Here’s how an average Indian woman feels while she is being subjected to sexual crimes. (Some might feel the same fear and anger combined with guilt and shame for having provoked it by being at the wrong place at the wrong time, in wrong clothes and company etc)
1. Liju Kishore shared this facebook post. This could have been any woman, anywhere in India. All we have to do is step into a public space, with or without a male or female companion, wearing anything, anytime time of the day or night.
“Chal game shuru karein!”
“Wahi jo propose karne ke baad, haan ya naa ka wait nahin karte, bas game shuru ho jaata hai!”
(Translation: “Come let’s begin that game.”
“The game that begins after proposing without waiting for consent.”)
This is how the conversation around me went. I was the only woman in an overnight bus full of north Indian males (going from Dehradun to Delhi) and one non-north Indian male friend, who was just as cornered as I was.
We had the option of getting off the bus, finding another one, a state bus at least, one with one or two women in the least, we were still at ISBT. But after an hour’s mulling, I decided to stay and see this through.
The five men were drunk, the abuses kept getting louder – it was never directed quite straightforwardly at me, but it was clear what was intended. Every other passenger, except my friend and I, pretended to be asleep even though the abuses and laughter were too loud for anyone to fall asleep.
IHM: And how many of us wish we could do this?
“I tried to look straight into their eyes. Some of them may have been younger than me. It was menacingly hostile.
When the bus started again, I said to my friend: “Kya kar lenge? Kitni door jayenge? Maar dalenge? 5 min ki masti hai na? Ya usse zyada? Kya kya risk karenge? Jo bhi karein, agar zinda Dilli pohachi, I wont leave them alone. I will search out and destroy each of them. And if I dont get back alive, there are friends who know where I am, who I know will do the exact same thing for me. Log darte hain, so yeh sochte hain kuchh bhi chalta hain.”
(Rough translation: “What can they do? Kill me? For five minutes of fun? Or more than that? What all will they risk? Whatever they do, if I reach Delhi alive, I won’t leave them alone. I will search out and destroy each of them. And if I don’t get back alive, there are friends who know where I am, who I know will do the exact same thing for me. People are afraid so they think anything goes.”)
Do read the entire post here, https://www.facebook.com/trina.n.banerjee/posts/10152690728415004
2. Here’s another example of how sexual harassment affected one young woman, and how it was (is) dealt with.
3. And yet another,
And this is how Patriarchy views sexual assaults.
Oasis shared this link:
Joginder Singh, a deputy general manager with the Oriental Bank of Commerce, was booked by the police for allegedly molesting a 16-year-old girl in the lift of his residential building … He was charged under section 354 (assault or force on woman to outrage her modesty) and sections 7 and 8 of the Protection of Children from Sexual Offences Act, 2012.
The girl’s father had filed an intervention application opposing Singh’s anticipatory bail plea. Addressing his lawyers, the judge said: “Let’s take everything in your favour. But why do you need (police) custody? We are not speaking of being absolved.”
And here is the part that I find difficult to understand.
“He is already humiliated. He holds a high post.” She added that there is more humiliation at the workplace in such cases.
The court also questioned the girl’s father for letting her file the complaint. “Why do you want to expose your child when she is suffering? She will have to face trial… not fair,”
“There are so many stringent laws and still there are such cases. Is it really a deterrent?”
2. And this link and comment shared by Sandhya.
“The Delhi bus gangrape accused, Vinay Sharma, demanded healthy food because he would be appearing for an IAF exam on Apr 7th. Apparently, he has been provided a tutor to train him for the exams!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
“Stop making these young men a scapegoat. Yes, they committed a crime, but their motivation was shiela ki jawani, munni badnam hui…when your kaif, leone and bipashas can spread vulgarity for a packet of money….how do you expect young impressionable minds to keep away from such dirt. It is all around. Punish the real culprits, the movie makers, the page 3 promoters…because if respect of women is not from within, no amount of law, no amount of punishment will matter.” [Link]“