Patriarchal stereotypes and Human Brain Analysis – Men vs. Women…

Sarkywoman shared, ‘MUST READ: Interesting Facts about Men and Women‘. Not sure where it originated, but a lot of people seem to feel that these are ‘General Facts’. Please note how it is all made to sound scientific and well researched.

Human Brain Analysis – Men vs. Women…

1. MULTI-TASKING
Women – Multiple process
Womens brains designed to concentrate multiple task at a time.
Women can Watch a TV and Talk over phone and cook.
Men – Single Process
Mens brains designed to concentrate only one work at a time. Men can not watch TV and talk over the phone at the same time. they stop the TV while Talking. They can either watch TV or talk over the phone or cook.

IHM: Patriarchal gender stereotypes being presented as scientific facts. Star Plus anthem propagated the same stereotype.

2. LANGUAGE
Women can easily learn many languages. But can not find solutions to problems. Men can not easily learn languages, they can easily solve problems. That’s why in average a 3 years old girl has three times higher vocabulary than a 3 years old boy.

IHM:  Patriarchy would not have survived so long if this was true.

Most religious texts and their powerfully argued misogyny; most of history (almost totally refusing to acknowledge women’s existence); and frequently poetry that taught women to see romance in dependence and sexual inexperience were (many still are) written by men (and some women) who had mastered the art of using language(s) for communication.

3. ANALYTICAL SKILLS
Mens brains has a lot of space for handling the analytical process… If a complex map is viewed by women, they can not understand it. … For them it is just a dump of lines on a paper.

IHM: Reminds me of this:

“WOMEN love self-sacrifice
Suffering and good advice;
If they don’t love these sincerely
Then they’re not true women really.” [Alice Duer Miller]

Or this.

WOMEN S SPHERE 

If They Meant All They Said 

CHARM is a woman s strongest arm; 
My charwoman is full of charm; 
I chose her, not for strength of arm 
But for her strange elusive charm. 

And how tears heighten woman s powers! 
My typist weeps for hours and hours: 
I took her for her weeping powers 
They so delight my business hours. 

A woman lives by intuition. 
Though my accountant shuns addition 
She has the rarest intuition. 
(And I myself can do addition.) 

Timidity in girls is nice. 
My cook is so afraid of mice. 
Now you ll admit it s very nice 
To feel your cook s afraid of mice.[Alice Duer Miller]

4. CAR DRIVING.
While driving a car, mans analytical spaces are used in his brain. He can drive a car fastly. If he sees an object at long distance, immediately his brain classifies the object (bus or van or car) direction and speed of the object and he drives accordingly. Where woman take a long time to recognize the object direction/ speed. Mans single process mind stops the audio in the car (if any), then concentrates only on driving.

IHM: So we know why women are not allowed to drive in Saudi Arabia.

Also, the underlined part directly contradicts the underlined part in point 1.

5. LYING
When men lie to women face to face, they get caught easily. Womans super natural brain observes facial expression 70%, body language 20% and words coming from the mouth 10%. Mens brain does not have this. Women easily lie to men face to face.
So guys, do not lie face to face.

IHM: Please note women can’t analyze or read maps with these ‘super natural brains’ that observe 10% ‘words coming out of mouth’.

6. PROBLEMS SOLVING
If a man have a lot of problems, his brain clearly classifies the problems and puts them in individual rooms in the brain and then finds the solution one by one. You can see many guys looking at the sky for a long time. If a woman has a lot of problems, her brain can not classify the problems. she wants some one to hear that. After telling everything to a person she goes happily to bed. She does not worry about the problems being solved or not.

IHM: Another attempt to reinforce a stereotype. Fact is men need to communicate as much as non-men.

7. WHAT THEY WANT
Men want status, success, solutions, big process, etc… But Women want relationship, friends, family, etc…

IHM: Patriarchy favors financially successful men. And Patriarchy expects women to see their husband’s extended family, father’s neighbours (before marriage), husband’s neighbours’ aunts’ third cousins (after marriage) etc as their world (ghar sansaar). A disinclination to devote their lives to getting along with the above mentioned is disapproved of. Also, the relationships women are permitted are controlled by the patriarchal role they are playing.

Such ‘scientific studies’ put further pressure on individuals to fit into stereotypes.

8. UNHAPPINESS
If women are unhappy with their relations, they can not concentrate on their work. If men are unhappy with their work, they can not concentrate on the relations.

IHM:

In general men in patriarchal societies are not allowed relationships unless they can ‘provide for’ these partners. (The partners are kept dependent by deeming the work demanded of them as unpaid labour)

Women’s existence as individuals is often not even acknowledged, they are seen as wives, sisters, mothers of men.

