Sharing this link to share the reactions it elicited.
A five-year long study conducted by Sattvam, a city-based care centre for women and children, found that 432 of the 980 women covered entered menopause in the age group of 30-35 years, while 216 were between 35-40 years age. The centre has also treated 68 women, who entered menopause in the age group of 25-30 years, while 264 women were above 40 years of age.
“What is worrying is that 42% of these women are working women….”
(Note: ‘Working women’ here probably means only the ‘earning’ women, or women who are paid for the work they do.)
Women’s negligence of their reproductive responsibilities seems to have offended many. Many have ‘solutions’ to offer.
Here’s one comment:
“Being modern is fine, but getting carried away by media and abusing their body with alcohol and smoking (and many other modern ways) is making overly advance women unfit for producing kids.. very rightly so.”
Women in Indian villages didn’t smoke bidi or drink? They did and still do. Also, many women in the past, stopped having any children in their thirties (without use of contraception), some never had any children, for which they were stigmatized. So really not sure how modern is ‘early menopause’.
“Decide GREED versus Life. What to choose when and by how much % and where you draw the line”
So those who think women should not choose the GREED of self reliance and career over motherhood, do they then support joint ownership of whatever a couple makes during the marriage and joint parenting? [Should couples’ assets be treated as joint property?]
How else does the society ensure that marriage (and homemaking, motherhood etc) does not result in women becoming financially dependent on their husbands?
Some comments blame women for ‘going against nature’.
“This is result of not following natural laws and going against nature. In modern time, every body is subject to tension, work pressure, frustration, irregular food, fast food,in adequate sleep,dissatisfaction, haste of urban life…”
What is ‘natural’ or stress-free about traditional Indian semi-forced and early arranged marriages, where women are expected to produce male heirs within a year (so that the family-name-of-the-husband is carried forward)? Arranged marriages which are forced, semi-forced or coerced (with emotional blackmail etc) are not ‘natural’ either.
So much of concern for women’s reproductive health, by those who would be outraged if women attempted to give their own names to the children they bear. (Often women don’t have names of their own to give).
What about women who do not smoke, drink, try to be independent or ‘overly advance’ and who do have many children? What has patriarchy got to offer them?
Feodor Vassilyev: The Russian Who Sired 87 Children in 35 Births.
“Feodor is apparently notable enough for a Wikipedia article because his wife sets the record for the most children birthed by a single woman. Just to reiterate, it is Mr. Vassilyev and not Mrs. Vassilyev who is deemed notable enough to have a Wikipedia article here!” Do we realize how patriarchy controls and claims ask rights on women’s bodies and reproductive healths? [Read the entire post here: Feodor Vassilyev: The Russian Who Sired 87 Children in 35 Births]
1. How can the society ensure that marriage (and homemaking) does not result in women becoming financially dependent on their husbands?
2. How are mothers treated in Patriarchal cultures?
3. Society benefits immensely from childbearing, child rearing, and care giving work that currently goes unpaid.
4. “I waited for maternal love to overcome me – it didn’t… After my baby was born, I didn’t feel anything…”
5.Mere consent to conjugal rights does not mean consent to give birth to a child for her husband.
6. An email: Is it selfish to not want to be parents yet?
7. Woman you are not doing anybody a favour…
8. An email: “I find it very hard to forgive my husband for all that happened at the time of my delivery.”
9. Cabinet clears bill: Equal rights in Marital property, Easier divorce.
10. When a newly married Indian woman gives up her career, what else does she give up?
11. An email: “She is considering having an abortion without telling her husband about it.”
12. An update: “My friend is having the baby because her mother absolutely refused to support her decision to abort.”