Do you think this was his first slap? Do slaps happen without verbal and emotional abuse? Would you say a non abusive man who sees his wife as an equal partner, no matter how stressed or how angry, no matter how close to his own family, and how ‘provocative’ the wife, would slap his wife?
What are the chances that he is lying even about the cause of the fight, knowing an indication of a man’s love for his biological family could make him look like a good Indian Budhape ka Sahara? Many Indians would agree that a Shravan Kumar might use well intended abuse to control a Paraya Dhan who is trying to make him a Joru ka Gulaam?
Dharmesh told police that he was watching TV with Mahalakshmi when around 10.30pm, he got a call from his sister who told him about her plan to visit them on Monday for a few days. His wife objected to his sister’s visit, leading to a heated exchange between the two. During the argument, Dharmesh slapped Mahalakshmi and she collapsed on the sofa.
On seeing his wife unconscious, Dharmesh panicked and even tried to revive her through mouth-to-mouth resuscitation. He rushed her to St John’s Hospital, but it was too late. Dharmesh’s mother and couple’s 4-year-old son were at home at that time.
These comments below the news indicate he has succeeded in Victim Blaming.
When wives become too possesive of her husbands and do not want the affection to be shared with their near and dear,such thing may happen in fit of anger. Wives should be more understandable to their feelings,so as not to offend their sentiments,which even pushes a Sadhu to become Saitan.
Women hates women, only on FB they love a lot, but not in reality, let it be mother – daughter or mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, all are of the same type, have seen many families, once they are married, they cannot meet their friends, they are now allowed to come to house, i cannot say about possessiveness, but that is the way today’s woman are, if the husband talks to their parents, wife is suspicious to know as to what they talked, they think it has to be some topic about her only, i wish today’s women change their mindset in terms of relationships, hormone alone cannot do this, it is all in their head. Here also, i am not supporting this guy for killing her, but sometimes if u r angry, it is better to get out of the place, rather than getting into heated argument, some will not agree, but sometimes women also irritates by asking some irritating questions which can make anybody lose temper, unfortunate she got killed in the process.
I made it very clear to my wife before our marriage that I adore my mother,sisters & brothers. I lost my father at young age and they were my support. I respect her brothers, sisters & Mother. I made it very clear to her about my views which she accepted. 20 years on we don’t have fight on this matter. We are respected in both our families and life goes on. We rush to each others help in times of need. I wish this lady would have understood her husband’s wish to accomodate his sister for 4 days. But slaping wife is not expected from such a highly educated person, neither the teacher who instigated her husband. Teachers tend to take everybody’s class including their husband’s too. May her soul rest in peace and strength to bear the loss of a family member.
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The comments also indicate that we continue to believe that the criminals can be instigated to commit crimes by victims, specially when victims can be silenced with death, or fear of death/stigma/dishonor/shame/violence.
The comments also believe that many Indian wives do not welcome visits by relatives of Indian husbands and this is seen as wrong. (It’s not mentioned if Indian husbands welcome their wives’ parents and siblings into their homes or are they too ‘possessive of their wives’)
Why do you think would someone (in general) not want some people to visit them – should everybody (or only some people?) have a say in who visits them?