‘In his 2013 State of the Union address, President Obama said: “We know our economy is stronger when our wives, mothers, and daughters can live their lives free from discrimination …”

Defining women by their relationships to other people is reductive, misogynist, and alienating to women who do not define ourselves exclusively by our relationships to others. Further, by referring to “our” wives et al, the President appears to be talking to The Men of America about Their Women, rather than talking to men AND women.’ [Link]

9. SPEECH
Women use indirect language in speech. But Men use direct language.

IHM: This is not true even though, in some patriarchal societies women must not be heard at all, specially by men and elders. Women are raised with rigid guidelines to get along and be tactful (i.e. Relationships). Good girls are described in various patriarchal societies as sweet, soft spoken, tactful, respectful, ‘good natured’, ‘ever smiling’ etc. Women who don’t follow these rules are accused of being disrespectful, difficult, provocative, deserving of well timed slaps by their husbands (and  other family elders), shameless, behaya etc.

Men are encouraged to be aggressive achievers, respectful and decent only towards those more powerful. Polite behavior and decency extended by men towards ‘deserving and respectful ladies’ is seen as an exception/favor. Since it’s not seen as the norm, it even has a name – ‘chivalry’.

10. HANDLING EMOTION
Women talk a lot without thinking. Men act a lot without thinking.

IHM: So nobody thinks. Some people talk, some people act.🙄

36 thoughts on “Patriarchal stereotypes and Human Brain Analysis – Men vs. Women…

  1. I’m a bit distracted by the atrocious number of grammatical errors in this list. Not that I don’t make grammatical/spelling errors while typing on the internet, but this list has a ridiculous amount of them. Maybe the only conclusive argument that this list can make is that the writer is clearly not educated enough to make such claims.

    Also, about spatial skills (including mental image rotation, driving, etc)–‘men’ might be ‘better’ than women in some cases because they are socialized to be better. How many little girls do you see playing with police cars and hot wheels tracks?

    I have no idea where this writer got the whole ‘men are better at analysis’ bit because this person didn’t take into account that women are beginning to outnumber men in law and medical institutions in countries where women aren’t discouraged from higher education.

    According this list, I’m an anomaly. I’m neither ‘female’ nor ‘male.’ Which, I suppose is good because maybe I’m one of those people who thinks first before speaking or acting. Interestingly enough, I think ‘direct speech’ and ‘indirect speech’ is more cultural than anything. I had a really hard time fitting into the Indian work place because I tend to use very direct language and people got really ticked off!

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    • Also, about spatial skills (including mental image rotation, driving, etc)–’men’ might be ‘better’ than women in some cases because they are socialized to be better.

      Most studies I’ve read about seem to suggest that men and woman actually visualize space in slightly different ways, which means that men are better at some spatial tasks, while women are better at others.

      Then again, circumspection is always key while using ‘science’ to justify sweeping generalizations about different sexes. Not only are scientific studies fallible, the fact is that individuals really do need to be dealt with on a case-by-case basis. Even if the generalization is founded in solid fact, the person you are talking to may not fit in with that mold at all. Misplaced assumptions can backfire very nastily indeed, and can cause major-league offense and conflict in social scenarios.

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      • I took two very interesting classes in university that focused on differences (and perceived differences) between genders, social constructs, etc. Both classes had pretty convincing studies about socialization (especially early socialization–strengthening certain synaptic paths in the brain early on etc) and the resulting differences between ‘men’ and ‘women.’ I was fascinated by the whole thing.

        Completely agree about analyzing individuals on a case-by-case basis. No studies can have absolute conclusions!

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      • //”Not only are scientific studies fallible, the fact is that individuals really do need to be dealt with on a case-by-case basis.”//

        Agree. In fact I read that the ‘studies’ are meant for ‘whole’ (humans) and never for ‘parts’ (individual). The studies are for the benefit of ‘those who study humans as a whole to understand patterns” not for people to use it to justify their own or somebody else’s individual actions.

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  2. My response is merely a sigh.

    To put it in Wikipedia terminology, this article merits a huge [citation needed] tag.

