Sharing an email.
I’m a young single woman working as a professional. I want to share a
problem regarding my close friend who got married about two years ago.
Hers was an arranged marriage and there were no issues about her
pursuing a career after marriage. She is now pregnant with her first
child. But she isn’t mentally prepared to go through with this as it
will be detrimental to her career which is still in its formative years.
Her husband is strictly against an abortion as he wants to have
a kid. And though her mother in law wanted a gender test, her husband
strongly opposed the idea. She is considering having an abortion
without telling her husband about it. But I don’t know if that would
be the best option. It is inevitable that he would get to know about
it sooner or later.
Apart from the legal issues, where exactly do you think this problem
stands as per my friend’s married life? Should she give up a few years
of her career to save her marriage which is fine otherwise? I feel at
a loss to advise her on her problem and hence would like your views on
the matter. I don’t mind if you put this up on your blog since it
would provide a variety of sensible suggestions from your readers
which would help in solving this problem for her.
Also, I would like to know your views on whether a husband should have
a legal influence on his wife’s decision to undergo an abortion. Or even a reverse situation where a husband wants his wife to have an abortion if he is not prepared to have a child but she wants to continue with the pregnancy.
I’m still in the process of searching for the legal aspects in such situations.
Thanks and best wishes.