in shaking your as$ in a discotheque or attending boring parties holding a glass forever.
IHM: Happiness is in eating cold meals alone after cooking and serving hot chappaties to the Pati Parmeshwar and his family? (And only after taking a shower – Link) Happiness is in raising HIS male children to grow up to become Pati Parmeshwar so that HIS family name continues. Happiness is in being born male in a culture that sees male humans as Parmeshwar.
Happiness is FREE.
IHM: It comes with dowry.
Our values are different. The wife does NOT breach her husband’s trust.
IHM: Finally, it seems there is science behind this.
Karva Chaut ritual if done the right way, has this mysterious benefit of regularizing a woman’s periods and synchronizing it with the moon..
IHM: Regulating women’s period?! Have you heard this before? ‘Why Indian women wear toe rings (BICHHIYA)? there is a Science Behind this..‘
I didn’t read any further.
Note: Pati + Parmeshwar = Lord and Master + God.