    Also, anyone who relies on unreferenced Internet ‘chain-articles’ for scientific knowledge, really deserves to be made to sit in the corner with a dunce cap on their head until they learn and acknowledge that they ought not do so.:/

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  3. I remember reading that women have a smaller , more efficient brain, while men have a larger, less efficient brain. As a result, the output is equal. So, if we compare intelligence per cubic inch of brain.. women are far more intelligent😀

    1. Women dont multitask, we just switch ourselves from one task to another quickly.
    2. Late PV Narsimha Rao knew some 15-16 languages. Does that make him a woman?
    3. Nah… I could analyse problems faster. My husband knows this!
    4. Car driving… not sure… but much less percentage of female drivers are involved in accidents. I never got a single scratch on mine. (:))
    5. We might not get caught lying because men dont observe (lack of analytical skills maybe?).
    And 6, 7 , 8, 9 and 10 are also not true, at least in my case. Hey, I want success and money too! Am I a woman?

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  4. For any seemingly factual claims: no citations = nonsense claim (as Praveen said already). If you make up gibberish about 7 billion members of a species based on anecdotes and imagination, you only deserve to be ignored. Every single claim here is simply invalid unless the author has any proof otherwise.

    The only thing significant about this email to me is the fact that such baseless stereotyping chain mails get passed around at all. It shows what people think and want to see validated – and that is what is wrong here (forget about the claims themselves!).

    The only utility value of such emails/ messages is that they help me weed out people I don’t want to associate with.😉

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    • p.s.: “Further, by referring to “our” wives et al, the President appears to be talking to The Men of America about Their Women, rather than talking to men AND women.’ ”

      Cannot believe this didn’t even occur to me when I read this speech before! Conditioning, you sneaky devil!

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      • Plus we don’t expect a man of Obama’s stature to belittle women. I’m sure he was unaware of doing it, so it must be Conditioning for him too. Another faux pas he committed – on the Jay Leno show, he said (in jest) that his golfing skills were so poor, he should try out for the Special Olympics. Most Americans were surprised at this callous joke. A prominent Special Olympics sportsman with Downs wrote an inspiring letter (describing how much people with special needs have to overcome to do the things that most of us take for granted) to the President and of course, he graciously apologized.

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  5. This article in particular is very obviously foolish. Unfortunately I have seen similar articles in more reputed publications too. That’s part of the reason why even a large number of highly educated people believe them. There is a significant amount of confirmation bias among people who continue to believe in gender stereotypes.
    A large number of feminist articles too, when talking about equality prefer to stress the fact that gender equality and sameness are not the same thing, and that men and women somehow have different types of brains.
    What a lot of people don’t realize is that a large number of people acting a certain way stereotypically because of their gender, doesn’t automatically mean its based on biology. It simply shows how self propagating stereotypes can be, which is probably why they have been around for so long.

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  6. If any of this is true, it is most certainly nurture (culture, socialization) than nature.

    I’m a multitasking, polyglot woman who values her relationships over other things in life – but does that mean that every woman needs to be exactly like me? That my highly ambitious colleagues should cede their jobs to men, or that my analytical friends who design computer chips for a living should instead try to learn German and cooking even though they are no good at either?

    I’m with Praveen – I want to stamp “citation needed” all over this article.

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  7. gee! If I started taking these articles on facebook seriously, I would really get confused if I am a woman or not!!
    This article is nothing but mis-informed, badly written and totally not true and highly stereotypical. And, it pains me that people actually “like” such articles😦

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  8. What worries me is that misogynists have found a new vehicle to propagate their ideas – ill-informed, prejudiced articles disguised as scientific studies, and making the rounds on social media. The readers on this forum may be able to see how ridiculous this piece is, how fallacious it’s logic, how unfounded it is in terms of facts. However most readers of TOI articles and FB forwards are not this informed. One only needs to read the comments on such articles – their lack of awareness and callousness makes me squirm. Therefore, we have a responsibility to correct this mis-information with an informed rebuttal – glad you did this IHM.

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  9. I will point out one of the obvious logical fallacies (although there are several).

    Points 1 and 3 contradict each other. Driving is an extremely multitasking activity. One has to be aware of the child running after the ball 2 feet away and a monster truck making a U-turn 20 feet away. One has to watch out for drivers that cut you off without signaling, drivers that pass you from the wrong side, drivers that are too slow and hold up traffic, and those that break the speed limit. You may need to make 4 lane changes at 70miles per hour in order to take an exit – that’s 12 checks if you include rear-view, side, and shoulder. If what this writer claims is true, men cannot drive, and if they did, they would instantly crash and die, as they try to “classify problems” and “solve each problem one at a time” on their way to a ‘life of success, wealth, and status’.

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  10. As a teenager I hung to every word of “Men from Mars, Women from Venus”, only to realize years later that you can not categorize the entire population of the world in two groups and describe their common traits. Well ok, minor correction: The only way you can categorize population of the world in these two groups is if you want to divide the world based on their anatomy. Any other generalization about the traits of these two groups, especially a behavioral one, is absurd. But for some reason people love doing this all the time.

