Yet another rape that was not about lust but about aggression, revenge and putting the victim in her place.

Like 98% rapes in this study : Study finds 98% of India rape victims knew their attacker.

1. This gang rape too was not about lust.

2. This rapist too was known to the victims.

3. And this rape too was preplanned.

So we are not blaming the victims then?

Read on. TOI: Gurgaon gang rape: Accused held, says he settled score

Two women raped in a moving car : Gurgaon

Gurgaon police on Friday nabbed the key accused … The accused has been identified as Dharambir, and it was he who planned the rape to get value for the Rs 10,000 he had paid to the two victims and also raped one of them.

Dharmabir had been trying to get to girls over the past week but when he couldn’t he got a friend to lure them to get into his car and then carried out the rape of the victims.

It also seems the rape survivors did not take lift, no idea why the earlier news reports claimed they took lift. I blogged about it here: Of course it was unsafe to ask for lift, but what exactly were their options?

Since their taxi driver had not reached in time to pick them up, they hired a Toyota Altis car for Rs 300 in front of Vipul Agora Mall building.

So if lust did not provoke the rapists then how do we blame the victims?

Please note, there is no hesitation in believing whatever an alleged rapist says prompted him plan the crime.

Take a look at just some of the TOI comments:

Cynic (India)

29 Jun, 2013 06:33 PM

It very much looks that the girls (?) wanted to cheat the person of the money they had borrowed. These ‘escort girl’ profession cannot be called an honourable one. It is something bordering that of call girls. And who knows for a right some the escorts might accompany to the rooms as well. There will be sob stories of such girls doing such things for want of a better job. But many go for such jobs just for the fun and better remuneration and lavish living…

2. After the reporting of this study I thought the media would focus on the findings, instead, here’s what some comments think can be learnt from such crimes.

  … Now here is lesson for all respectful girls who value their virtue more than the money. Surely girls were wrong in borrowing money which they could not afford to pay, then working in a profession which is highly vulnerable for girls and very likely to be taken advantage of. At the same time the act of r*pe by the accused does not justify their defence nor does it reduce the punishment they deserve. The accused do have right to seek refund of the money they lent in rightful way but have absolutely no right to violate the dignity of women as financial pay back.

3. And here’s what Indian society is ready to accept and not accept.

seems monetary dispute given r@p e twist!! Society’s moral degradation is to blame, no doubt rap e is heinous crime, but has our society and culture matured enough to accept what the gals were doing??

22 thoughts on “Yet another rape that was not about lust but about aggression, revenge and putting the victim in her place.

  1. It does not matter whether the rape was about lust or financial dispute or anything else. Rape is a crime and should be treated as such.

    The report says that Dharambir “planned the rape to get value for the Rs 10,000 he had paid to the two victims..” It’s not stated why he had paid the Rs. 10,000. Even if they had taken Rs. 10,000 as advance for sexual favours, and had decided to back out of the deal, there is no justification for rape.

    The fact that the girls worked as “entry escorts” at a pub says nothing about their “character”. In any case, the victim’s “character” does not make a rape less of a crime.

    The media should ensure that reports on rapes give only minimum information about the victims. The focus should be on the accused. For example, the TOI report could have said, “… after finishing their work at Metropolitan Mall on MG Road …” Unfortunately, all media houses try to give more information than their competitors.

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    • It is important to acknowledge that most rapes are not about lust, and are not committed by helpless rapists who were provoked by the victims clothes or lifestyle. When we understand why rapists rape only then can we begin to act towards preventing rapes. Rape Myths encourage rapists to rape by shaming and silencing the victims.

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      • Does it make any difference to the victim if she knows why the rapist raped her?

        We need very strong anti-rape laws with stringent punishment.

        Steps must be taken to make it less traumatic for rape victims to report the crime. For example, there should be more All-Women Police Stations. The policewomen at these AWPS’s should undergo training to ensure that they treat rape victims with great sensitivity. This is MOST IMPORTANT.

        Restrictions must be placed on the media to ensure that no information is revealed that could lead to the victim(s) being identified.

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        • Does it make any difference to the victim if she knows why the rapist raped her?

          IHM: It would affect her directly if it is understood by herself and everybody else that she was not responsible for being raped (no victim blaming, crime taken seriously, no chance of witness turning hostile etc).

          We need very strong anti-rape laws with stringent punishment.
          IHM: Strongest laws become useless if Victim blaming mindset makes convictions difficult. Most victim blaming hinges on the myth that rapists were provoked by the victim i.e. rape was caused by lust. Hence it would help if it is understood that frequently it’s the desire for control, revenge, power and aggression that lead to rape, not lust.

          Steps must be taken to make it less traumatic for rape victims to report the crime. For example, there should be more All-Women Police Stations. The policewomen at these AWPS’s should undergo training to ensure that they treat rape victims with great sensitivity. This is MOST IMPORTANT.

          Restrictions must be placed on the media to ensure that no information is revealed that could lead to the victim(s) being identified

          IHM: I agree.

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    • Agree.. my friends and I were talking about this same thing and I was quite surprised that they were unable to see a crime in the incident. I had to argue hard and long but they finally understood my logic. Irrespective of whether the women committed a crime or not, the men certainly did.

      Agree completely with IHMs comment as well

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  2. It doesn’t matter if the victims owed Dharambir money.
    Dharambir should settle that dispute separately, not rape them.

    It doesn’t matter what the victim’s professions were.
    If there was anything illegal in what they were doing (which I doubt) let the provisions of the law of the land apply, not Dharambir’s personal jungle laws.

    This is not a case of monetary dispute being given a rape twist as commented by someone.
    On the other hand, this is a rape being sought to be condoned or explained as a logical consequence of a monetary dispute.

    I have no issues with prostitution being made legal
    Rape should never be legal!

    Regards
    GV

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  3. http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/india/Opposition-has-hired-rapists-Bengal-minister/articleshow/20902894.cms
    //MIDNAPORE/KOLKATA: Bengal water resources minister Soumen Mahapatra on Tuesday alleged that opposition parties have paid Rs 20 lakh to rapists and unleashed them in the state to block the development under CM Mamata Banerjee.

    “Rapists have been released in the society and they are being paid Rs 20 lakh. Three political parties have a lot of money and they are using these men to stem the development brought about by Mamata Banerjee,” Mahapatra said at a public meeting in Keshiary in West Midnapore. He claimed that Ansar Ali, the prime accused in the Kamduni rape-murder, was a CPM supporter but Ansar’s brother told TOI on Wednesday that he was a staunch Trinamool worker. //

    And,
    Haryana: Teacher arrested on molestation charges
    “I was attending my tuition classes with my classmates. The teacher asked other students to leave but stopped me on pretext of solving a question. Then he tried to molest me,” the girl said in her statement.
    http://t.co/PrafYP2VnE

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  4. I wonder why the following questions are never asked and why such judgments are never passed about rapists:

    What was the rapist doing outside his home so late at night?
    What was he doing looking at scantily clad girls?
    How did he get to know characterless, immoral, loose women in the first place?
    Why (in this case) did the rapists give money to the two girls?
    The men are thus of loose, immoral character and are unchaste and deserve to have their organs chopped off as in some countries.

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