The Marital Rape scene in Bhag Milkha Bhag.
Those who think marital rape should remain legal need to watch this movie. The scene is disturbing, conveys the reluctance, fear, humiliation, disgust, anger and helplessness of those who wouldn’t imagine walking out of the situation.
And that is how watching a sexual crime happen should make you feel.
Brat Three was watching the movie too, and I have no idea what she thought or understood… I will have to talk to her… maybe I should tell her that sometimes some people hurt other people and it’s very wrong and should not be tolerated. No review had mentioned this scene – maybe because it happens behind a make shift curtain.
The movie also touches upon another unrecognised crime – Forced Marriages. And how both the crimes-against-women impact men.
So much is conveyed. Why Indian women might see brothers as saviours. How marital rapists live normal lives and set examples for others who have no other way to learn about sex. Why some people might never respect women except their mothers and sisters, not even the women married into their own families.
Edited to add: The only reason why the man could demand that the victim come to him, to be beaten and raped was because he had the social and legal sanction to do so. He felt no guilt, he was offended because she didn’t come as soon as she was called. Any rapist doing this in any other circumstances is unimaginable, but the witnesses in this crime see it as either unfortunate or titillating.
The movie shows Milkha seeing women (or sex with women) as ‘weakness’ (or vice?!) that men may have. Alcohol and lack of discipline could impact a sportsperson’s performance, but relationships?
As soon as the movie finished Brat Three turned to her brother and said, “You should also run like him!”
IHM: “What about you? Don’t you want to run like him?”
Brat Three: “No, I am a girl… did you see any girls?”
IHM: “Ofcourse girls also run… I must tell you P T Usha’s story! :) :)” (which I must google and read first :( )
Brat Three: I want pani poorie for lunch!!
I had recorded Chak de India and plan to watch it with her today – without saying anymore about whether or not girls can or should run. And I hope somebody decides to make a movie about PT Usha too.
In the meantime Bhag Milkha Bhag is very much a movie worth watching, even though it does not pass Bechdel Test.