    I wonder why do they want to do so? Is it just because they want to establish the supremacy of their group so that they are automatically better than someone they envy? Just prove all men are better manager, hence they are better manager than any women who is actually a good manager. Right? I do not see any other point of such an exercise. Honestly.

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  11. 1. When I was in high school back in the 1960s, I registered to take an elective advanced maths class. On the first day of class, the teacher pulled me aside and told me to drop the class and take something more appropriate, that girl’s brains just can’t handle this level of maths. I refused and he did everything he could to prove himself right. Even so, I managed to get a B in the class, but only because I saved every homework assignment, every test, every graded piece of work for evidence, just in case I needed it.

    I went on to get a B. Sc. and M. Sc. in Pure Mathematics. You know, the really abstract stuff that women’s sweet little brains just can’t handle.

    2. Back in 1993 I had a stroke while living in Las Vegas, USA. Las Vegas is extremely hot and my neurologist strongly suggested a cooler climate. Not one to do things halfway, we decided to move to Anchorage, Alaska. Because of the stroke’s damage, I couldn’t drive, so my husband had to do all the driving. I handled all the finances and navigation. This was before GPS. So I had to rely on maps. We didn’t even have Google maps, so I had these clumsy pieces of paper to contend with. We drove directly there with no navigational problems, a journey of 3431 miles (5522 km.) through two countries. And we came in under budget.

    3. I am known for my ability to come up with novel solutions to problems. In fact, people pay me to come up with solutions to problems that they’ve given up on. OK, I haven’t solved the problems of the Middle East or Kashmir, but I’m good with every day sorts of problems. I am one of those people who cannot walk and chew gum at the same time. Multitasking I leave to others. When I am on the phone or talking to someone in my presence, the TV sound must be muted.

    …And “ain’t I a woman?”…

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  12. Hoo boy. I don’t like this list. It’s making my engineering student-yet-a-lady self tremble, because apparently I can’t think analytically? But somehow I got through first year? Must be dumb luck. I’ll probably drop out later anyway. -eyeroll-

    “2. LANGUAGE
    Women can easily learn many languages. But can not find solutions to problems. Men can not easily learn languages, they can easily solve problems. That’s why in average a 3 years old girl has three times higher vocabulary than a 3 years old boy.”

    More than anything else on the list, this made me squint. Because first of all, I live in a country where I went through a mandatory eight or so years of French education. It was completely wasted on me. But for some strange reason, my lack of ability to “find solutions to problems” is what got me a 100% on one of my math midterms–and all I used was my measly English. So does this effectively mean I’m a man? (More importantly, does this mean that I am officially “allowed” to buy the Star Wars t-shirts that only ever seem to be in the mens section in department stores? SCORE.)

    “3. ANALYTICAL SKILLS
    Mens brains has a lot of space for handling the analytical process… If a complex map is viewed by women, they can not understand it. … For them it is just a dump of lines on a paper.”

    This is true for me, only because I am geographically challenged and will forever be that way. This is not true for my grandmother, who if she was so inclined, could probably be dropped off in the middle of nowhere and still find her way home using just landmarks. (My grandfather walked home from the Charminar to his son’s house in Secunderabad. None of his analytical skills ever taught him what a massively bad idea this was. He survived.)

    “5. LYING
    When men lie to women face to face, they get caught easily. Womans super natural brain observes facial expression 70%, body language 20% and words coming from the mouth 10%. Mens brain does not have this. Women easily lie to men face to face.
    So guys, do not lie face to face.”

    ‘Woman’s super natural brain’. Oh, so suddenly the brain that can’t find solutions to problems, read maps, or figure out how fast a car is going is incredibly intelligent with regards to what comes out of a man’s mouth. Anybody notice how incredibly self-centered the writer (presumably a man) is with regards to a woman’s intelligence? He won’t consider her an intelligent human being in practically any sphere until that intelligence begins to become a detriment to his well-being in a direct way. A woman being smart and succeeding in life, while threatening to a man, may ultimately be dismissed as some kind of luck. But a woman potentially using her intelligence (that she has all along, that can be used for pretty much any situation) to put a stop to his personal gratification? All the warning bells go up and the unfettered “advice” comes out. In fact, out of everything on the list, the only place where a woman is accorded even the smallest iota of intelligence is here, when it can be used to stop him from lying and having fun.

