Many Indians seem to want their clothing and etiquettes monitored by other people.
Or maybe it isn’t themselves but others that they want monitored? Double standards?
So anybody who has some power over anybody (we Indians accept some people having power over other people easily) can make rules for other people?
Some of the comments below this news article seem to think it is okay for parents to be told how to dress by the people they pay to teach their children. Or maybe they particularly dislike the nightie/maxi/gown and are glad to see it banned.
Some who despise the shapeless garment called nightie/maxi – are not fine with the school banning shorts for fathers dropping their kids to school.
A friend I spoke to said something like, “If I want my kid to go to that school so badly, I will accept whatever rules I can accept, I won’t risk my child’s well being by offending the school – somewhere in their mind will remain my objection and they might take it out on my child.”
Do you think, giving a school such authority might create a hierarchy – putting school teachers above the parents? Would this make it even more difficult for Indian parents to object to any incidents of corporal punishments or verbal abusive (both very common in Indian schools)? And if one parent does object – would other parents be too afraid for their child, to lend support? Should children see either their parents or their teachers as having authority over each other or as equal adults working together for the child’s well being?
For some, the school is banning something they have always wanted to see banned.
(The ‘Nightie’ is a misnomer, it is also called ‘Maxi’ or ‘Gown’ (derived from night-gown?) or ‘kaftan’ and is not really sleep-wear anymore. It is a loose, long garment that is easier to maintain than a sari or even a pair of jeans. The garment is favored by women in some parts of India, specially since the only other garment they are permitted to wear is the sari. Many people find the ‘nightie’ offensive because although it is not accused of making women attractive, it is not considered graceful, or formal or a day wear. I am not sure but maybe – asking women not to wear the nightie/maxi is like asking them to wear a sari.)
Here’s the news article,
Bangalore: Seven schools in Bangalore have had enough of the nightie. They’ve banned mummies from dropping off children in the morning in their nightwear.
“It is indiscipline to run out like that. I have also been trying to change this for a long time but they do not seem to understand. So it is now a rule,” said Dr Roseline, the Principal of the Ulsoor School of Academics in central Bangalore.
The dress code for school runs permits salwaar-kameezes, saris and jeans for women. Fathers cannot show up in shorts or pyjamas.
Dropping the just-out-of-bed look means a little better time management, say working parents. But “The mother is the first guru. If the mother dresses well, so will the kids. We just have to wake up a bit earlier,” said a mother.
As for children who’re often not thrilled about getting into their uniform, the new rules are very welcome. “It will be good to see them changing and get dressed for school too,” said a student, grinning.
Do you think school teachers should be involved in disciplining of the parents? How do the kids benefit from knowing that their parents are not allowed to wear maxi/nightie and shorts when they drop them to their school? (Many mothers might wear it to some other places)
Here’s a comment:
Here the question is not of shorts and nighties but the logic is can’t parents take few minutes in grooming themselves before stepping out from home to drop their kids to school?
Should children’s schools monitor how much time parents give to grooming themselves?
Here’s another comment talking about the women in the west.
In western countries too, you don’t see women in their night wear coming out to schools or markets though they are so liberal in their dress code. In Rome be Roman. Wear what is normal, just because a nightie or pyjama covers you up doesn’t mean they can be worn outside.
The women in Western countries! Women in the west wear shorts which are practical and very appropriate for Indian weather conditions, if the objection is only about etiquettes and grooming, do you think these seven schools would ‘permit’ fathers and mothers to wear clean and well ironed shorts to their children’s schools?