I have never heard of this tradition, but this seems to be a serious news.
INDORE: Rajni, a 25-year-old law student, dressed in best bridal finery, mounted a horse and took her baraat (marriage procession) to the groom’s house through her village. After an hour-long marriage procession and dancing on the streets, she went to mandap (pandal) and asked the groom to marry her.
The unique tradition — ‘Kanya Ghatari’ — which was practised by the Patidar community, wherein the bride takes her baraat to the groom’s place, had long been forgotten, was brought alive. Senior members of the community endorsed Rajni’s initiative to revive the age old tradition and lavished praise on her.
Rajni, who got married two days ago, initially felt a little awkward at the idea of riding a horse and taking the baraat to the groom’s place. “I realized that the idea was to empower women and this practice would certainly eradicate many evils in the society,” she said.
About the tradition, he said first the bride was offered coconut by her parents. After completing the ritual, the girl mounted the horse and led the baraat from her house, which after passing from the narrow lanes of village, reached the groom’s place.
The girl then came up to the mandap (pandal) on the horse and proposed the groom, asking him whether he would marry her. Waiting family members of the groom welcomed the bride. Thereafter, the marriage was solemnized.
New age cinema – Dilwali Dulha le gayi (DDLG) .
But actually, the Dulhania (bride) did not take away the Dulha (groom), the bride still went to the groom’s house.
Many Indians seem to find ‘women’s empowerment‘ ‘heartening‘, so long as the empowerment has In-Law-Approval or Permission. (Or Future-In-Laws’ Approval/Permission in case of baby girls).
Here’s a sarcastic comment,
Good, good. But dont forget to respect Indian culture and make sure she is from the same caste otherwise we have to behead her. Also dont forget to collect that dowry. And you better produce a male child. Proud to be Indian.
Many other comments thought it was a ‘Great Initiative’ towards empowerment of women.
Here’s one I disagree with.
Do we need to lie to misogynists to empower equal citizens? Wasn’t Rani Laxmi Bai married at the age on 9 to a 45 year old man?
Great going..This is the land of Rani Lakshmi Bhai and Velu Nachiar. Women until 2 generations back were considered equals or more respected and had equal say. Its only the generation in the beginning of the century made it worse for our Women.
I am wary of using tradition/custom to justify change (or rejection of custom). Or to justify anything that empowers those who have been traditionally oppressed using the same old traditions.
Why lie to justify or apologise for respecting human values and common sense?
That’s like pretending that tradition/religion/custom etc have not been traditionally used to control women’s lives, freedom, rights, thoughts, aspirations, bodies and choices.
Since tradition (or custom) is frequently the culprit, using tradition/custom to justify any action gives credibility to something that should be acknowledged as the tool of oppression.