    Also, notice the last two lines. “Women easily lie to men face to face”. This kind of idea often gives way to men being given plenty of leave to avenge a family’s honour, even if the woman has not gone astray, because after all, “Women easily lie face to face”. So what weight do her words have? She’s lying after all. And then this little gem: “So guys, do not lie face to face.” Again, misogynist-centric in every way possible.

    I couldn’t really stomach the rest of this list. It’s seems banal to try and refute every single fact on it, because the world is literally FILLED with examples to the contrary. But these people will only see what they want to see. And if they see something they don’t want, they’ll create what they want to see and point to it as “proof”. You can’t argue with them. You can only hope to be walking examples of how incredibly wrong they are.

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  13. Awww. Poor guy forgot the most important difference

    TOILET HABITS:
    Men stand up to pee and women sit down to do so. This itself shows the different levels at which men and women are. Men are always upright and forward pointing whereas women will always be at a lower level and downward looking. Simble.

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  14. If point 1 were true, then I am a man and my husband is a woman. All the points contradict with each other – as wordssetmefreee commented above driving needs multitasking – so how can a bad multi-tasker be good driver?.
    The sad part is that almost everyone believes this as true as these articles are presented as result of scientific researches. And people use these ‘scientific facts’ to promote their misogynist agenda. If we point out any case which is opposite of the points mentioned in the article, they are dismissed as exceptions. They fail to see that these articles are based on studies conducted on population who were brought up as stereotypes. It is social conditioning that make a persons brain react in a certain way not because the brain is inside female body or male body.

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      • Seena, this article had me gagging. This writer wants Princeton women to spend their college years trying to land a husband?
        Because god forbid, you could be husbandless at the grand old age of 22! Oh the horror!

        Plus ça change…. the more things change….

        Its disheartening to read such articles — one wonders if an Ivy League education is really an insurance against stupidity and a fear of being single and unloved.
        I feel like I’m in an episode of Mad Men!

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        • Many of the comments were much worse, using ‘science’ to justify sexist stereotypes and other personal prejudices.

          Ivy league education guarantee nothing at all beyond perhaps an ability to work hard and perhaps a certain basic intellect level.

          In my years in Big Law and later as a corporate executive, I’ve met, worked with, and managed literally dozens of insecure, misogynistic idiots who laid claim to an Ivy League degree. One would expect better, but there you are.

          I was also irritated by overtly elitist tone of the thread. I don’t know if this is a US thing, or if it is simply the ‘culture’ on that particular forum. Intellectual ability is not a function of the academic degrees one has amassed, even though the latter may be a function of the former.

          For what it’s worth, though, both me and my wife hold degrees from top-tier law schools (Ivy League in her case, and more or less the UK equivalent in mine), and we met much after we finished school, well into our professional lives. I also feel that for all but the most self-aware of people, college is far too early to commit to a relationship as serious as marriage. That is the time to experiment and find your own speed. There really isn’t (or at least, shouldn’t be) all that much rush.

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        • “Intellectual ability is not a function of the academic degrees one has amassed, even though the latter may be a function of the former.”

          Thanks for capturing that so well PT. That’s why I wondered how somebody could reach middle age and not figure this out, with or without a Princeton degree. They say bad publicity is better than no publicity — I suspect Ms Patton just wanted her 15 minutes of fame.

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        • Biwo, I felt the same on reading the article. Praveen, you have echoed my thoughts. Ms.Patton believes men should go for Ivy league graduation to get the label of ‘most eligible bachelor’ and women should get into the college for the opportunity to grab the ‘eligible bachelor’ – Nothing to do with education.
          And “It’s amazing how forgiving men can be about a woman’s lack of erudition, if she is exceptionally pretty”🙂🙂

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  15. Aaah! all these so called scientific findings arent doing any good. Just adding on to the miseries of women who are already burdened with patriarchical values.All the so-called research findings about women being able to multi task, learn faster etc will only add on to the expectations that most patriarchical families have of women. Few friends of mine who have sons tend to comment that ‘girls learn to talk faster than boys do and are good at learning things’. When I say “there is no such finding and that each child is different’ they seem to be reluctant to accept the fact. And when I ask “If girls learn faster than boys do, why is there preference for boys?” , the reply is “Yeh humaara tradition hain”!!!!!!!!

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  16. Multi-tasking my foot. Anybody who can cook mouth-watering food, while checking work email, paying your phone bill and consoling a distressed friend on the phone has my abiding and awe-struck admiration.

    I cannot multitask if my life depended on it. I am therefore comforted by recent research that says that multitasking increases stress levels unecessarily. Yay, I’m normal after all.🙂

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