It seems, instead of focussing on the violent attack on a birthday party in Mangalore, where 13 boys and girls were molested, stripped and assaulted in front of the media, the Karnataka State Commission for Women is focussing on “the intention of the boys” the girls were partying with,
“Did the boys, who arranged the birthday party, try to mislead the girls? Investigation and action is essential,” [Mangalore attack: Women’s panel report omits Hindu Jagarana Vedike, blames boys]
And what is seen as ‘misleading the girl’?
Does the panel suspect that boys were trying to get the girls to spend time with them, maybe they were drinking together, or that the boys were trying to get the girls to have sex with them, with or without promising to marry them?
In that case, is a girl’s safety less important than her ‘honor’ or modesty being ‘robbed’ by boys (with her consent)?
But weren’t the molesters trying to do the same thing – robbing the girls’ virtue/modesty/honor? Then what makes these male friends worse than the molesters?
The difference perhaps is that molesting does not involve the woman’s participation, since she was not enjoying, and might just commit suicide – Indian culture can still be saved.
Also, the victim’s suffering becomes a lesson for other women. (A boost for rapists’ morale)
‘Misleading’ is seen as dangerous because the woman consents, participates and is likely to go on living her life, without being ‘ruined’.
From a misogynist’s point of view, whether the women are complaining or not, if they have a sex life, they are victims.
Doesn’t make sense?
Many misogynists believe that women don’t know what is good for them. What if these boys were trying to ‘use’ them? Then who would marry them? Getting Married and Staying Married being an Indian woman’s only purpose in life, she must sacrifice freedom, safety, happiness, a sex life, self reliance, motherhood etc to Get Married and Stay Married.
So rape is seen as bad because the victim wasn’t careful enough, but consensual, premarital sex is seen as the real danger.
The way the Indian censor board allowed rape and sexual harassment scenes to be shown but banned kissing scenes, the Karnataka State Commission for Women (KSCW) would probably ignore Molesting but ban ‘Misleading’.
How do women’s commissions that don’t really seem to care for women’s happiness, safety and welfare help women? They seem to be more concerned about women’s virginity than about women’s safety.
More links to the report that dehumanizes women and treats consensual premarital sex like a crime, and ignores criminal sexual assaults,