So, how different would the situation be if Indians did not disapprove of ‘Pub and Mall Culture’, and if Indian engineering colleges did not forbid young men and women from interacting? Or if we did not hear of bans against Parties and Valentine’s day celebrations? And if ‘girls and boys holding hands’ was not seen as going against Indian values?
It seems every other issue in Indian culture is based on just one thing, ‘Ban choice marriages and make sure every Indian girl gets married to someone the community/family has chosen for her as soon as possible, and then make sure she stays married to that person’.
The rules for men are slightly different (in general), they are welcome to party, drink, wear western clothes, sing western songs, dance to western tunes, stay out after dark, have girl friends, have sex – so long as they don’t marry someone they have fallen in love with while doing all this, they are Shravan Kumars saving the Indian culture.
Let me share some questions asked by a reader.
Another topic suggestion:In your blog in one week time we saw three women in their late 20s or early 30s forced to use the Matrimonial Ad route for an arranged marriage by the parents/family. All the three were well educated well employed, living in mega cities, living happy lives as Single women.All three had bitter experiences from the Matrimony Market but still they were trying to get married.Why? Is family pressure the only reason?Is the need for a partner to share their lives with and need for kids a factor? Do these women had/have steady boy friends? Can the lack of a boy friend be a factor?
Also ask “Why didn’t these women find a life partner by dating?”Don’t put my name pls -P
How illegal bans on Valentine’s day and birthday parties are connected with dowry deaths and sex selection.
Parents should choose the boy for a girl aged below 21, as it is they who bear the brunt of an unsuccessful marriage – Karnataka HC