By lodging a complaint the girl would get undue publicity and that would adversely affect her marriage prospect.

Do you see something positive in this story from Lucknow?

This courageous father saw his daughter as more than a future daughter-in-law (dil in training) and a woman helped her.

As the society stops blaming the victims we will see more people reporting against such crimes. And nothing can be more discouraging for an Indian Street sexual criminal than finding their supporters (police, society, misogynists) being challenged.

‘…girl was returning home after attending sewing and embroidery classes on Thursday when the accused, Om Kumar intercepted and caught hold of her hand. The girl slapped the boy with the other hand and tried to break free. However, the accused tried to tear her clothes in full public view. In the scuffle, some part of girl’s shirt was torn. The girl cried for help but people in the street did not stop or caught the boy.

However, a woman came forward and covered the girl with her duppatta. The victim was also escorted to her home by the woman. Later, the girl and her father went to lodge a complaint at Khandari Bazaar police outpost. However, they were shocked when the police allegedly told them to compromise because by lodging a complaint the girl would get undue publicity and would adversely affect her marriage prospect.

I agree with this comment:

The attitude of the police is equally disturbing. Why do they behave as judges and advice settlements all the time? Is it because they want to keep the official number of crime low in records or is it the apathy towards crime against women?

Less than a month ago, another young woman in Allahabad, UP had set a stalker’s motorbike on fire.

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21 thoughts on “By lodging a complaint the girl would get undue publicity and that would adversely affect her marriage prospect.

  1. Absolutely agree..its sad and disturbing to see such attitudes of police, who instead of protecting the victims, blame them and brush them aside. Its these very condoning attitudes towards criminals that give them the power to commit the heinous crimes.

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  2. In this story, I am disturbed by the attitude of the accused as well the police. Perhaps the police is to be blamed more, considering the responsible position they are in. They can’t STOP all the crimes, but atleast they can make sure to acknowledge and respect the reporting, especially because of the strength it must have taken for the girl and her family to come forward and complain.
    (Earlier I used to think that the police in India does what it does because of the miscreants being closely associated with political or super-rich and influential families. But of late I have begun to realize that it is not just the status of the accused but also the mindset of those in uniform which is responsible. I refuse to believe that ALL police personnel are like this. But the non-‘affected’ ones should sensitize their ‘affected’ colleagues and try to bring about the change. Being the eternal optimist, I am sure that the change would happen. But it has to come from both within and outside the police force.)

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  3. //Why do they behave as judges and advice settlements all the time?
    Because it is less work for them. If a complaint is lodged, they have to move their ass and work on it. That is a reason why a lot of FIRs are never lodged.

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  4. The police are just like everyone else. They’re not different just cos they’re the arm of the law. They are brought up with the same upbringing as the rest of medieval India.
    And people who aren’t brought up that way don’t really choose to become cops as it’s a bad-paying job with a difficult and dangerous career path.

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  5. Sigh. Seriously wonder – should one stay on in this country and fight all this crap or take the easier option – move out and bring girls up in a place where they can walk on streets at least during the day while people are out and about, without worrying about which pervert will paw them next..

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  6. While talking about the accused and the police, we should also not forget to acknowledge the truth that there are actually some people who judge a girl by whether she has been assaulted in the past or not, before accepting her to be ‘fit’ for marriage.

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    • Yes, I strongly recommend that girls and parents use such things as filtering criteria. If someone hesitates in marrying you because some hooligan attacked you, you shouldn’t marry them anyway!

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  7. If the justice is not delievered properly ( which I do not expect would be ) than the girl should throw acid on the guy and burn his face down

    Only than will he never dare to repeat his action

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    • See, this is the kind of response men think they have the right to as well when they throw acid on women. This mentality in itself where one person thinks that they have the right to take the law into their own hands and harm others is what needs to be weeded out.

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      • This mentality in itself where one person thinks that they have the right to take the law into their own hands and harm others is what needs to be weeded out.

        I agree. In fact I was surprised when IHM posted about a girl burning a motorcycle when the owner harassed her – and most comments applauded the act. There’s a lot of injustice going around us, but unfortunately, it’s not like in the movies where you can take the law in your hands and expect everything to go smoothly.

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  8. An fir means work for the police. In many cases they just refuse to do so. It also means entry into crime figures (NCRB) data. Thus they dont bother.

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  9. Positivity in the story….sure.For one that woman on the road was sensitive towards the plight of the girl and came forward to support her.It is this involvement ,open expression of support towards the victim ,which is the only hope.we all know how the police behave , what’s the attitude of politician but we need to work towards our own attitudes and action as well. The incident took place in full public view still every body else except that woman did not bother to stop and intervene.If a group of people would have acted fast that one man could not have possibly harass the girl so much.But,no,it was not our problem.It was her problem and the wrong doers thrive on our apathy as a society.
    Another positive point the father and daughter went forward to assert their right to safety.Father was not worried that it might malign his daughters name ,as is the usual thought process.That is a welcome change.The police would not have dared to advise on the given line if the father was accompanied by a group of neighbors.Changes in thought process and attitudes are taking place but we need to show solidarity and social acceptance towards changing perspectives to imprint it on the minds of those in authority.we need to shake them up.

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