Not just women who are sexually assaulted, but also men who object to sexual assaults risk being accused of ruining the Indian culture.

Gurudutt Kamath and Vijay Kumar, two of the 13 young people who were attacked, stripped and robbed in a Managalore homestay are refusing to be intimidated. They are challenging the allegations (that I found impossible understand) made by the Karnataka state Women’s Commission. It seems not just women who are sexually assaulted, but also men who don’t molest or who object to molestations are seen as ruining the Indian culture.

I agree with Bhagwad Jal Park,

“I love it when people are not ashamed of “drawing attention to themselves”. The culture of intimidation can only operate when the victims are afraid of their face being in the papers. These thugs are helpless against those who stand up for their rights and confront them publicly without fear or shame.”

Gurudutt Kamath and Vijay Kumar [Link to stories of other courageous young men who fought back similar assaults].

Support them.

Mangalore: Boy Victims Deny Manjula’s Claims, Demand CBI Probe

Mangalore, Aug 11: “We do not believe in police investigation. We want CBI enquiry, fast track court and an independent lawyer to fight the case,” said Gurudutt Kamath and Vijay Kumar, both two of the victims of the recent Padil stay home attack.

Addressing a press meet here on Saturday August 11, they explained the entire incident as it happened, and as was reported in these columns earlier, and placed forward a few demands from the central and the state governments. [link]

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20 thoughts on “Not just women who are sexually assaulted, but also men who object to sexual assaults risk being accused of ruining the Indian culture.

  1. Kamath and Kumar are as much a victim of this toxic culture that the women are, so I support them as much as I can. I can see where this ‘misleading the girls’ trope comes from, a culture where it is presumed that women don’t really enjoy sex or can’t taken part in consensual sex without being cor-erced or pressurised into it.
    It is a dangerous cultural trope, one that makes it seem morally fair to victimise women who break this ‘code’. The kind of thinking that at its extreme makes also make some men feel like women have to bought to want to have sex, that make men feel like they have to manipulate women into bed or even drug and rape them.


  2. I am glad that these two guys came forward. I wish the girls would come forward too but I think this is a very remote possibility. Hiding your face gives such people more power but if a girl tries to stand up, our society and her family will make her life miserable.
    Also, media does not care to keep such stories alive. Do we know what happened to the Guwahati molesters? They have vanished from print.


    • It disappeared from mainland Indian print, to give way to the Bodoland ethnic conflict in Assam. 300+ people massacred and 400,000 homeless is bigger and more sensational than the stale news of a 16 year old being molested outside a pub.
      There was an update in Assam newspapers today though. Gaurav Jyoti, the reporter who filmed the incident is on bail, after having been accused of instigating the attack (as per third person mobile video footage where the reporter voice shouted to the attackers, “Catch her! Make her naked!”.



        //The court accepted Neog’s bail plea, with specific conditions imposed, after hearing arguments of the former journalist’s advocates.

        Neog’s lawyers argued that he was identified by the victim girl in a test identity parade (TIP) and Neog did not deny his presence at the incident spot as he was reporting the incident. …

        Neog, who was released on two surety bonds, has been asked not to leave the city without the permission of the Kamrup chief judicial magistrate (CJM). Earlier, he was sent to judicial custody by the CJM court after three days in police remand. Altogether 15 people including Neog have been apprehended in the molestation case. The main accused, Amarjyoti Kalita, was caught by police at Varanasi. Kalita had also applied for bail, but his bail plea was rejected by a lower court. He is yet to move high court.//


  3. Good for these two men, calling the bluff of the political goon masquerading as the chair of the Karnataka women’s commission. I hope they get justice!

    I can’t help but notice that Vijay Kumar thought it was important to cut off his afro and his goatee to be ‘respectable’ in front of the cameras. A bindaas individual won’t be taken seriously by folks, of course. Sigh.


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  5. Standing ovation to these brave guys. I wish girls came forward too, but yes, the question of what will happen to their future will surface. Family and friends won’t support. And who will marry such a girl. Pity our nation, really!
    But kudos guys, yes we need to find out what happened to the perpetrators?


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  7. I wonder if we can help them in some way. I hope they know there are others who think like them and it is not a lonely battle. They will need support (moral and even financial?) if they have to continue standing up against people in authority.


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