Khaps and Chautala claim that rapes can be prevented by child marriages. [Link]
What do Chautala and Khaps think rape is?
I am realizing that at least some Indians believe any sex outside marriage is Rape, (even if both the partners are willing and above the age of consent) and sex within marriage can never be rape – even if it is forced/coerced.
In Tehelka sting operation an NCR cop complained about women,“They’ll drink and also have sex with you. But the day someone uses force, it’s rape” His words –
‘Daru bhi peeti hai aur aap ke saath sex bhi karti hai… Jis din koi thok dega rape ho jayega‘. [Tehelka link]
Fact 1: When one of the partners is not saying Yes, it is not consent. Sex without consent is Rape. Another post on the legal definition.
Some more facts.
The Hisar gangrape – Sept 9
A Class 12 student was kidnapped, blindfolded, gagged and gang raped, while she was on her way to her grandmother’s place. The rape was filmed on cellphone. The MMS was doing the rounds.
The teen has told the police that of the 12 men who raped her, eight were upper-caste Jats. They all live in or near her village, she says she can identify them all, but only two men have been arrested so far.
11 days later her father committed suicide.
Fact 3: If it wasn’t for media and the changing attitudes towards rapes, this rape would not have been reported.
And some questions: Do you think this is one rare case of its kind or are such rapes common? What did we do to make rapists so fearless?
The Jind gangrape – Sept 21
The accused barged into the (married) woman’s house looking for her husband and when they did not find him, they brutally raped her …Her daughter stood outside the house screaming in fright. The victim said that the men made a video of the whole gruesome act and threatened to make it public if she reported the matter to the police. Link1, Link2
Fact 4 : The victim could not be blackmailed with a video in which criminals are committing a crime. This must feel like the end of the good old days (sarcasm) to rapists.
Fact 5 : When shame can’t be used to exploit women, we would see rapists being shamed. (And, blamed, convicted, punished and condemned)
Sonepat –Sept 28
The abduction and alleged gang rape of a newly-married woman in Sonipat’s Gohana. Link
Fact 6: Marriage does not prevent rapes. Fact 7: Forced sex is rape even when the victim is not a virgin.
Sonepat Sept 28
A class XI student, had gone to buy grocery from a shop when the main accused, Amit alias Kali, sent her to the adjoining godown to pick up certain items. The girl was trapped inside the godown and was raped by the four.
They overpowered the girl and raped her. They threatened her not to complain to the police. [Link]
Fact 8: The victim knew (and could identify) the rapists. Fact 9: The rapists clearly did not expect her to report. They were probably banking on Khap-style shame and honor, and expected the girl to take her own life, or be blackmailed by them.
Bhiwani – Oct 1
A 14-year-old girl was allegedly kidnapped and raped in a moving jeep near Sandwa village… The incident occurred at 7.15 pm… when the girl, a student of class 8, was on her way home. Police have rounded up two accused who claim to be known to the victim.
After committing the crime, the men returned to the village to pick up an accomplice. The girl hit one of the accused who was drunk. He fell off the jeep and she managed to escape in the confusion. [Link]
Fact 10: The girl managed to hit one of the accused. She showed presence of mind and immense courage. And she is just 14.
Instead of suggesting semi-forced and arranged child marriages, Chautala should have suggested a bravery award, free counseling and support – to encourage other rape victims to feel confident about dealing with rapists and reporting rapes.
Yamunanagar, Bhadeli village – Oct 2
Fact 11 : In 90% of rape cases the crime is pre-planned and the rapist is known to the victim.
Fact 12 : What would help is the fear of the victim refusing to be silenced with shame. And being taken seriously.
Jind district, Berlakha village. Oct 3
Human trafficker Dhanwa raped a 28-year-old woman… The woman’s in-laws had allegedly roped in Dhanwa to sell her and she was raped as her sister-in-law sent her to the village on the pretext of meeting a relative. Villagers working in the nearby fields thrashed Dhanwa before handing him over to the police after driver Gurtej Singh spotted them and raised an alarm. Link
Fact: Marriage does not prevent rapes. Rapists are rarely absolute strangers.
Fact: Cultures that support Rapists enable rape being used for silencing, blackmailing and exploiting rape-victims.
