Patriarchy and Misogyny can’t survive without controlling female sexuality.
If the society stops punishing non-patriarchal expression of female sexuality, then nobody would care that chastity is romanticised and rewarded with ‘approval’. Then rapes will be seen as crimes against people (not as crimes against honor, patriarchy or loss of virginity etc). Meaning, women will then be treated as people, and hurting them will be a crime.
We will see other changes too.
It will all begin with acknowledging that female sexuality exists.
“When did desire become a male privilege? There is so little conversation about a woman’s desire for sex that a lot of people simply assume it doesn’t exist…..
Truth is, female desire is as much a brute force as male desire….
Some of us take risks to indulge our desire. Some of us fight it, telling ourselves why this particular one is not good for us…
We probably don’t talk about what we desire enough. But we certainly think about it. So this will probably come as a surprise to you. When you proposition us, on the road, in the bus, or at a movie theatre, and we say no, we are not saying that we don’t feel any desire. We are simply saying that it’s not you who we desire.”