“He made bobo on my zheezhee (hurt my genitals).”
“He put something filthy in my mouth.”
“This is a nice uncle” (looking at a photo of a movie star) “Will he do bobo to me too?”
“I should have heard, I should have known,” says her mother, “…the fog of denial was just so strong.” (says the mother)
According to the medical examinations, the three year old had been a victim of ongoing sexual abuse, rape, sodomy. According to the chargesheet prepared by the Bangalore police, the perpetrator is Isabel’s father, Pascal Mazurier.
They (the police) …accused her of media hunger and racism against the French, and demanded she reveal if she had been abused as a child. “I can’t decide if the police are antagonistic or only insensitive,” she says, “…whether they have been bribed, or if this is just the way they are with everyone.”
“It is now easy for me to understand why women do not come out when such things happen in their homes,” says Jones, “why women in these situations are driven to take their own lives.”
And we have heard this before,
“Somehow,” she says, “he didn’t fit my image of an abusive husband. He always used to say he was so sorry, and otherwise he was wonderful.”
“I made myself quite small in our marriage,” she says, “I thought he was amazing and I was nobody. I let him decide things, even things like who the children could or could not play with. It was subtle, but he was the boss.”
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Not sure if you have read this. It is about the French Consulate Employee accused of raping his 3 yr old daughter. The mother, Suja Jones, shares the trauma she went through and going through after she had her husband arrested, who is now on bail I suppose. She tells how she receives death threats, her inlaws accuse her of having ‘dirty, obese children’ who are not cared for. She is described as a ‘party animal’. She is supposed to have accused her husband for all this because she did not want to join him on his assignment in Cape Town. A fake facebook page has been opened in her name to defame her. She is now struggling financially. She is finding to difficult to find a house to rent. Thankfully the little girl is coping well. God bless her. Now what I find a bit disturbing is Suja Jones says “If a woman gets raped, it is her fault, if a girl gets raped, it is the mother’s fault”. Neither the woman nor the girl can be blamed. It is the rapist’s fault. I was wondering is this the very mindset of our people that results in victim blaming? Why is rape considered a ‘fault’?