So an email writer shared this dialogue on facebook:
Mard khana banaye to kala hai, aurat banaye to uska farz hai — courtesy English Vinglish
What do you think of this response?
I have highlighted the parts that form a regular part of Standard Advice for Indian Women (from Family Elders and random strangers etc).
“I would suggest you should ignore such dialogues as those are inevitable in movies or real life or work place… Instead, you should watch the movie for the dialogue in the movie climax… It has reminded me about the main purpose of Gauri Devi pooja and why it is performed before marriage… I am sure you would aware of its purpose, but if not check with your elders or lemme know and I can identify the video for the details.
I know you are a strong person and do not want to debate much on this topic as I can understand/agree with your point … Ideally, one would not like to hear such comments at home or outside, but the question is, is it possible to control everyone? If not, what can you do to yourself to overcome such situations so that you can keep yourself happy most of the time and also try to bring +ve change in such people mindset with time?
If I am in your situation, I would try to compare my problem with the problems that our grandparents or parents have faced during their lives (as at least we have the opportunity to learn from their experiences) and assess to know whether it really make sense to worry about such comments or to ignore them so you can move forward in the life and accordingly build the required strength….
I know this conversation would never end and so would ask you to just enjoy the movies if your time permits :) … Let us allow the Time to clarify whether a woman should think or not that they are born to serve (i would say care) men and her kids when she get old and/or weak and when she is taken care well by her men and kids when it is very much needed… also, please inquire any single women who is in 50s to know her true feelings and then decide whether it make sense to live alone without having to serve anyone or to have a small family even if it requires some compromise.”