An Open Letter to Young Tamil Men by Niveda Anandan
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Dear Young Tamil Men,
Remember this conversation?
“So what do you think of her?” says one young Tamil man to another.
“She’s banging. But yo, I don’t think she’s the type you’d want to marry,” his friend replies.
“What do you mean? You heard something bad about her?” The young Tamil man presses his friend anxiously but dreads hearing more.
“Well, how do I put this lightly? Let’s just say she’s been around. Her ex told me some messed up things about her. I would stay away from that girl if I were you.”
Let me tell you something that may boggle your mind. Tamil men – you may have to sit down for this one. …. Just as you experience complete sexual liberation, we wish to have the same without being judged and ridiculed as “not marriage material”. We are not objects to be judged as “easy” or “used” and are disgusted that you would even use these terms to describe us.
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The comments are as expected. I would like to respond to just one sentence in this comment:
“…. Yes, Women do get sexual urge but you must know to handle it (applies to men also), perhaps that is why Man is endowed with 6th sense. we aren’t Dogs … this stupid, immature article enlights SEX as epitome of feminist liberty
– Patriarchy can’t survive without controlling women’s sexuality – that is controlling with who, when and why women have sex is at the root of most of the other controls, like how women dress, marry, love, socialise, work, walk, earn, spend, sleep, laugh, talk, smile, look, eat, drink, have children, and which children, including which children they can keep and which they must abandon.Women having a choice in marrying or not marrying means also having a choice in having sex or children or a social life, a partner (or more), self reliance etc without being ‘given away in marriage’. [Marriages are sold to Indian women in a glossy cover…?]
Here’s how it works: Patriarchy decides, Who (- a wedded husband, no matter what the woman feels about him), When (after she is ‘given to him in marriage’, irrespective of whether the woman has consented and is a minor, if he is her husband, in most Patriarchal societies he can rape her), Why (Because a woman is not allowed sex before she is married, or after she is widowed). So is women’s liberation possible without Sexual Liberation?
Please consider – how likely are you to hear opinions like this for men?
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“Girls are morally and socially bound not to indulge in sexual intercourse before a proper marriage, and if they do so, it would be to their peril and they cannot be heard crying later that it was rape,” reads a 19-page order passed by Additional Sessions Judge
Fast track court judge’s shocking justice, says ‘no pre-marital sex before marriage’ – NewsX