Rohtak – Oct 3
A 15-year-old Dalit girl was allegedly lured by three women relatives in Kachchi Garhi Mohalla colony of Rohtak and then raped by a youth last evening, police said. The girl was called out of her house by the accused women and was taken to an abandoned house by car on the Hisar road on the outskirts of the village where she was raped. Police have registered a case against five persons, including the three relatives of the victim and also arrested the key accused. http://articles.timesofindia.indiatimes.com/2012-10-03/chandigarh/34238088_1_dalit-girl-rohtak-narwana
Fact 13 : Rape is a crime of hate and aggression, frequently used to cause hurt. Fact 14 :
Cultures that support rapists facilitate such crimes.
Rohtak – Oct 3
A minor, mentally-challenged Dalit girl was allegedly raped… The 15-year-old was allegedly lured by three women relatives in Kachchi Garhi Mohalla colony of Rohtak and then raped by a man in an abandoned house. Link
Fact 14: When we make excuses for rapists we make them shameless and inhuman. Fact: Rapists in rape cultures are encourages to believe that they are entitled to sex, and that it’s natural to rape someone if they want to have sex.
Panipat. Oct 3
A 12-year-old girl from Panipat was abducted and allegedly raped on by a distant cousin, 25. [link]
City police station SHO Vishal Kumar said the medical examination report has been sent to forensic science laboratory in Karnal for further analysis as the department wants to be doubly sure before taking any action. [Link]
Fact: In 90% of rape cases the rapist is known to the victim.
Jind/Rohtak/Sonipat – Oct 4
A 13-year-old girl was raped by 45 year old neighbour: Police sources said 42-year-old Prakash Saini, who works at a sweet shop, barged into the teenaged schoolgirl’s house and allegedly raped her while her parents were away. Saini fled after the girl’s paternal aunt saw him raping the girl and raised an alarm. [Link]
Fact: If the aunt had not witnessed the crime, he would have attempted to use shame and fear to silence the victim,. Our culture of blaming and shaming the victims promotes such crimes.
Fact 15: It’s a myth that locking women inside homes prevents sexual crimes. Women having a voice can help control sexual crimes.
Jind Gang rape and victim’s suicide. Oct 7
…the victim in her statement to the police said that one of her neighbours Pradeep allegedly dragged her into his house while the sister-in-law of the accused kept guard standing on the terrace of the house so that nobody could come inside. Pradeep and another youth Naveen raped the teenager.
Fact: Rapists (specially in rape cultures like ours) unlike most other violent criminals, can rely on the chances of the victim either committing suicide or being shamed into silence.
Palwal: Oct 8
The horror of rape continues unabated in Haryana. A woman was allegedly raped in Mathepur village in Palwal, when she went to the fields to collect fodder. The accused ran away as the victim shouted for help. [Link]
Fact: In Rape culture rapists have no real fear of punishment.
Faridabad: Oct 10
A 20-year-old domestic maid has alleged rape by her employer, a scrap dealer. [Link]
Fact: Alleged rapists known to the victim.
Ambala – A widow was raped by her acquaintance’
According to a complaint lodged by the 30-year-old victim, Rajinder, who is an acquaintance of her late husband, brought her to Ambala on the pretext of showing her some plot, where he offered her juice laced with sedatives, they said.
After she became unconscious, the accused raped her and filmed the crime and even threatened her with dire consequences if she informed anyone about the incident. [Link]
Fact 16: Rapists look like normal people. 90% rapes are preplanned. Fact 17 :
Women do not have magical sixth sense that lets them read minds of criminals (Women are human). Indian rapists feel safe enough to rely on threatening, shaming, blackmailing and silencing the victim.
A five-month pregnant married Dalit woman – Oct 11
1. Haryana woman alleges gang rape, cops deny claim
The Kaithal police arrested two youth on Tuesday evening for allegedly gang raping a 19-year-old married woman at Kalayat town, near Kaithal. However, the district police claim that the circumstantial evidences and investigations rule out the possibility of a gang rape and that she had illicit relations with both accused since long. [Link]
Fact 18: The police in India urgently needs to have clear instructions about what to do when somebody approaches them alleging a sexual assault.
Fact 19 : Citizens should know if the police are allowed to refuse to investigate, judge, blame, name, shame, rape or make statements to the media that they (the police) are not held accountable for?
Yamunanagar. Oct 11
A 14-year-old girl was allegedly raped. As Yamunanagar district borders Himachal Pradesh’s Sirmaur district with the victim raped being raped near the border, a dispute over territorial jurisdiction between the police departments of the two states delayed the registration of the case against the accused. link
Fact: This is not unheard of. Citizens and police should both know what their rights are in such situations.
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