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How do you think would women react to such comments from anybody other than the spouse’s parents? Why is it difficult to react the same way with the spouse’s parents?
My weekly off from work falls on Monday. For two years into the marriage, my habit was to finish with a bit of cleaning and scrubbing around the house in the morning, wash clothes, take a bath and then eat my breakfast. My hubby, in the meanwhile, used to eat cornflakes with milk and leave for office.
Last Monday, however, I chose to eat first and then do the cleaning stuff. I quickly made Uttampam with the left-over batter of last night and I and my hubby sat down to eat. The in-laws fast on this day and hence I am saved the job to cook for them on this day. And only on this day.
The unthinkable then happened: Out came my MIL from her room, red-faced. “How can you eat without taking a shower? With boys, it’s a different matter.” I did not say one word, and continued eating. But imagine being lambasted thus in the middle of a meal!
Now, I know the initial reactions:
- You were a fool to agree to live with such conservative in-laws. (How would I know a Political Science post-grad and wife of a professor would turn out to be like this?)
- Leave the bitch! (Is it really that easy?)
- Talk it out with her with a cool mind. (I am angry and hurt and annoyed. How can I?)
- Answer her back! (She cries, an issue of it is made, and I end up with more stress. What can you possibly explain to such a person?)
- Ignore and do your stuff. (That’s what I tried to do. But you can hardly ignore such things. They haunt you in your head.)
How does one deal with this, really?
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