What does having a career mean to a newly married Indian woman?
1. She is working towards self reliance and real choices in decisions that affect her more than anybody else, decisions in which she probably has very little say, even if she has the mental strength and will to fight for those decisions.
Financial self reliance means she would be less likely to have to choose between her parents’ home (Maika), husband’s home (sasural) or being out on the streets.
2. A support system (friends and a social life), specially in a society where married women are unlikely to find support from their parents. Many Indian parents seem to choose unhappily married daughters over unhappy sons in law or parents in laws/divorce.
For instance, Are Happily Married Daughters a status symbol in India?
3. Personal growth.
So, when a newly married Indian woman gives up her career, what else does she give up?
Why is it considered reasonable and harmless to expect a woman to give up (or change) her career to Stay Married?
Do you think the woman in this email is making a choice or is a choice being forced on her?
Updated to add this link: What do you think?
… a call from a childhood friend last evening…
She asked me a strange question; in fact, it was a strange conversation:
Her: “Is it ok for me to borrow money from my parents or my brother?”
Me: “What do you need the money for?”
Her: “Just like that, I want to keep it with me. I have no savings.”
My friend is married, with two children. [Continue to read here]