Sharing this update from the email writer who wrote:
First I apologise for such a delayed response as I was caught up in some unavoidable engagements and was out of town.
I don’t have words to express myself looking at the overwhelming response to the problem you shared on your blog. It was heartening to read such sensible suggestions from your readers. Thank you so much for the help.
I want to tell you that my friend whose problem I shared has decided to have the baby. I talked to her after I returned and brought up the topic when she told me she’ll be taking a break from work. I was puzzled by her decision as just a few days back, she was even considering leaving the marriage. The reason for this change as she told me was that her mother refused to support her decision to abort and that both her parents were absolutely against her separating from her husband. As I’ve known her parents, they are the type who hold their son in law in utmost respect. But in the end it is her decision and her life.
Thank you again.
I think it would be fair if people who took time to give their suggestions to the problem get to know the decision which my friend took.
IHM: Are you surprised by the parents refusal to support their daughter? What do you think should (or could) they have done?
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